/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

>Have childhood friend over for dinner
>Recently got Instagram so we discuss that
>She's impressed by my lolita coords
>Talk about it more
>Take her to my closet and show her my dresses
>As in just lay them out on the bed and admire the print, lace etc
>Good times are had
>It's getting late at this point
>I suggest next time she comes over I doll her up in a coord
>She is excited and picks her favourite in a heartbeat

It's such a good feel. I don't think she will become a lolita, but her open mind for it just reassures what a precious friend to me. She is willing to try, and "gets it" enough to see why I'm so crazy in this odd alternative fashion style.

>new girl in comm is wearing a replica
>T-pose on that thot
>replica bursts into flames
>mfw she's left shrieking and naked

>>10097448
so wholesome!
i feel a little bad adding a negative feel after that lol
>no one wants to step up to plan meets. i've planned the last two in a row
>i suggest we go somewhere for valentines since we had a great meet last year
>subtly try to poke the girl who organized last year's to do this one
>a newer girl steps up and makes a reservation
>half the girls decide last minute after the reservation was made they want to bring their bf's who aren't into the fashion
>party is so big it has to be split tables

i feel like this meet is going to be lame. the girl organizing this one is my fav to spend time with at least.

I've been going to AX for a few years (although missed out on last year, couldn't get off work for it due to shitty company policy) and just got a hotel on the hotel block for the first time.

>tfw no j-fashion friends where I live

>>10097871
Same desu...

>con coming up
>3 friends will be wearing lolita
>i'll be wearing j-fashion
I just feel somewhat awkward that i'll kinda be the odd one out. j-fashion and lolita isn't very far apart, so idk why I feel this way. eh.

>getting my first coord together
>it’s going to rain and be cold the first day I plan to wear it
>don’t have enough time to buy a cute jacket that matches since tomorrow is the day I plan to wear it


At least I have long sleeves.

im sick of the recent influx of gulls screaming roleplayer and crossboarder at everything. yes, more than usual
i have more brand than you.

Man I just really love cosplay

>Haven't been to a con in 9 months
>Going to a con in a couple of weeks
>Excitement
>Getting cosplays ready
>Can't wait for con shopping

>>10097927
based

>>10097927
PT paid this anon to write this

i put in an order for a pair of tights from my slow ss but there were only 2 left in stock so i was scared they would sell out because my ss didn't do anything for a few days
so i placed an order with a fast ss with higher fees
but my slow ss bought the tights and now i have two pairs of the same tights

Hey gulls how have you guys been?

> whole community has been fractured
> no meets
> life being a beast to everyone

I'm going to actively try and host regular meets to bring some joy back to everybody. Wish me luck!

>>10098154
How did it fracture?

My life went pretty downhill last year. Right now that it’s getting better and I finally get to feel more comfortable again, I constantly get harassed by men. Be it co workers or random dudes on the street or the internet. If it were at least some decent looking ones w/a proper education but nope. And whenever I give them a no sorry, not interested, they’ll immediately jump in the you’ll never have a bf the way you dress Waggon.

> Tfw you're impatient and waiting for anything from China or Japan.
> Tfw you live with other people who get packages even more then you
> Tfw you get excited every time you see a delivery truck pulling up or a package in the mail box that could be the new jacket or figure you're expecting
> Tfw you look at the name on the package and realize no, it's not for you.

DAE just
>scroll down insta and see pretty lolitas with nice dresses
>"god I wish that were me"

>finally score gf
>bought materials for matching cosplays as a Valentines gift
>gonna make it a project to work on together
>living the magical girl power couple life
>feels good

I sent a message to a person selling something i want on LM. I sent a second after a couple of days. I don't want to harrass them but I'm just dying for an answer.
Just tell how much it costs to ship, I'm begging!

>>10098188
>they’ll immediately jump in the you’ll never have a bf the way you dress wagon
I mean, at least they're not threatening you for rejecting them. Some men are absolute garbage at taking no for an answer, and telling you that you'd never have a boyfriend because of how you dress is such a silly response it's almost funny. Next time someone tells you that, you should just respond with "Good".

>>10098440
I get worse things too, but you’re right! Actually it’s funny, because a minute ago THEY were the ones showing an interest in me. But honestly I’m feeling old, so whenever some dude tells me I’m never going to have a bf the way I dress it burns deeper into my heart.

>>10097909
I hope you still enjoy wearing your first coord anon, I bet you're gonna be adorable!

>>10098464
I feel you anon. Having said that though, you deserve to be with someone who loves and appreciates you as you are, including your fashion choices, and you shouldn't settle for any random fuckboi that breathes in your direction. You'll find the one for you eventually, and anyone that insults or attacks you for rejecting him isn't worth your time.

tfw no lolita gf to take to a love hotel

>someone who used to be really popular and is thought to be an influential lolita in my country makes a "lolita transformation video"
>it's a collab with a completely random bimbo fashion youtuber
>the title is "how to become a lolita"
>first 5 seconds of the video
>"you need to be modest, not like this!" gropes her protruding boobs
>they show some of the used-to-be-lolita's handmade dresses
>none of them look anything like lolita fashion, just fancy dresses
>bimbo puts them on with random accesories
>they keep talking about looking like a little girl
>"some of us even flatten our chests with bandages to look like we have tiny breasts"
>bimbo says "some dude invented the fashion and he even wore the dresses!" and that the most popular lolita is Misako Aoko and that she's 50 years old
>creepy old dudes in the comments keep talking about Nabokov and how bimbo is too old and s e x y to be a lolita

I want to dead, gulls

>>10098475
artist/source?

I've been wearing lolita close to ten years now, but I think it's time I called it a day. I've sold all but three of my jsks. My intention was to sell all of my prints and purchase only solids. However I've been stalking the sales for months and nothing interests me. It feels like I'm closing a chapter on my life. Feels sad.

>normie fashion is so boring though

>>10097871
>Tfw know there are people into j-fashion in my area but the comm is dead so no way to meet them and make j-fashion friends

>>10098440
>and telling you that you'd never have a girlfriend because of X
daily interaction for any 7/10 or below male, deal with it

>>10098654
>deal with it
Lmao no? Would much rather not deal with this crap, thanks.

>>10098503
If you were goth to start with try moving into aristo? Or take a break and come back. Pick up a different hobby in the meantime and give this one time to feel new again. Or hey, you could always try to design your own stuff?

>see posts about another predatory male photographer outed as a predator

Men are vile, disgusting creatures.

>>10098654
>abloobloobloo

my girlfriend and i were cosplaying from dirty pair and this girl came up and asked if we were cosplaying game grumps. i'm still really confused.

Got a package from japan, really looked forward to it. It arrives and everything is fine, so i shouldn't complain. But i got this maniaq bag and just....holy shit. the worst quality item i've ever gotten from fril, and they didn't even say that the item was damaged. it was ripped and dirty. I feel sad.

>>10098501
https://twitter.com/ace_Akira_
https://www.pixiv.net/member.php?id=25453

>>10098801
probably because game grumps released art and merch with dan and arin in the style of dirty pair fairly recently

>be an autist who spammed lolita gf memes early last year
>realize my mental health is actually fucked and I don't have enough IRL friends

Kinda strange how life works. I was even retarded enough to post my face here for some awful reason more related to /r9k/ bullshit than anything. On the bright side, my life improved a lot as a result of realizing how stupid I was being.

>>10097871
>>10097885
we have a thread for that
>>>10047467

>>10098887
>off by one
FUCK

>>10098888
Great, now look what ya did

>>10098889
/cgl/ is so slow you can miss a get by one and nearly two minutes you can still get it

>>10098887
Posted there. No bites. I live in the middle of bum fuck farmville nowhere.

>>10097437
Help friends.
I bought a cosplay, should've started working on it for a local con next month, but haven't done shit, now I want to buy an ever more expensive cosplay that might not get here in time. What do.

>>10098904
Wear an older cosplay

>>10097448
Don't do it, Anon. A friend of mine did this, and she unintentionally fell I to a dark magic ritual that slowly made her friend swap bodies with her. Soon, "her" wardrobe became her friend's, and there was no way for her to prove that they had switched places. Eventually, she began questioning her own sanity and believed that she was always her friend.

I know this story because....
I am the friend that took her spot.

>>10098935
cue X-files theme

>friend in comm looking for someone to sew her 3y old daughter a lolita dress for her birthday
>she’d arranged something with a seamstress but it hadn’t worked out and there’s only a week left before her daughter’s birthday
>offer to try and make the dress for her cheaply because it was the first time I’d be making children’s clothes so there was a chance it’d look a bit wonky
>end up transforming one of her old skirts into a tiny jsk for her daughter
>even make a tiny half bonnet with excess fabric
>jsk and bonnet turn out really cute

She’s receiving her dress this weekend, I’m so excited to see her wearing it (I really hope it fits her)!
I'm also tempted to sew some accessories or another headpiece with the last of the fabric tomorrow morning before giving the jsk back.

>>10099219
You're an actual angel, anon! Make sure to update us when she receives the gift!

Bought a pair of socks off LM. When I took them out, they looked great/no issues. Only a few months later when I was actually coording them, I noticed they were two of the same sock, so the border wouldn't show on one side. Contacted the seller hoping she might be able to work it out, she said she'd sold the same pair to her friend and was certain she had the opposite sock. Since then, it's been radio silence. Asked for updates, she told me to message her friend directly. Message her friend directly, read but no answer.

It was my mistake in the first place for not thoroughly checking them over but also sucks that the seller isn't really doing much and her friend won't answer. Doesn't she also want to swap socks ??

>Preorder Violet Fane on Etsy
>Anxious to get it delivered in time for birthday
>Updates are vague yet hopeful
>Said to be delivered in mid-February
>Try and rest easy
>Today
>Email from Etsy with Violet Fane in subject field
>Click it with the force of a glomping ita
>"You have an item to review from Violet Fane"
>It's just Etsy's review-reminder bot
>A bot which doesn't understand I don't have the item yet
>Preorder or nah, please review this product
>Bitterly close email

You know I'd love to review my dress, IF I HAD IT! Geez, I'm praying to the indie-seamstress gods that the production is running smoothly down in Spain.

>>10099219
That sounds absolutely adorable

>tfw first new Lolita dress I've bought in several years was delivered and is waiting for me when I get home
I had somehow forgotten how exciting it is to get a new dress I can't wait to go home and try it on!

>>10097927
Also
>Are you new?
Whenever someone disagrees is annoying

>>10099409
God, this.
Also how its thrown around when it doesn't made any damn sense??

people phrasing their personal opinion like its a based fact and when people don't agree or have a slightly different opinion they throw in the newfag like that'll show em, how dare they think differently on this subject when I am obviously an expert!

I don’t understand why the kawaii community is obsessed with “boi”s with elf ears, Amazon Prime wigs, pastel gore makeup, and photoshopped dorito chins. But most of my friends list stan people like that and I can’t question it.

>>10099457
I'm going to answer this, although you don't care for an answer
>“boi”s with elf ears
Elfs are cute and fake girls just want to live out there fakeboiyaoitwink fantasy. It's gross.
>Amazon Prime Wigs
Poorfags
>pastel gore makeup
A lot of lads and lasses of the kawaii community are snow flake edgelords
>Dorito chins
anime in real life.

>>10099469
No this actually helps. I still think it’s dumb, but I kind of understand it now. Thanks, anon.

