/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

>>10099851

>period blood on ctp bc hormones are fucked and hate me
>had to go through whole tea party knowing i bled onto my dress and stuffed a shit ton of toilet paper as a make shift pad

I'm a fool to think on the second day of my period I won't need extra at an event.

Should've brought a more practical handbag.

Honestly I don’t have any horror stories just annoyances desu. Like annoying people calling me strawberry shortcake, or asking what I’m wearing while drunk. I think the worst was just getting my period early and bleeding through my bloomers.

Kinda long ai sorry for that!

>make dinner/movie/shopping plans for girlfriend's birthday
>decide to wear my Horror Garden JSK cause her edgy ass loves it
>its the white colorway
>I have nice cloth napkins to drape over dresses when eating so I'm not too worried about that
>we eat, it's a nice meal and we have a good time with no issues
>yet
>getting up from table to pay, feel strong tug on my dress from behind as I'm walking
>look to see what it is
>bitch from table next to us is GRABBING MY DRESS, lifting it up and touching it all over
>this grown ass adult has FUCKING SPAGETTI SAUCE ON HER FUCKING HANDS
>FUCKING SPAGETTI SAUCE
>BITCH WERE YOU EATING THAT SHIT WITH YOUR FUCKING HANDS????
>SHES TOUCHING BOTH THE OVERSKIRT AND THE PRINT
>I'M FUCKING LIVID
>Girlfriend noticed what's going on, gets woman's hands off my dress before I have the chance to rip her fingers off
>Woman starts fucking screaming
>"I wasnt doing nothin wrong!!! I was just looking!!! You shouldnt dress like that if you dont want people to look!!! You can clean it dumbass!!!"
>Bitch the fuck you think it's okay to touch someone at all let alone thetheithetheir WHITE DRESS with your fucking SPAGHETTI SAUCE hands???
>Speed off to the bathroom to try and get the sauce off.
>bitch must have been digging cause it's on my petti too
>Sauce