>>10099469
can fakebois go away forever yet plz
yall lookin like some pre-pubescent boy and it aint cute

I'm going to die soon and I don't know what to do with all my stuff. I have a huge wardrobe, 3 closets full of lolita clothing, but I'm a lonelita and have no one to pass it onto. My mom still has to deal with the aftermath of my father's death that happened recently... I don't want to burden her with this, she won't be able to handle it. At the same time I don't have the energy anymore to even leave the house, let alone get out of bed most of the time. So I can't even motivate myself to sell just one piece of it. The guilt is (literally) killing me but I can't help it. It feels so horrible.

I really hope you gulls have prepared an emergency plan for such a situation.

>>10099484
How do you know you're going to die soon though?

>>10099492
Well, I have a few months left. That's not a lot of time in my book.

>>10099484
Hi anon.

I feel you. I'm sorry the circumstances surrounding your imminent passing are making your final months challenging. I too lost a parent long ago and suffer from an illness that is likely to see me pass sooner rather than later, though it's not yet set in stone.

You aren't the first to be in this situation, there have been several discussions I can recall since 2013.

The recommendation has often been to write a diary with the dress names, cuts and colourways, the price you paid, the price it retailed for and the average secondhand price. It will make it easier for whoever is left to sell or otherwise distribute them.

>>10099484
Anon, I'm so sorry you're going through this.

I understand that you don't want to stress your mom out, but I'm sure if you and she are at all close she would consider every moment with you precious. Would you be interested in making cleaning out your closet with her a bonding moment? You could ask her to help photograph, list, and ship the dresses out, and tell her all about lolita fashion and what made you choose those prints/designs.

Of course, your relationship with her might not allow something like this, and that's totally understandable. I do second what the other anon said; make a diary of the dresses' info and prices, and where to sell them.

>>10099504
As my mom can't into computers and doesn't know how to sell online, her only solution left would be to donate everything. She just can't let go of anything. I know she'd be hoarding my stuff for the eternity of time like she does with my fathers belongings. This is what worries me.

Still, making a list sounds like a good idea. I will write down which dresses were important to me, so she knows, in case she ever feels ready to part with some of my belongings, which items she can let go and which she can keep in remembrance of me.

>>10099512
Thanks for the suggestion. I'm not ready for conversation like this atm. But who knows, when time comes.. I'll keep this in mind.

>>10098654
Oh, you're still here? How sad.

>>10099219
that's fucking adorable, you're a sweetheart

>>10099518
That does make it more difficult. Definitely write your favorites down. I'm sure it will bring your mother joy with the sadness when she looks at them.

I'll be thinking of you. I don't believe in an afterlife, but part of me hopes we somehow cross paths. Along with some of the others we've lost over the years.

>>10099484
Firstly, I'm really sorry anon. I hope you'll be able to fully enjoy your time and let go of the grief a bit.
Personally, I made a .doc for it with a spreadsheet. I put a (stock) picture of the item in it, then the brand, the name and the price and also started a LM account where I slowly put up listing drafts.
And also helps to talk with your mom about it and make your wishes clear.

>>10099484
Firstly, I'm really sorry anon. I hope you'll be able to fully enjoy your time and let go of the grief a bit.
Personally, I made a .doc for it with a spreadsheet, printed it out and put it in my closet. I put a (stock) picture of the item in it, then the brand, the name and the price and also started a LM account where I slowly put up listing drafts.
And also helps to talk with your mom about it and make your wishes clear.

>>10099409
I'm also sick of the political sperging out of no where. People need to keep what shit on tumblr or /pol/.

>>10099256
Her friend probably never noticed.

>>10099484
I wish I could die in your place. I want to commit suicide (not a temporary thing - told myself since I was 14 that if I still feel the same by 30 I'd bite the bullet JUST to make sure and give things as fair of a shot as possible, and I turn 30 in summer). I always think about how unfair it is that I can't just donate the rest of my lifespan to someone who actually wants to live. My emergency plan is already in place though - I've pissed away 3/4ths of my life savings in presents for others and I'm gradually giving stuff away for very cheap so as to not raise suspicion.
>Oh I'm just too lazy to deal with selling so just thought I'd put it up for a good deal to get it out my closet, lol

a fat ita stole an ugly purse i was trying to get rid of for cheap. i'm not even mad, i'm just letting her have it because being a slob who can't spare a buck must be miserable.

>really try to do it all right
>fuck up anyway
>no time to go back or catch your breath
>tfw

>>10099484
Have you tried getting in contact with some hospice people? It's not a great idea but the only way i can imagine to find people who might know how to help you find a way to deal with your current situation. At worst they tell you you've come to the wrong people. At best they help you sort your clothes and get ready for the hereafter.

I hope your final days are peaceful and fun, anon.

>usually go to one comic and one anime convention each year
>cosplay lineup for comic con is full
>want to cosplay another western character
>plan to do so on one day of the anime convention
I know it's not against the rules or anything (heck, there's a Marvel photoshoot I'm planning on going to) but it still feels gauche somehow.

I have a single shirt that's my favorite and it's all i want to wear everytime i get dressed. How do other anons not just wear their favorites over and over again?

>>10099904
I do. Who cares.

>>10099904
Just... wear it? remember to wash it when needed tho

I’m heavily considering picking up a weekend job on top of my regular FT day job. I’m sick and tired of not being able to buy dresses and other wardrobe items, or having to pass on my dream dresses when they pop up because I can’t afford it. I’m also $1700 in credit card debt too, so that’s really fun. I’d probably hate my life and be really depressed and stressed out, but I’m willing to do anything and sacrifice my mental health for lolita.

Found a porn where I was able to ID a popular lolita. It's very recent, too.

>>10100028
hint as to who it is please

>>10100032
Feel like it'll lead to vendetta if I hint. She browsed /cgl/ though, so if she sees this I hope she knows who she is. It was done like last year.

>>10100027
Set your priorities straight anon!

You have ridiculous debt, and it's eating you alive. Sacrifice your short term mental health to clear your debt, not for lolita. When you've accomplished that, then you're able to think about spending again. Getting an extra job is a good idea, but all excess earnings should go into clearing your debt. Atone for your past sins and take a step back from your possible shopping addiction. It's good for you to hate your life and be stressed out when paying off your debt. Instead of alleviating that hell by buying new clothes, imagine the freedom and joy you'll get when debt free. Staying in debt is bound to make you an eternal poorfag. Climb out of hell, as arduous as it will be, and join the land of the living once more. The lolita will wait for you.

>>10100053
Not that anon but fuck I needed to hear this too.

>>10100027
If you're $1700 in credit card debt, the last thing you need to be thinking about is buying dresses.

>>10100028
Post on lolcow please? I'm curious.

>>10100062
Fully aware of this. I routinely get stuck in cycles of self-medicating with buying things, it’s just a matter of getting out of this loop, which I probably need to go to therapy for.

>>10100076
I was tempted to but she's such a nice person otherwise, I don't really want to tarnish who she is. It was surprising to me. Especially since I'm totes gay for her so I'm still just conflicted in whether I should be disappointed in her or supportive. I cooled down since making my original post when I kinda came off from hatewatching it on repeat a few times. I almost regret posting it now cause I don't want people looking for her but I can't delete it now (power hungry janitor, please hear my prayers)

After the holidays now I want a nerdy black gf

>>10100098
same, where's my cosplayer gf to cosplay all my otps with me?

>>10100078
>self-medicating
Stop calling it that, it's a fucking shopping addiction. Coping with buying shit, which only gets you in deeper trouble is not normal or "treating yo self".

>>10100107
Allow me to re-phrase myself: yes I KNOW I have a fucking shopping addiction. No shit. And no I’m not ~treating mahselfs~ I realize I’m digging myself into a deeper hole. Thanks for re iterating what I literally already fucking said.

>40 people watching my listing on lacemarket
>not a single bid

;___; I just want to sell this dress

>>10100115
Chill gullfriend, please. When reading closely you're right, you say self medication and therapy in the same sentence, which does imply it's a problem and not a solution. You're aware that you have a shopping addiction, which is good.

But take note that you started this chain of replies with your sad/frustrated feel of wanting to get a second job to be able to buy more dresses. You were literally voicing your lolita need/greed before mentioning your deep debt problem as a side note. You write that you're ready to suffer for your lolita hobby, not your debt. The way you've expressed yourself paints a picture of someone in denial, just like those annoying ~treat yo'self~ "philosophers" who don't take account for the full picture. We don't know everything about you. By what you've given us to know it seems very feasible to get a second job, but for the opposite reason that you yourself said you're willing to suffer for.

>>10100057
Stay strong Anon. I'm happy you could get something out of my post.

>>10100127
What's the dress?

>want sleeping garden
>correct cut but least liked color
>correct color, wrong cut and damaged
I'm so impatient. I just want it to show up.

Tfw you have to lock up your brand because of an awful sibling that goes as far as to steal underwear and electric shavers.
Then hides behind your parents who will never do anything about it even though it's clear theft and perversion.

>>10100224
How old is she?

>tfw tell mom the company I applied for that I really want to work for doesn’t have any positions available until August at the earliest
>she asks where is it and I say Japan
>she ughs
>tfw dad who is always home on disability will make fun of your outfits and tsk at them
Living with parents while you job and place hunt is suffering. Cheap rent but can’t be alone with my cute clothes.

>>10098713
As a man these days, what society doesn't teach us anymore is self control. It's no surprise that feminism is on the rise, and we should be acknowledging why it's gaining validity, but the irony is that loads girls who call themselves feminists encourage poor male behavior with their own sexual immorality, thus exacerbating the problem.

Con creeping is abhorrent though, but what do you honestly expect when you put a bunch of manchildren and overgrown girls together in one building? Sure, not everyone involved is immature, but a lot of adults who like bright and flashy cartoons, comics, and video games, have major maturity problems.

>>10100233
>guy trying to get pussy by pretending to be a feminist
Shut the fuck up, please. We all see what youre doing. Youre just as much as a neckbeard.

>>10100224
>perversion.
A dude sibling?
You can either lock it up and rise above it, or you can destroy their shit and see how they like it.

>>10100237
Destroying their shit can lead to escalation tho. Siblings can be petty mfers, especially if they know they can get away with it.

>>10098105
Same, but I got blouses.

>place order with slow ss who has lower fees
>no reply the hour before the pre-order closes
>message expensive ss to grab some
>both of them invoice me at the same time for the same order
>panic, pay for both
>blouses arrive three weeks later
>receive the pink blouse in two different tones of pink??????

There was only one 'pink' option so I'm not going to be buying any more Little Dipper chiffon pieces. They couldn't even make their pink blouse consistent.

>>10100234
This is 4chan. I have no prospects or hope of getting a date by being on here and expressing my candid feelings. If I wanted to chase girls, there are a thousand better ways for me to be doing that, and moreover, the crux of my argument is that I believe a major portion of the problem is porn addiction and fornication. I know you're probably going to bash me no matter what I say, and I don't care. The ultimate point I am stressing regarding feminism, is that while I disagree with you in principle about hating men, I can see pretty plainly why you would. The problem is that it takes two to tango, and your fellow ladies who oblige shitty men and their perversions are part of the problem too. There are good men, good women, and bad men, and bad women. Full stop. The reason for this discord between men and women is sexual immorality and a culture shift towards instant gratification.

>>10100224
I know it probably won’t solve anything but you can always place a hidden camera in your room to catch him in the act.

>>10100269
Im actually not a feminist. Im very anti third wave feminism.
But I am more suspect of Male feminsts because theyre invariably a bunch of creeps.
Any guy who thinks most men are predators who lack self control are usually exactly that.

I have a heavy schedule this semester and took a class over winter break and didn't have enough time to work on cosplays for Katuscon, but it looks like everything will be done with time to spare! We also had a bunch of drops in the room so there's actually going to be some room to exist in there. Plus, my tax return came in and I was able to cover rent for March, paying off my credit card for this past statement, putting into savings, and have more for spending at the dealer's. It's a great feeling!!!

>>10100224
Pee on your underwear, that'll teach him! Imagine the look on his face when he steals your undies, takes a deep whiff expecting your sweat scent, buy ends up getting the smell of piss, LMAO!!! I BET THAT WOULD GET HIM TO STOP! Imagine the smell! Lol.

>>10100282
I won't lie, I myself am struggling with pornography addiction, but I'm not afraid to admit that I have problems that I need to fix. I'm not going to sit here and say that all men are predators because that's simply not true, but most young men and boys nowadays aren't taught to control themselves as well as we used to, and part of that problem is how readily available porn is. The problem manifests in our own sexual thoughts and desires, and it's pervasive among modern men, plain and simple. I agree with you on modern feminism, that it idiotically worsens the issues they routinely complain about because they're in denial over the fact that their "empowering" immorality is half of the problem ("muh slut shaming women / men behave like pigs doublethink")

I've been thinking like this because I went from being a lonely member spamming tfw no Lolita gf memes last year, to asking myself why I was posting those memes and why I felt like I was romanticizing this niche that had no actual meaning beyond the fact that the aesthetic appealed to me.

Sorry for the blog post aspect of this, but I'm stressing that when I make the observations that I do, it's because I saw a lot of these societal problems in myself and that I accepted I have to be brutally honest with myself if I ever want to improve my life. Again, I don't really care about saying shit to get laid or try and attract girls with this kind of thought. The only way that seems to be appropriate as it pertains to dating is:
>Respect yourself
>Be patient

And you'll meet someone nice sooner or later. I'm not in a rush to meet a girl, because I know that in the end, that problem will most likely sort itself out. I just have to keep living my life and when I don't expect it, I'll get an opportunity.

>Sorry for blog post
I just came back to /cgl/ because a friend of mine posted about some con drama I wanted to check out, and then I wound up reflecting on how ignorant and immature I was on here last year.

>>10100319
You're a fucking moron.
Guys who learn self control end up the beta bottom of the barrel orbiters. They end up holding back and respecting women too much, only to see that men who don't hold back are the ones winning the fancy of these girls. And most of the time it isn't even because they wouldn't have a chance with the girl they're orbittig, they just respect them too much to make the bold moves necessary to progress out of the comfort zone.

I can say this from experience. As someone who didn't lose his virginity until 29 years old because I respected women so much, because I had self control and never wanted to make "scummy" moves that felt selfish. Know where it led me? Into an endless cycle of getting really involved with girls that eventually find other partners and then admit later down the line
"Oh, I liked you a lot back then but we never hashed things out properly."

Evey time I was sure a girl liked me, I'd step back for a moment and try to prevent myself from being a "pig" so would keep myself from flirting or making meaningful advances. Then I stopped caring. As in, I still cared for women, but I stopped caring about holding back. I did things that younger me would have been ashamed of, but it was showing results. Suddenly I was able to snag girls with ease. I started being a "predator" and was finally happy. I didn't lack the looks or core personality to attract women, just lacked the mindset.

Why does this keep happening?

>>10100344
I'm sorry is that david tennant holding a blob fish while looking mildly disgusting?

>>10100350
*disgusted

>>10100319
Disgusted but not surprised to know that I'm not only sexualized by pedos, but by men who want a "traditional", "conservative" girlfriend. Lolita may be more conservative than mainstream fashion, but it takes a bold individual to wear it proudly. If anyone else is lurking thinking we're all Stepford wives or even hetero at all, please go away.

Glad you're working on your addiction, anon. I agree that there are issues with porn and porn consumption, but I don't think the answer is banning it to be clear. People need to access better sex education resources and understand porn is a fantasy. I do think having so much free porn available is a problem, from both an a pervasiveness/addiction perspective and a pay-your-actors-better perspective. Much of what gets uploaded to free sites is stolen from paid sites or from private, paid shows without permission.

>>10100319
>most young men and boys nowadays aren't taught to control themselves as well as we used to
So it's someone else's fault that men have no self control?
Besides that, I agree with everything you said. But men need to take responsibility for the toxic culture they encourage. Porn didn't just spring up to mindfuck poor men into being worse individuals, it's a problem they caused.
Grats on coming to terms with your own immaturity, but men have to collectively realize that they encouraged this culture before they start bettering themselves. They won't, though, and the civility between the sexes will continue to break down.

>>10100339
> sexual predator and proud

We can tell this one has a porn addiction because he's not only getting off on the fantasy, but he thinks the fantasy is real life.

>>10100339
See, I actually want to get married and stay committed to the same woman for my entire life, and raise kids. You also inferred things I didn't say in my post about my approach towards women. I mean to say that I'm not going to behave like a desperate or sex obsessed faggot who has to copulate with anything that moves, or even just be desperate enough to seek out a relationship so badly that I wind up lowering my own standards. I am pretty forward with girls I like, sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. You sound like you were bad at being assertive and in control of your relationships with girls, and so you wound up getting dumped repeatedly. Most of my girlfriends, I actually wound up breaking up with amicably because I didn't feel like we had a future together. I'll admit, I haven't had too many girlfriends, but I'm not in a rush to try and get married and have sex. Those things are only complimentary to finding a girl who I get along with really well and makes a good companion for me, so that our relationship makes us both better people. Beyond that, I don't care about getting laid because I've got bigger immediate plans, like advancing in my career, improving my life habits, and training my musical talent.

You greatly misunderstand what it really means to have self control and equate it with cowardice. I just don't lose my shit at every girl I see nowadays, and when I do get interested in a girl, I just ask her out and go from there. If she's unhappy with the fact that I want to abstain from sex or something, that's fine, we just weren't meant for each other then. All's fair in love and war.

I'm just letting you know that there's a line between being a beta orbiter and being a predator, it's not a dichotomy or something, and sex isn't the only end goal.

>>10100354
Well if you consider how young most boys were when they first got introduced to and hooked on porn, you'll see it spreads like a mental disease. I was 12, and I know plenty of other guys who were 10 or younger when they first got hooked. You do have to own up to your own actions, but the truth is that our society makes it harder to abstain from this behavior by placing opportunities to falter behind every nook and cranny. Furthermore, most parents don't understand this problem yet or how it reaches kids while they're still too stupid to realize what they're getting into. So here, I'd say you've got the right principle, but you oversimplify the problem. It's like with obesity in society, only you can fix your weight problems, but the TV to the streets outside are filled with messages and temptation to eat crappy food.

>>10100363
>I want to get married and stay committed to the same woman

So did I, you dense fuck. It doesn't work that way. You're not going to know who the "right" one is unless you actually explore your options, dipshit. Real life isn't a fuckin anime. You bang a bunch of chicks and find one who sticks. They're doing the same thing, dipshit. You're the beta fag who someone in their 30's settles for after she's fucked around her whole life to "explore herself and be unrestricted" before the crippling loneliness seeps in on them. You're probably still young. I'm 35. I've had long lasting and fulfilling relationships. I've also had lots of casual flings. With each one I became more confident in what traits I look for in women, what signs to look for when avoiding women, and how to actually give them what they want. You're not going to get that experience at the rate you're going, from the sounds of it.

What the fuck happened to this thread

>>10100380
Men.

>>10100363
That's cool and all, but you should evaluate why you're addicted to porn and constantly single and reconcile them with your naive perspective of the world and relationships. Just saying. Most guys who get action on the norm don't form porn addictions even if they start porn at a young age.

>>10100383
Ah

Lmao I bet the people getting their panties in a bunch are the ones offended by Trump's "grab em by the pussy" line without understanding the context behind it. Yeah, when you're someone they want (and you gauge this through social awareness) you CAN grab em by the pussy without asking and they WILL let you because they want it. You have to be confident, attractive, and not autistic enough that you misread clear social cues of mutual attraction. It's only sexual assault/predatory action when you lack any of those qualities. Otherwise you'll succeed in "predatory" actions 100% of the time.

>>10100380
Men.

>>10100392
>and not autistic enough that you misread clear social cues
>men
>being this fucking dense

>>10100392
>all lolitas want their skirts fondled

>>10100400
YOu touch my brand I will bite you hand right off.

>tfw men assume lolitas are sexless stepford wives just because we dress modestly

>>10100406
I've lurked this board long enough to know better, no worries.

>>10100400
>All cows want their milk drunk

>>10100402
Yeah but what if I'm not autistic enough to misread social cues? If you look at me and then look away, you're just being coy. I know when lolitas like me.

>>10100406
I assume they're all lesbians

>>10100410
You touch my brand I will bite your hand right off.

>>10100339
>I get laid now because I’m a sexual predator

>>10100410
nice roleplay m8

>>10100378
Let me guess, you're still not married. I aspire to live a virtuous life regardless of the societal consequences, but I'm telling you now, I'm not a beta like you assume I am. Sure, society may not allow my life to turn out like my dreams and aspirations envision them, but if I live right, what does that matter? When you die, your deeds stick with you, as the book of Revelation talks about. I have faith that everything will turn out alright, and that doesn't mean just sitting back passively until magically things work out one day, but it does mean living by God's teachings and acting within them. You don't need to believe what I believe, but I'm not afraid of the consequences of following my beliefs. All I care about is the truth, and I cannot accept that the key to finding love is by using your pair bonding and procreation mechanism as a metal detector looking for buried treasure.

>>10100432
Nice reading comprehension. It was sarcasm.

>>10100436

is tis /cgl/ or /r9k/?
ANYWAY
I have so many things in the mail and none of them are going to get here in time for katsu.
I wanted to wear a red cardigan I ordered with honeycake cause it's usually a summer coord for me.
Buuut the seller shipped only today despite me ordering/paying for it it last week.

>>10100440
If you want to be mad about it, then please, sperg away.

>>10100386
The problem is that my issues obstruct getting a good relationship, because porn addiction is an antisocial behavior, so while I've got to try to live normally, the recovery process is still ongoing and the best thing I can do is just fake it until I make it in public, while privately I work on quitting.

>>10100453
anyways this isnt the place for your porn addict recovery rants. take your angry friend with you and go to a different board.

this thread

>>10100456
The other guy is an old, jaded loser.

>>10100316
Subtle.

>>10100378
>spouting "cock carousel" and other redpill rhetoric

>>>/r9k

>>10100267
On the flip side, you now have more options to match your pinks.

How odd looking would a cosplaying slav guy be

>>10100538
>Implying Russia doesn't have an active cosplayer base

Bro, they are probably just as active as us, they just post in Russian and wear their adidas tracksuits while they craft.

>>10100548
Was just thinking that a tracksuit wearing Vergil would look a bit odd, since I'm not doing the generic expected cosplays(STALKER, Metro etc.) but now that you mention it, I might as well.
Thanks, chief.

>>10098713
Like girls aren't capable of it to? I was raped by my friends cousin when I spent the night. She told him and his sister the next day about it to. They all just had a laugh about it just called my mom and asked to be picked up.

>>10098713
>>>/r9k/

>>10100556
Girls really aren't though, like you never ONCE hear about a creepy woman photographer preying on cosplayers, and all the "Cosplay is not consent" signs are never for women, it's for guys. It's to PROTECT women.

>>10100565
mm they're out there. less reported but it happens. maybe less likely as con photographers
>im a girl who was sexually harassed by another girl

>>10100571
Sure, but they're not as big a problem as men are. And the reason why they're not taken seriously is because of those same men.

>>10100233
>Con creeping is abhorrent though,

You should have just stopped right there. For fuck's sake. There are no fucking excuses for being a creep.

I WILL get a /cgl/ girlfriend.

It'll be never 2008 ever again :^)

>>10100392
>being a sexual predator is okay

What fucking board am I on?

>>10100585
A tragedy we must live with every single day.

>>10100578
I wasn't making excuses, I was just observing that there seems to be a reason that this bullshit is so prevalent in the con community seemingly

>>10100581
You don't want a /cgl/ gf, you just want a gf who happens to cosplay. The difference could save your life

>>10100595
Don't act like women are part of the problem though. It's all creepy neckbeard manchildren with no social cues. Women are just their victims.

>>10100596
I know very well what I meant.

>>10100585
>>10100591
>DeviantArt is long dead
>ACParadise is long dead
>every forum you ever posted on is long dead
>4chan's largely gone to shit

>>10100597
Momokun exists and there are more girls like her

>>10100600
Fine, I'll revise. Don't act like women are an equal part of the problem. Sure, there may be a few that are bad, but who do you think makes up the rest? Creepy garbage men, predatory photographers, autistic neckbeards with no sense of personal space. They're the ones making the con scene awful for everyone.

Its still going.
Jannies where are thou?

>>10100585
delet this

>>10100606
I agree with your assessment. I wasn't commenting on the perpetrators of assault, however, I was just trying to characterize cons as like a lite version of an insane asylum. I don't want to be mean spirited, but since we're on the topic of it, there's just a shitload of autistic bullshit at cons because they're attractive to those types of people. Therefore, cons themselves need to find a way to filter some of these creepier / worse freaks out.

>>10100608
>2019
>being an internet tattletale

>>10100616
How could we do that though? I'm actually curious. I would like cons to be a better place and not filled with such garbage because people go to these things to have a fun time, not to be preyed upon by some autist dude.

>>10100617
no one likes this dumpster fire of a thread the way it is
look into your heart you know it to be true
less tattle tale and more like pull the god damned trigger and put it out of its misery

>>10100618
Crack the fuck down on con thots. The shit I'm hearing about prostitutes cosplaying at cons is fucking ridiculous. Even if that's not a big problem, the regular e-thots who encourage bad behavior need to be put on notice. Beyond that, you're the woman, what would you do with generally skimpy costumes? I personally feel like they should be regulated in some manner, but I'm not sure how you could properly regulate skimpy outfits or if that's even viable. All I remember is just when cons went mainstream, the main draw was for guys to be like "YO BRO, CHECK OUT THESE GIRLS WEARING SKIMPY CLOTHES, AND THIS GIRL IS DRESSED UP LIKE YOUR WAIFU HOLY FUCK", and to that extent, the defacto ostracization of predators from the scene to enforce better behavior is great, but I feel like there needs to be airtight policies to hold people accountable, especially men. Finally, I do want to point out that I find sexy costumes inseparable from attracting the wrong kind of attention in the first place.

>>10100635
So you hate women, got it. Let them cosplay whatever the fuck they want, it's not their problem that creeps hit on them and weird them out. It's the fault of those men who can't and don't understand social cues.

This thread is going to get nuked or purged again
i s2g

Applied to the KawaiiKon fashion show and am waiting to get accepted or rejected lmao. Did anyone else apply?

tfw you see glimpses of PT in your face when you check the waist-level mirror pics you took of yourself so you just hide your face with the phone for insta

I have a stomach thing going on so I bought some pedialyte to keep my hydrated so I'm not sicker longer.
I put it in my angelic pretty water bottle, what my co worker said looks like a baby bottle.
I feel like an age player now... I feel like this has made me sicker than the actual stomach flu.

>>10101036
What does your water bottle looks like? If it's just pastel pink with whatever typical AP print on it then your coworker is retarded, pay them no mind.

>>10101038
Yeah, that's pretty much all it is. I love my coworker but yeah.

>>10101039
Maybe I'm retarded myself but I don't see what the issue is. Don't take their comment to heart, it's really cute! I hope you feel better soon!

>>10101043
Thank you! The stomach flu may not be very kawaii, but at least my water bottle can be.

>get invited to lolita meet
>don't own any lolita pieces
is it ok to go to a lolita meet without wearing lolita. I want to own some, but haven't found anything I like that is also affordable and fits me :/

>>10101074
Who invited you? Do they own lolita that you could borrow? Why would yo u even be invited if you don't own any?

>>10101076
>Who invited you?
My friend who is part of the group.

>Do they own lolita that you could borrow?
no :/
I have a j-fashion pieces though, is that close enough?

>Why would yo u even be invited if you don't own any?

because i'm the person who told my friend about lolita and she doesn't want to go alone without knowing anyone. Its her first in person meet.

>>10101098
To be blunt, neither you nor your friend should attend a lolita meetup if you don't own any lolita clothes. You can explain the situation to the host and ask if you may attend wearing whatever jfash you do own, but don't show up wearing whatever you want without making sure it's okay first.

>>10101074
No you can't go to a lolita meet without wearing lolita. The same logic applies to any meeting specifically for an interest or hobby, it's common sense.

>>10099548
Agreed

>>10100027
Pay your debt off first! It's not as bad as some other people's. You can pay it off in six months if your diligent. That's like a brand new dress a month and a much better investment.

>>10101039
Oh fuck that, I have this same exact one and it's my favorite. It goes everywhere with me- gym, work, etc. Don't think it looks like a baby bottle though, your coworker sounds dumb

>>10101104
>The same logic applies to any meeting specifically for an interest or hobby
does it? Idk any other hobby meetups that require you to wear or own a certain thing.

>>10101114
For comparison, you can't attend an itabag meetup without an itabag, and attending a cosplay meetup for a specific series while wearing jeans and a t-shirt and insisting on being involved in photos with the cosplayers would get you equally baffled and disapproving reactions.

>>10101098
If your friend is wearing Lolita I'd say it's probably okay as long as you make sure it's ok with the organizers first if you're mostly just going so that your friend isn't meeting a bunch of strangers alone. If neither of you is going to wear Lolita then i would wait until you have any Lolita before going to a meet. Even if they're okay with neither of you wearing Lolita if you do go you'll probably feel pretty out of place.

>Wunderwelt order finally comes in
>New jsk fits me perfectly
Feels good
>New blouse is too small
Feels bad

I’m working two jobs on top of having a third job in a profession most lolitas disapprove of (rhymes with corn). I’d never mix the two because I’m not some ageplayer piece of shit but I still feel like some day someone will find out and I’ll have to stop doing something that gives me extra income. And, despite the extra income, working so much means I have zero time for lolita...

>>10101206
She is wearing lolita and has just messaged the organizer. I'd definitely leave if I feel out of place. I'd mostly just want to at least meet and talk to the local community.

>buy dream dress knowing it won't fit me to motivate me to lose weight
>actually lose the weight and it fits beautifully now

>>10101324
That's how you do it, anon! Good for you!

>Find wishlist dress in correct colorway
>"Nice! I'll be able to buy this!"
>Haven't been keeping track of my purchases recently
>Managed to spend more than I expected
>Don't want to dip into my savings in order to buy the dress because it's being sold for $100 more than the original price anyways
>Check website more
>Two other wishlist dresses went up overnight and have already been sold
This is the first time this feel has happened to me, though I imagine it's a very common feel. This fucking sucks.

>>10101114
Why wouldn’t a hobby meetup require you participate in that hobby? Would you join a knitting circle to not knit?

>>10101502
lolita isn't a physical activity. I've never been to a meet so my idea of what a meet is is basically like a fan club. You can be a fan of, say, basketball, without have ever played it yourself.

>>10101535
It's not a fan club though, lolita meetups are an opportunity for the community members to dress up and get together to have some fun and make new friends based on their common interest in the fashion.
>inb4 "b-but I'm interested in lolita too why can't I attend if I don't wear it??"
Because discussing the fashion with someone who likes it vs. with someone who actively wears and participates in it are two completely different things, and lolita communities are dedicated to the latter.

>>10101535
>>10101540
Sorry, forgot to add: To use your comparison to basketball - Lolita communities (especially local ones, rather than global ones like Rufflechat) are more like clubs for basketball players, not basketball fans. You can join the discussion on Rufflechat as an outsider, but you'll likely be turned away from your local comm unless you're a lolita yourself.

>>10101544
depends on the comm. my comm is super newb friendly and will let anyone come to meets if they are interested in wearing lolita and wears a semblance of a coord. i wish it were stricter but then i guess there'd only be like 4 people at meets. gotta love small towns.

>>10101540
>Because discussing the fashion with someone who likes it vs. with someone who actively wears and participates in it are two completely different things

in what way?

>>10101554
I know, that's why I said "likely" instead of "definitely".

>>10101555
There are certain things like purchases, frustrations, experiences, thoughts and feelings and even terminology that are directly tied to the fashion and to wearing the fashion that people who don't actively wear it won't understand, and it's much easier to talk about these things with someone who understands them from personal experience.
If we take terminology for example, it might not seem like such a big deal if you don't immediately understand the meaning behind a sentence like "I wanted to wear my AP OP with my SS TPS today, but my BTSSB OTKs are at my boyfriend's house", but understanding small and seemingly insignificant things like terminology right off the bat can be the difference between conversations that flow well and having to constantly stop and explain yourself to the person you're talking to.

>>10101564
>There are certain things like purchases, frustrations, experiences, thoughts and feelings and even terminology

but I have all of that. I've bought lolita, had frustrations (they sent me the wrong size and ran out of the larger size I need, thus why I don't own any right now), know all the terminology. You don't have to currently wear lolita to know/experience all that.

>>10101571
Have randos on the street commented on your frilly clothes in a way that made you happy/sad/scared? Have you felt joy from small silly things like seeing how perfectly your dress poofs out with the right petticoat, or how surprisingly nicely your whites match? Have you ever felt satisfaction when you found that one piece that's perfect for a coord you had in mind, or felt frustrated when you couldn't find one so you asked someone at a meetup for their advice or opinion, and they actually offered something helpful?
It's difficult to explain and summarize why simply knowing about the fashion vs. actively wearing it are completely different things, especially in one comment on an Indonesian basket weaving forum. Your one failed experience buying the clothes is a start, but it doesn't make you a lolita, nor does it make you knowledgeable about it.

>>10101579
I know more about and have more lolita related stories/experiences than my friend who just bought her first dress a few months ago and only wore it once, and only even knows what lolita is because of me.
idk, just weird to act like unless someone owns a dress, then they can't possibly have anything of value to add.

>>10101587
As another anon mentioned, some comms do accept newbies and other people who are interested in the fashion but don't actively wear it, as long as their interest is genuine. You can hit up your local comm and see if they accept you if you haven't yet; they might, and they might even allow you to attend their meetups before you have your first coord because some comms do that. But as was also mentioned before, some comms are more exclusive and allow only established lolitas to join and strictly enforce their dress code for meet ups, and you can sit here and argue all day about how you totally know more about the fashion than your friend so the fact you don't wear lolita doesn't matter, but it's not going to change anything in reality.

I'm not going to act like I have 100% together but a lot of con friends are well into their twenties and thirties and cannot act like adults. They talk about being broke and not affording rent but go out to eat all the time and buy a bunch of cosplay stuff. Then you go over to their place and it's like an 18-year-old lives there with shit strewn everywhere.

Is it too much to ask for people into this shit not to be so goddamn immature?

Remember when you were young and broke and wanted to go to every con, and buy everything but couldn't? Now I'm older and far more financially secure but don't have the time to do all those things now.

That shit sucks.

>>10101607
>tfw tired of friends being NEETs and having to pay for their trip to cons with me
>tfw they now have jobs and don't have time to go to cons

>>10101535
Wearing the fashion and the experience that comes with it is the activity. By your basketball analogy, sure you can be in a fan club without playing the game but you can’t expect to make the team can you?

By your logic you can start a lolita ‘fan club’ to watch everyone else wear the fashion but it still doesn’t a lolita make. Just because you know slightly more than your friend who knows literally nothing doesn’t give you the lived experience that exclusive communities run for established lolitas require.

If you’re truly interested in joining the subculture start by actually wearing the fashion instead of expecting your totally not lolita specific struggles of buying clothes online to equate to you actually participating in a fashion based subculture that requires nothing from you but to actually wear the fashion and know what you’re doing.

>tfw no amount of brand or expensive makeup will make you pretty

should have spent all that dosh on plastic surgery desu

Big salt incoming, I'm insanely jealous of Lolitas with lots of disposable income who build fairly complete wardrobes in a short space of time.

I started lolita in my mid teens, we were a bit poor at home but alright, and my heart would ache seeing people buy so many things so quickly, especially back in 2009/10 when it was even tougher to find good deals online. I'd watch posts by people big wardrobe's like herajika, lunie etc and my heart would sink.

I'm in a better financial situation now and I have a stable income and enough to build my wardrobe properly, but I've been working on it for almost ten years at this point, because I'd usually need to sell something to afford something new before my current job.

Even now, progress is so slow. I just saw an Instagram story if someone who built what looks like a complete and large wardrobe in roughly two years, and I feel frustrated.

Despite this salt, I don't begrudge any rich lolitas what they have. I just admire and hope I can find all my DDs someday.

>>10101716
I'm one of those lolitas (albeit it's more like 6 years). I can imagine it sucks having to space it all out and budget and being unable to afford what you want, when you want it.

If it helps I find those who have to spend their money carefully make better choices and usually have a better idea of how to coord pieces multiple ways and are more conscious of how complete and polished their look is. Furthermore the lolitas in this position in my local are some of the best dressed and kindest.

I was a lone lolita forever and had been trying to keep my wardrobe under wraps to avoid being "that girl" and avoid these exact feelings and circumstances, but by accident a few people ran into a private wardrobe post of mine and I have been worrying a bit about whether it made anyone feel uncomfortable. If it did, they haven't shown it. I'm blessed to be surrounded by graceful girls, I guess.

I have a lot of taobao, and I like it and like wearing it but I don't feel like a "real lolita." with only two (soon to be three) brand pieces in my wardrobe.

>>10101726
If you coord and carry it well, you are a better lolita than someone with brand who doesn't. Don't worry, anon.

>>10099228
>>10099287
>>10099527
Won't be posting any pictures of it for obvious reasons, but she really liked it (even though it's very slightly too big for her...but she'll grow into it).
She didn't want to take it off afterwards and even asked for more dresses! I'm really glad she approves of my work.

>>10099260
Western indie brands seem ridiculous for this kind of thing, I wonder if she took on too many orders?

>>10101801
She renewed her listing several times since her preorders sold out. Yesterday she posted progress pictures of necklaces for the series, which by all means just shows her shipment of wooden and acrylic printed plates she's going to put on chains. But seeing her post about that annoyed me so much. I want a happy "sending out the dresses" post like she did with the skirts! Please, don't delay my order! I'm a whiny baby posting on 4chan like it matters!

> Tfw had to put off buying the cosmetics that make my face not look like crap because broke.
> Tfw tax refund was deposited along with pay check, yay! I can resupply
> Tfw the fucking website is screwed up and even though I want to throw my money at them, it won't let me
> Tfw I just want to wear my Lolita and have a cute, not oily, not red and blotchy face

>>10098654
>but what about the manz!?

>>10098654
>be male
>have never had this conversation
>tfw I'm 8/10 or above
Thanks anon!

>>10101947
Anon, you sound hot. Like a chad. I bet you could turn me. We should hook up.

>cosplay I'm making is not really that complicated and the con i'm making it for is a while away
>the motivation to sew is lacking and I've dived hard into vidya to kill time/make the depression go away
>on top of that, my formerly nerd friends turned very normie and when we go out to bars they get girls and I have no game
>I used to be one of the best looking guys in my home town, and in this major city there's good looking guys (and girls) everywhere so I feel a bit lost
>just want qt cosplay gf to sew and swap stories with
>best place I could think of to meet said cosplay gf would be a con rave, but the con I'm going to soon can't have raves due to past events with hard drugs and OD's

this feels really shitty mates

>>10102047
Yep, it's a shitty position to be in.

Mental health comes first. The girls who throw themselves at you at your lowest are wanting to "fix" you and will vanish from your life when they feel they've done their part. The girls that don't realize how fucked up you are right now will after a while and also leave. The girls who are most likely to be accepting will be battling their own demons (codependency is unhealthy) or will have battled them in the past (and that goes one of two ways; she will either expect you to get over it like she did or she'll actually help - flip a coin). Being in a better mental state means you can give more to a person and to a relationship and will put you in a better position to find someone you genuinely love, rather than a temporary crutch.

Next, it sounds like your friends are shifting up a bit. You have two options here and neither have to involve ditching them, unless they are being utter cunts to you. In which case, gtfo. Either

> Start going to nerdier hangouts and events and make new friends, even joining local social media groups and doing the smaller stuff/online interaction if you're a bit reserved

> be open to liking normie things and let yourself enjoy it - shit's hard when weeb is your identity, but it can be and has been done

Finally, raves are a shit place to meet a girlfriend. I'm not saying it doesn't happen, but the environment is more conducive to "she's hot and I wanna fuck her" than "she's cool and I want to spend time with her" because it's dark, loud and people are drunk. I reckon your best shot is at aforementioned smaller events. Then you can rave together.

Good luck anon. It's a dark place, but there's a way out. Be kind to yourself.

>struggled with acne for most of my life
>Would try to stick to a skincare routine
>had no idea what I was doing
>would accidentally fuck up my skin more out of ignorance
>gave up out of frustration some time last year
>started to accept eternal pizza face
>midway through this January though I finally had enough
>Enter deep dive into skincare research
>Found articles and videos by actual skincare professionals and not hacks on pinterest and instagram
>started a proper skincare routine a few weeks ago
>skin isn't perfect but it's so much better
>soft to the touch, not too oily
>aside from still purging I have a lot less acne
>pimples last not even 2 days before going away when they used to be there for like a week
>mfw my skin is finally getting better

I'm so happy gulls

I think selling art of beloved older anime would be fun way to make some extra loot and make friends along the way. Too bad I'm a shit artist and struggling to hold myself together as it is.

>>10101806
Speak of the devil? Taunt the devil? She just posted and confirmed all dresses will be sent out this week. It's a coincidence for sure, but now I'll remember this miku-fagging and whining as part of this dress. Well, who cares, I love all of you salty seagulls.

>She posted details of the XL
>It looks like a whole tent
Rejoice fatty-chans, this will fit all of you but the most fearsome whales

>>23837949
I did actually, yeah
At work and in my whites, serving the scoops of ice creams. This stunning redhead comes up to me
Here’s the story I had for a while long and then I was off to a massage
>sadly my boss doesn’t believe me and I owe him $50
This chick asks me what sort of creaming I can give her, I stutter that she can swallow whatever she wants
See. My boss is trying to get me into hook up culture and made a bet with me over it.
So it’s my house, I’m balls deep in her and she’s moaning my name.
As I cum I take a pic with my phone but she gets angry and leaves.
The photo is blurry but I’ll try to show it to my boss and win the bet.

>>10102136
what in the fuckery

>>10099219
I wish you were my friend I could convince to make clothes for my 3 yo. T_T
You're an angel.

>>10102047
Thanks for the well thought reply anon. The issue I get is that my formerly nerd friends are still nerds, and are good dudes still. They just have "better game", like they know how to flirt better. One of the friends was in the same boat but he got a girlfriend from some party several years back, and I think it really improved his "game". We all look like turbo-normies, and we're not full-on autism.

I never learned how to flirt because in high school I was too scared to actually ask girls out in case they thought I was weird and cut me off (as I was friends with most girls in my class which led me to fearing being cut). So the situation ended up was, I would be really good friends with several girls that I would like to date, but I would never ask them out, because I was really good friends with them. At the same time, I wouldn't want to date someone I couldn't be really good friends with (ex. similar hobbies). This is the fun little catch-22 that kills me.

But yeah though. I don't know how to cross the "friends to flirting" line delicately, and I think that may be my issue. I'll look into the nerdier hangouts thing, though.

(also I realize this isn't really a seagull-related feel, so, "FUCK invisible zippers, little shits are a massive bitch" to make it relevant)

>>10102207
>>10102056

o o f I just realized I replied to myself

>>10102207
>I was too scared to actually ask girls out in case they thought I was weird and cut me off

Maybe it's because you ARE weird? 100% of the time if you're weird, people know you're weird but are too scared to tell you because they're afraid of what the weird kid would do. At best they'd just be annoying, and at worst, lives would actually be taken.

>>10102214
I wish m8, I was never that weird, I had social circles and all that jazz. You're the weird kid if you don't know who the weird kid is, and I knew the weird kid. Unless, I mean, it's a massive conspiracy theory and literally everyone I knew was in on it.

The thing that happened was me asking out this one girl I was super close with, only for her to decline and abruptly cut our friendship over just that. That kind of.... made me fear losing my other girl friends, and created this situation.

>>10102225
>>10102207
The thing is, these days the guys have no say or choice in the matter. It'll always be a no, for fear that you'll fucking murder or rape them.
So you just have to accept that and let them come to you, should they decide to face that risk and understand that you could very well hurt them and somehow act like there's something worth it underneath it all.

Tying this back into cosplay and /cgl/ though, that's why people go to cons to meet others who share the same interests. But even then, just know that you have no choice in the matter there either, especially considering how fucking autistic men are. They're why cosplay is not consent signs are up all over the place.

>>10102225
Sounds like you have some avoidant/abandonment issues? That's the first thing I'd maybe work on. The ability to let it go is freeing. When you don't value yourself, it's extra difficult to lose someone.

Don't listen to the other anons, you're not doomed. Just get out more to those little events. Brush up on your conversational skills and relaxing in the company of others. Don't push if you encounter resistance and get yourself banned. Not saying you're a complete autist, but a lot of men will sort of insert themselves into every conversation and not take a hint, especially in nerdy settings (the nightmare that was the PAX feedback panel in 2017 haunts me to this day).

Work on you. Give yourself a chance. The rest will usually come into place thereafter.

>want a weeb gf
>every single one I meet at cons lives states away
Bros why does it have to be like this

>>10102253
why can't you date someone long distance? if you guys can travel for cons, what's stopping you from traveling to see each other occasionally, too. The internet is a thing and makes ldrs much easier than in the past.

>>10102263
It’s not worth it gulls are rather mean and flimsy

>>10102235
There are plenty of accounts of women being batshit crazy, especially in the days of glomping and yaoi paddles, though these days it does seem to be mostly men.

>>10102235
It isn't always a no, especially if you already know each other. If you're a dude who isn't a creep or a jerk, has a decent grasp of social skills and hygiene, and has some things in common with the object of your affections, odds are good that she'll give you a chance if she's interested.

And honestly? if you fit the above criteria you're in good shape, especially around other nerds. Female nerds know just how terrible male nerds can be, and we're always happy to meet a sane one.

>>10102280
Gonna be real with you she-gull I really wish half of the people I meet on this board where as helpful as you but granted most anons just give you shit instead of trying to give you a straight forward answers. So thanks man

>>10102207
>invisible zippers
Stitch them backwards to the right side and make sure the groove in the foot you’re using is a good match for the plastic part of that particular zip. You can tell because you can just sew a straight line and they’ll slide through quick and smoothly with a pin or 2 instead of you having to pull them into place to keep it straight. It’ll also be much easier to get your stitchline in really close, almost under the plastic. I didn’t notice this until I tried to use a different brand of zip where the plastic was wider and it flip flopped all over the place because it wouldn’t stay in the groove and slide through smoothly and I couldn’t get the stitchline in close enough where it was truly invisible.

Also if you’re thinking of using the one sided feet, don’t. Sorry for OT.

>see a girl getting attacked outside con
>run over to help her and live out hero fantasy
>mfw it's just her bf giving her a wedgie

>katsucon this week
>work full time
>school full time
>one costume still unfinished
>coming down with a cold
>mfw

godspeed fellow katsu gulls.

>>10101888
>but what about the womenz!

>at a very low point in my mental state
>haven't been taking my meds because they make me feel numb and unable to connect with people around me, but in turn I'm becoming admittedly a downer to be around and my friends are running for cover
>have been stress eating lately and I've gained a few pounds
>clothes are fitting tighter, keep pinching myself in front of mirrors, worrying my boyfriend
>feeling myself growing bitter, walking past skinnier girls on campus makes me feel angry

Trying to find a therapist now. Being unable to wear my favorite clothes and do something I love is just pushing me lower. I wish I could punish myself.

>>10102207
>>10102235
>So you just have to accept that and let them come to you, should they decide to face that risk and understand that you could very well hurt them and somehow act like there's something worth it underneath it all.
this is terrible advice; you have to pursue women, but not in a creepy way. letting women "come to you" is the kind of elliot rodger logic that leaves you alone in life forever. People do not just fall into your lap.
>should they decide to face that risk and understand that you could very well hurt them
I think you might be too fragile for dating m8
>>10102214
>if you're weird, people know you're weird but are too scared to tell you because they're afraid of what the weird kid would do.
what kind of fucked up social circles do you exist in?
>lives would actually be taken.
dont step outside then, you might get hit by an asteroid

>>10102304
> letting women "come to you" is the kind of elliot rodger logic that leaves you alone in life forever.

The fuck does this mean?

>>10102309
>The fuck does this mean?
it means youre new as fuck to this site

>>10102304
>you have to pursue women, but not in a creepy way.
No such thing. Any man who pursues women is a creep. So don't bother.

>>10102313
>No such thing. Any man who pursues women is a creep.
so what are you supposed to do? sit in a corner with your eyes on the floor? wouldnt want to frighten them away right?! let them send the first message m'lady?
I think you've just narrowly interpreted the word "pursue", as some kind of stalking as opposed to taking an active approach to asking women out.

>>10102314
Nowadays that may as well be considered the same thing. Listen, any time a guy shows interest, it's always because he's a creep.
If a woman shows interest first, then even though they're putting themselves at risk, that's then on the guy to not let the woman down and not kill or violate her. And then maybe, just maybe, a friendship could form from there, and maybe even a relationship.
So yes, let them send the first message. Go out and do things, meet people, but don't show interest until they do first, that way they know you're okay. 'Cause otherwise you're not.

>>10102316
>Nowadays that may as well be considered the same thing.
you're delusional. You have literally no idea what youre talking about. You live in a fantasy land that exists outside of nature and reason. I dont know what autistic social circle you inhabit, but thats not how the real world works.
>Listen, any time a guy shows interest, it's always because he's a creep.
jfc what kind of pseudo-puritan world do you live in.
>IF HE LUST OF WOMEN HE DOTH BE A SINNER
LEL you cant make this shit up
>If a woman shows interest first, then even though they're putting themselves at risk, that's then on the guy to not let the woman down and not kill or violate her.
lmao, let me revise that; its some kind of pseudo-puritan post apocalyptic wasteland
>Go out and do things, meet people, but don't show interest until they do first, that way they know you're okay. 'Cause otherwise you're not.
Read: "be single forever"

>>10102318
Enough men have caused enough harm to women out there in the world. The con scene is no different. Every other week, some photographer is outed as a predator. Every fucking con, there's autistic manchildren who don't know how to socialize and end up harassing cosplayers just because they're dressed up like waifus.

Men are a vile plague on the world. So if you're a man and you STILL want to live and still want to be with other people despite that? Then you have a lot to fucking work through.

>>10102319
>Enough men have caused enough harm to women out there in the world.
enough people have been hit by asteroids. And? This doesn't really mean anything.
>The con scene is no different.
It actually is different. It probably has a higher ration of spergs and people who don't understand social boundaries very well.
>Every other week, some photographer is outed as a predator.
And? what does this have to do with dating you mong
>who don't know how to socialize and end up harassing cosplayers just because they're dressed up like waifus
man what a surprise, who could've guessed single men in their 30s who watch anime are autistic. not I.
>Men are a vile plague on the world.
L E L
this keeps getting better and better. pls post more, I love posts from special people.
>So if you're a man and you STILL want to live and still want to be with other people despite that?
This has got to be bait.

>>10102323
The point is, men hurt others no matter where you go, especially in the con scene (which is why the point about photographers and autistic manchildren were brought up). What does that have to do with dating? It means if you're a man and you want to date, you have to be aware that people hate men. You have to be aware that men are the ones who cause all the world's problems, they're the ones hurting people, they're the ones killing and raping women over whatever.
And if you still want to date, you have to be very aware of that. So if a woman's not receptive or is cold or wary to you? You know why. You are why.
Because you're a man.

Made a cutsew and a headdress I'm actually happy with last week in my spare time and also helped a friend sew bloomers. Good and productive feels all around.

>>10102326
not that guy but you honestly need to be medicated and should seek therapy to help get you out of that persecutory delusion that's so large it would make a schizophrenic blush

>tfw you're so rushed to buy the Milky-Chan bag off of CC that you don't even see the Chick-Chan bag until it's sold out

This is the 2nd time I've missed Chick-Chan on CC.
To whoever just bought him - want to trade?
Or just scalp me for like $200?

>>10102326
>The point is, men hurt others no matter where you go
great, and?
>you have to be aware that people hate men.
>you have to be aware that men are the ones who cause all the world's problems, they're the ones hurting people
I think youre either literally insane/ have emotional problems, or are just doing a lame troll. Please get back on your meds or double them ASAP. Its pretty cool that you get phone reception from inside that mental ward you're in.

>>10102329
>>10102331
As crazy as anon is, she is right. Men are unpredictable and are strong, that's enough of a reason to be wary of them. There is also an element of stranger danger involved too. The point she is trying to make is that if you want to move on in to a woman, do it without overstepping her boundaries. Look out of social cues in facial expression, tone of voice ect to determine if she uncomfortable or not. At least if you get rejected, you won't be seen as a creep.

>dream item I've been missing out on by a hairsbreadth for the past 3 years finally pops up on auction
>seller cancells all SS bids

>>10102263
I'd like to do more than simply be able to talk via text/Skype or whatnot, visiting maybe once a month doesn't seem like enough.
In my experience people talk and act much differently online or via text than they do in person as well.

It's just not the same.
It wasn't a long relationship but I was in a year long LDR and I don't think I want to do it again, ever.

how do you confront a lolita about their personal issues?

this lolita has warning lights blinking and someone should step in and talk to them. the person is not getting it

>>10102328
how did you make the cutsew? any pics or anything as well? been thinking of making my own recently but having some 2nd thoughts.

>Buy dress using zenmarket and get them to mark down the package to avoid customs
>clearly didn't mark it down enough because it got hit anyway
>first time this has ever happened to me as I've always been lucky in the past despite buying things far more expensive. I assume it's because the dress shipped from Osaka and arrived at a time the customs workers were being more vigilant (usually they're just lazy and put my stuff through).
>a week has passed since my dress arrived in the country and it's literally been sitting at customs for 8 days now
>ring postal service
>"oh customs just processes stuff whenever they please, they say 5 days max on their website but who knows?"
It wasn't even a dream item or anything I just bought it to wear to an event once. I didn't wanna have to lay a complaint since this dress was totally not the hill I wanted to die on but it looks like I'm gonna have to. Now I'm just sad and I want my dress gulls.

>>10102691
Depends on what these personal issues are and how close you are to this person.

>>10102400
oof

I feel you, anon

I'm at a weird stage. Lolita is so far from where I need to be right now, but it was the one last remaining hobby I had all to myself.
I can't really deal with the idea of leaving the fashion, but can I really say I was ever really in it that deep in the first place?
Everything seems to make me need to move on, but I don't want to.

I wanna see Rihanna in old school lolita, even though she’d definitely ero it up.
She just has the perfect baby face and tough persona.

>>10102833
She doesn't have a baby face, nor would old school suit her.

>>10102868
I think goth/old school goth would suit her

>>10102879
Maybe goth, but not old school. Too ghetto.

I'm mildly surprised the Lor and Tyler threads haven't been taken down for 'vendetta' like in the past. Is it because /cgl/ rule 2 technically only mentions cosplayers? Well it doesn't bother me enough to take it to /qa/, but it really strikes me as strange after we had that overly strict janny.

>>10102897
Perhaps it's due to their prominence in the community and the fact that neither thread is doing anything truly malicious? Nobody's posting all their pictures to make fun of, Anons are both for and against each creator, there's civil discussion about their content going on and... Fuck, maybe the jannies also want some tea?

>>10102897
>Discussing an individual in general isn't against the rules as long as it's done within context of cosplay/lolita/j-fashion.

>catch a creep upskirting me
>spray his phone with hot diarrhea
>mfw

>"friend" and i are both 23
>she's studying in tokyo, i still live at home
>she somehow can afford to by tons of old moitie + is so short that she fits into literally everything
>mfw she talks about going to a vkei live while wearing a cute coord on the weekend, meanwhile i'm cleaning the toilet at my part time job

>>10103465
Based af.

>>10103465
>shitposting

>snows all weekend, turns into rain
>several inches of snow, slush, and standing water everywhere
>don't have any real snow gear
>suddenly remember I bought army surplus boots for a Ghostbusters outfit
>slap that shit on and stay high and dry all day
hell yeah motherfucker

>>10102298
Iktf, I fantasize about being able to carry out justifiable violence and be praised for it, probably pretty unhealthy

>Plan coord for Valentine's Day
>New dress
>Try it on to make sure it all looks good
>Fit is atrocious, way too small
>Realize now you never specified to SS what size to buy

I am genuinely upset by how stupid this mistake was. I don't have a backup plan either atm. I'm fat, stupid, and scrambling.

>>10104315
Do you have any red at all in your wardrobe? Any pink? Valentine's Day coords don't have to have a cutesy heart or chocolate printed main piece, a coord that includes red, pink or both works just fine in a pinch.

>>10104315
>>10104435
Posting again for pic related as an example of a 9 years old V-Day coord. You don't have to own this exact skirt to pull off a red/pink coord, either.

>>10104439
This is so cute anon!

I do but it was one of those moments where "this would've been perfect" so everything else looks incomplete or off y'know? I do have a backup normie outfit that I might go with for the sake of comfort, but I'm still disappointed.

>>10104471
Ugh I know that feeling anon. I recently got a new dress and I already had in my head how I was going to coord it with what I already have but then when it came in I could not find my headdress or socks anywhere so I had to make do with other accessories. It still looks good but feels just not good enough for me. Thankfully the stuff I lost wasn't expensive so I can just replace them but the replacements probably won't come in time for when I want to wear it.

>turned 30 in november
>haven’t cosplayed or been to a con because of work in two years
>just married a girl who never watched anime before she met me
>she has watched and enjoyed a few series now, open minded about cosplaying
>want her to cosplay with me as Hestia and Bell
>she doesn’t want to. doesn’t like any character enough to cosplay

i know i’m too old to cosplay but i want to do at least one couples cosplay god damn it!

>>10104531
>i know i’m too old to cosplay
Already the wrong mindset, to be honest. There's no age limit on cosplay as a whole, you just need to be mindful of the characters you choose. And don't push your wife into it, I know you're eager and excited but give her time and an opportunity to decide for herself.
Has she ever expressed willingness to attend a con with you? You could go together sans cosplay just so she can experience it, and if you're going to more than one day of the con, you can bring a cosplay for yourself and wear it, whether she joins you in her own casual clothes or not. See how she feels afterwards, she might have fun and want to try cosplaying herself, or not, but either way see it as a way to introduce her to one of your interests with no guarantee she'll actually enjoy it herself.

>>10104536

i can try that. personally i can’t imagine going to a con without cosplay and having the same amount of fun.
she said she is willing to try anything, which is 100% true. i might be able to take her to a con in July so she has time to decide.

>>10104545
It's definitely a different experience but if she tags along with you while you're in cosplay, she might become curious enough to try it herself. But again, no pressure, just openly invite her to experience something that you love, and if she decides it's not for her, accept it.
Whatever happens, I hope you have fun and be happy!

>receive Be my Valentine jsk
>try it on
>realize it’s 89 cm long
>I’m 168 cm
oh well, at least it’s really cute and I got an AP novelty chocolate to drown my sorrows in

>See skirt I absolutely love
>It’s not even that expensive
>Decide to wait until all my school expenses and bills are paid
>Retarded thought on my part, I guess
>Check wunderwelt today
>Skirt is gone
>Google skirt
>Only place it’s being sold is on Lacemarket
>More than 2x the original price
>From an Asian seller, she would have plausibly been able to buy, receive, and relist it in a couple of weeks
>I’m not saying she definitely bought it and scalped it, but I have this horrible feeling in the pit of my stomach that the skirt got bought and scalped

I’m a fairly new lolita (about 2 years) and this is the first time this has happened to me. Fuck, it feels terrible. I hope that all scalpers get yeast infections.

>>10104555
what's wrong with that?

>>10104592
What skirt is it? I'm not saying it's impossible that she's scalping it, but if it's a fairly common skirt then it might be less likely.

>>10097591
the hero we deserve

>>10104594
My peepee will show

>>10104632
what's wrong with that?

>>10104632
I don't have a peepee but I'm a tall girl and peeking bloomers are a god send. and cute.

>>10100078
You might want to look into NAC - helps with addictive behaviors. It makes you really thirsty, though (like drinking water all day). I tried it and noticed I had a little more willpower on it.

>>10104667
Rock that you amazon

also get smaller bloomers

>>10104667
ayrt, I also don’t have a peepee, I was just giving a dumb, absurd answer to a stupid question haha. I have some bloomers that I’ll definitely wear!

Happy valentines day, everyone

> ordered a dream skirt/vest from fril a couple of weeks ago (Meta's sorcerer apprentice) and used Tenshi as my SS.
>used her before and it's always been fine.
>She shipped it out early last week and for some reason, the tracking number never updated.
>Last night I came home from work with a "sorry we missed you!" slip at the top of my steps.
>Apparently my doorbell died so my mom never knew the mail man rang, despite being home.
>Normally this would be fine and I'd just sign for it and put the slip in themail box
>But I'm going to katsu this weekend
>go online and state I'm going to pick it up at the post office
>Theres some weird thing going on and it wont recognize the slip number
>Nervously check the tracking number
>"label created not yet in system"
>fuck
>Set my alarm for 8:30 to call the post office when they open
>Wake up, call them.Phone just rings and rings and rings
>Decide to just throw on sweats and go to the post office myself. There's two in my area so who knows which one it went to
>Go to the main one first
>Traffic is retarded. It's not slow, per ce. It's just dumbasses going under the speed limit, taking forever to turn, etc
>Miss the turn for the post office because it's hidden and i always miss it
>go a small detour
>go inside
>one clerk
>lady is holding up the line asking a million questions about her packages
>check time. It's close to the time that the mail men leave for their routes.
>I start to panic. If it never registered that I was going to pick it up, it's out for delivery again and wont be at my house till well after I'm gone.
>Another line opens up. Thank mana.
>Give the lady my slip and tell her the situation
>Shesays it should be at the other post office and she'll call
>comes back a couple minutes later
>It's not there.
>She scans the slip and nothing comes up
>confusion for all
>She says it doesn't even say it was ever out for delivery
>cont

>>10105065
>She turns to the other clerk, who I guess in the manager and asks him to check one of the routes
>He says they may have left already but he'll run back and check
>While he's gone she says normally if a customer says theyre picking it up, they bring the package to the front
>But probably because there's some glitch, they never got any notice on mine
>Really panic because it's being cut down to the wire
>After 5 minutes, the manager comes back up, package in hand
>The courier was literally just about to leave
>Holy shit, praise the nine. Praise mana.
>Sign for package
>cling to it for dear life
>It's now in a dress bag, ready to be worn at katsu
Holy shit. Happy valentines day, gulls.
If you see someone wearing meta's apprentice sorcerer vest and skirt with as a witchy coord at Katsu, it's probably me.

>>10105063
Y-you too

>>10100585

Happy Valentine's Day, /cgl/. What are you planning to do with your bf/gf?

>>10105098
>bf/gf

Which one of you is this?
https://youtu.be/tPxNVgO6weo

>>10105098
I would have had a date night with boardgames, good food and dressing up in a coord I planned for the occasion. Sadly my bf got sick, and I can't risk contracting a cold due to work right now. So after work I baked some chocolate muffins, biked over to his house and delivered them. It was a brief but sweet moment to see his precious face...

On the bright side I already took pictures of my valentine's coord when I was planning and trying it on. Now I can post it despite not actually wearing it for the occasion.

>>10105098
My bf had an exam but I had the day off so I spent all day cleaning the house and doing other chores, only to find out that my bf invited his annoying friend (who hates lolita and will "jokingly" insult me whenever he sees me wearing or displaying it) over for dinner. I think he forgot that it's valentines day. His mom sent us chocolate hearts though, which I'll probably end up eating by myself.

>have been working more overtime and going to the gym after work to the point where I haven't checked /cgl/ in weeks
>get back on this evening because I'm home at a reasonable hour
>the same thread is still up
Damn son. We were burning through these threads like nobody's business last month, what happened?

>>10105156
The janitor's purges of posts also sent out warnings to remind us all that our feels posts have to be /cgl/ related. Therefore we've cut down on detailing threads with off topic discussions. The few who have started have been pruned, lowering the post count and keeping the thread up longer.

But that's just my take on it. How's your gym progress going? Are you doing it for cosplay or lolita?

>>10105098
Celebrated it early yesterday with my boyfriend, he made a huge dinner and we took it to the park where we set out a blanket and had a picnic together. We exchanged candy and cards, it was cute and I was able to wear a valentine's day coord, which made me feel super festive. Today's going to be a busy day for the both of us, so I'm happy we did something special yesterday while we had time together

>>10105164
Yeah, jannies were sperging out hard the last time I checked the threads. Oh well
>How's your gym progress going? Are you doing it for cosplay or lolita?
I'm more doing it for myself (I have two weddings to go to this year too) but cosplay will be what benefits from it most eventually. I've gone from hitting a peak of 280lbs last month right after Christmas to hitting the 250s as of last weekend. Gym three times a week after work along with 18 hour fasts (breakfast and lunch under 1000 calories, no dinner or snacks until breakfast the following day) which I do on workdays. Usually I just have one meal in the afternoon on weekends and leave it at that because I usually just sit around in my free time playing videogames/listening to music when I'm not working. I feel much better in myself and my confidence has definitely seen an improvement. Still have a long way to go though!

>>10105098
I have work...Hopefully my gf cuddles me tonight, we will see lego movie 2 tomorrow, I'm going to wear a nice coordinate! I hope you guys have a great v-day.

>Drunk & on Lacemarket last night
>Impulsively bid on what I think is an OP and headbow
>Check listing this morning
>Read that it’s just the OP and there’s no headbow

I don’t even know how to feel. Last night I was so giddy because I thought I was getting a dress AND a headbow that I wanted for an amazing deal. I still really want the dress and am obsessively monitoring it to make sure no one outbids me. Idk I’m just slightly less thrilled.

>>10105098
taking this wonderful guy out to dinner tonight!

>>10105098
I'm going to eat doughnuts and masturbate to the though of having one after I finish up at school and the gym

>>10105098
I went to Costco with my dad. Also I am excidly awaiting my pay check.

>>10105251
your dad is your bf anon?

>>10105254
He's the only male who voluntarily talks to me, cut me some slack!

>>10100585
Definitely a feel I miss. So much opportunity to be had then. Now I'm fat, ugly, disabled and my mom just died. Here's to the 2020s being a comeback.

>>10105098
Nothing. My husband and I agreed on not doing anything really extra for Valentine's day this year because our anniversary is at the beginning of the month and my birthday is at the end so that's a lot all at once but now I'm kind of regretting agreeing to that and I want to do something for it. I feel really dumb.

Is Valentines really such a big thing in burgerland? I even forgot it was today and my boyfriend and I certainly aren't doing anything other than normal.

>>10105272
lol It makes me think of the office where they try to do all the birthdays on one day. It's okay anon, just try to remember this day as a lesson to yourself. These things matter to you and so you should always do something for them.

>>10105279
It's really pushed here, pretty much every single store has valentine's products/ads

>>10105098
I'm single, so...
but at least I have birthday tomorrow, so I got that going for me, which is nice

>>10105272
Cook a nice dinner

>>10105323
Happy Birthday, anon!

>>10105323
Hope you have a nice birthday and find someone, anon.

>>10105063
You too!

>>10105098
planning my trip to the store to buy discount chocolate tomorrow

>been sewing for a little over a year now
>self draft everything because guy patterns are mostly dress shirt variations and other boring boomer shit
>as a result 80% of my cosplay-making time is drafting patterns and the other 20% is doing it with nice fabric
>parents shine with pride whenever I show off cosplays but the moment I talk about making street-ready fashion they say I need to step up a bit in skill
>I know if I just switch to working patterns my skill will shoot up fast

It's funny because I both like and hate self-drafting. It's so damn time intensive and I can "copy" the look of something (without knowing the proper construction methods), but also so CUSTOM.

>>10105098

>>10104474
Anon I just wanted to say I decided to go for it and make a new coord for the holiday regardless. It wasn't my best look but my boyfriend loved it and I had fun.

Anons I’m very happy with how this turned out and I have to show you all this costest I took s couple weeks ago


The clothes and props are a bit much but I’m looking forward to my first con with it on

>>10105428
Same anon. I’m having my “Valentine’s” on Saturday so I’m gonna buy some half off Valentine’s chocolate to have after dinner.

>>10105430
Go out on a limb and try it! Also if you wouldn't mind, can we see some of your work?

> has two meets this weekend
> got an outbreak of acne on my face yesterday
> ohwell.jpg
> skin routine
> checks face again this morning

It's not fucking acne, it's motherfucking shingles. God damn it.

>re-discovered cosplay vids from 2012 and my old deviant art account from 2009
>remembered how determined and excited I was to make cosplays and draw
>tfw it's re-motivated me to start doing it seriously again

THE FIRE HAS BEEN LIT

>>10105098
well lads, valentine's day is officially over in CST. No gf, same as every year. Overall pretty good though, started off the day playing D&D with four of my friends, then went out for a little lunch to talk some more. Got home, relaxed, a lil bit of 4chan and some tea. Went to check on a family friend's cat while she's gone and got some cat snuggles for my trouble. Dad was pretty happy today, so that's always good (after two strokes when I was young, he has brain damage and relatively little impulse control, coupled with deep insecurity, he's quite prone to taking everything as an attack and blowing up in anger over everything. According to his old friends, he's quite different. They tell me that in a way, I never really got to know my dad, just a damaged husk.) Ma got home from work, gave her a big hug and talked a bit. Had plenty of time to practice guitar while watching some tv. After dinner, my ma and I sat on the couch and finished a movie we had started a few days prior. Afterwards pops came up to watch Colbert, and when they got tired, I tucked them in and said good night. That brings us to now. Tomorrow if I don't hear back from that library job I applied for, it'll be time to apply at the dollar general just to have something to do. Can't keep being a 20yr old neet. Gotta do something and I'm still saving up for a car. Had a big setback after the restaurant I worked at just stopped giving me shifts. I wasn't fired, the manager just didn't give me a single working hour for 3+ weeks. None of that matters now though.
Time to move on. Thanks for reading my blog-post, seagulls

>>10105098
We did stuff but I hated it. I resent my gf and I'm sick of how my life is going.

>going out to dinner for valentines
>in the final stages of getting ready
>can’t find deodorant, think I lost it
>whatever I’ll just use my gf’s
>only realize after I put it on it has aluminum
>search for 10 minutes for any of the trash blouses or cutsews I could live with being yellow stained
>only find shitty white button up and it’s too late to change my whole outfit
>mfw I go out knowing I’m dressed like an ita
>mfw I find my deodorant 10 seconds before we leave
She didn’t care at all but there’s no way I’m tagging any of the pics we took when I’m dressed office worker kei

>>10105098
>bf/gf
h-haha yeah

>>10105098
Well I guess you can say that I tried, I asked out a girl that I knew for a while. She told me that she is a lesbian, which I never knew, we had a good laugh did some school work in the library, then left. So me and a few friends sat down and played some games, they wanted to know what was the result, as they gave me so advice on how not to be too awkward. I told them, one of them looked at me oddly and said that he just saw her kissing some guy in the parking lot 45 minutes ago. Honestly it really hit me hard, I am not sure what to do, I don't want to confront her, but I really wish that she was honest with me, but at least I tried

>>10105747
try not to feel too bad, anon. it really says a lot about the person she is and you dodged a thot bullet. i'm sorry she is a terrible person.

the fact that you were open and honest and made an effort despite your perceived awkwardness means there is hope for you, just use this as a learning experience.

>>10105747
She possibly got a “nice guy” vibe from you so it makes sense (to her) to tell you she’s a lesbian rather than just flat out reject you. It’s not 100% effective but whenever I tell creeps I’m a lesbian they usually just back off.

Or she just felt bad and thought a lie would ease the blow a bit, without really thinking it through. It sucks, but all you can really do is respect her “lesbianism”.

>>10105331
thank you

>>10105366
>Hope you have a nice birthday
thanks

>and find someone, anon.
I doubt that this will happen

>>10105762
Seconding that she probably got a vibe. I am a lesbian but I have a lot of friends who are bi girls who say this when they either don’t want hurt your feelings or they get a vibe that you’ll keep pushing it and they don’t wanna have to constantly cancel things or let you down easy when they just aren’t interested at all.

Sorry dude, but the joke is on her because more often than not saying you’re a lesbian doesn’t stop the actually creepy dudes at all. The only thing you can really do is just respect her rejection otherwise she will be thoroughly creeped out if you confront her on it or even mention that you heard she was with a guy.

Speaking from experience it’s feels really unsettling to be questioned/ doubted by a guy who I’ve told I was a lesbian after being asked out by. Even if she isn’t one she probably saw it as a safe exit.

>>10104555
I'm literally the same height and I wear AP JSKs that are 86cm long. They aren't too short on me. Am I just more flat-chested?

>went out in lolita with my bf yesterday for Valentine’s Day
>usually get nervous and self conscious around normies but I’m trying to wear EGL out more often aside from meets and cons
>everything goes fine at first
>dinner at fancy restaurant, a few stares but it all was chill
>after dinner we go to the movies
>we picked the latest show of the movie we were watching that night so we weren’t expecting much people in the room we were going to be in
>room full of normie teenagers
>fuck fuckfucj fuck
>LOTS OF STARING AND CHUCKLING
>we just sit down in a corner and enjoy the movie
>movie ends
>we got out after most people left the room
>we go outside and there’s a HUGE group of teens outside
>they all stare at me and start laughing really loud
>I got mad cause I thought they were picking fun at me
>wasn’t having it
>kinda loudly replied back to them in a sassy way indirectly
>bf gets mad at me for going down to their level

I had such an awesome date but my insecurities got the best of me. Any advice to control my anxiety and shit when going out dressed up?

HELP! I paid for express delivery, which landed me a UPS shipment. It was sent yesterday, Thursday, and the estimated delivery time is TUESDAY AFTERNOON. I need to have it Tuesday MORNING at the latest! Are they fucking kidding me? Is this supposed to be express??

It's a delivery within Europe, so I really don't see why it has to take five days, weekend included. Or is it a generous estimate since customs might want to fondle my goods? Can the estimated shipping time become a little earlier, even if it's just by some hours? Am I fucked?

>>10105807
Nervous daily lolita here: If you're out with your bf or anyone else, engage them instead of whoever is bothering you. If you take this scenario as an example: Instead of responding to the teens, you could have ignored them (even if it still bothered you inside, which is understandable) and talked to your bf about the movie you just watched. You could have also continued to do so even if the teens tried to get your attention to rile you up; unless they physically attack you, which is not okay no matter the situation, you're free to stubbornly ignore them no matter what they say or yell at you, and they'd just make themselves look like assholes eventually.
When it comes to going out on your own, personally I just listen to music in earphones to distract myself, that's usually enough for people to leave me alone, and if someone is being rude to me I just use it as an excuse to pretend I didn't hear them. If you do this, just make sure to keep the volume down so you don't hurt your eardrums and you're still aware of your surroundings to a degree.
Do your best, anon!

>>10105822
>relying on express delivery
>in europe
HAHAHA. I had SAL packages that arrives faster than express because customs and german post don't give a fuck about how fast you need it or how much you paid. Expect that package to stay in customs for 2 weeks.

WHERE ARE THE NEW RELEASES VM YOU'VE HAD A MONTH

>saw dream dress has just appeared on LM
>technically have the money, but would have to be frugal for the rest of the month
>fighting every urge in my being throughout the day to impulsively buy it

I could most likely manage... but I need to be more fiscally responsible, I’m getting married this year and my wardrobe is already taking a hit.

Went on my valentine's date in lolita. Good feel! My date thought I looked cute.

>>10105956
doubleposting to say, it's hard to date when you have been gaslighted into believing you're crazy, which in turn drives you crazy, which pushes people away. I really like this person and they are actually normal, so here's hoping this goes well.

I used to be extremely shy and embarrassed when people looked at me weird when I wore lolita out, but now I just really love staring them down. I love it when they want to sneakily be like "wtf look" to the person they're with but I've already noticed and I'm following them with my eyes. I love how they kinda stop awkwardly unsure of what to do because they expected me to look away and get flustered. I love it when i see someone who's passing me is gonna do a double take and I turn around with a huge shit-eating grin on my face and just stare until they hobble away awkwardly. Man, just thinking about embarrassing rude unbehaved normies has given me a huge smile!

>>10105944
if it's the DD get it before it vanishes..

>>10105977
Same, anon. I get such a rush when I notice someone staring, and I look right into their eyes until they look away, unsure of what to do.

>>10105944
I know anons will enable you know and scream "buy it!!" but it would actually be surprising to see someone financially responsible once in a while. It will always pop up again and most likely feel better too when you have enough spare money for it.

>>10105944
Don’t you have any other dresses you might be willing to sell to make up the cash? If it’s a DD that’s hard to come by it’s probably worth getting but you have to make the money for it somewhere. All lolitas should build a contingency for dream dresses anyway so stuff like this doesn’t happen.

>>10105659
Go to the doctor now if it's on your face, that shit can leave you blind if it gets to close to your eyes

>>10105977
>>10105998
You two are doing a fantastic job

>>10105842
Fuck me dead, it's in Germany right now. Well, at least it better be leaving soon, right?

Happy weekend to all you gulls who aren't suffering postal hell like me.

>>10106114
Yeah, I know. This is my third outbreak in my adult life. Thankfully I'm already almost totally blind on the right side, so it doesn't worry me too much, but I'll be going anyway to get on some serious antivirals.

>>10105998
People are so fucking stupid thinking they're sneaky. Obviously I'm hyper aware of everyone around me when I'm dressed like this. You must be literally braindead to think people won't notice you're staring or talking about them in public.

>>10106088
That’s what I’m thinking. I know it will pop up again in a few months (knock on wood) and my backup wardrobe budget is no longer a priority because I’m using every area of non-necessary savings into my education and wedding this spring.

RIP, MM will have to wait. I hope it goes to a good home.

>>10105822
Express delivery is a joke and almost never works except for maaayyybe flat envelopes for documents
I'm a German business owner we use DHL

i just had the best experience. i was out in lolita thrift shopping with a friend and woman came up to me and said she loved my coord and that there was a liz lisa dress over in the other section. this dress was new with tags and only $20.
if you're reading this, i owe you my life.

Evening gulls and guys its ya boy rider lad

how are you all

>>10106425
I have been working room service for two days straight, and I have seen enough cock and tits for a year, how's your day going?

>>10106452
Well thats a interesting post

I've been working on my cosplay and just filling out some interviews to go to work, medicine is hard yo

>>10105977
>tfw no need to do crazy shit like this because all of my onlookers are admirers/hurry to compliment me
how ugly is /cgl/? from the sound of it, being a lolita who doesn't look like a bridge troll makes life so much easier.

>>10106115
dude, is she giving someone a blowjob?

>>10106169
bad for you, but thank you for that picture

>>10106520
>strangers staring means you're ugly now
>one poster is all of /cgl/
ok senpai

>>10106520
Hope you feel better about your ugly ass now that you've been a dick to strangers on an anonymous image board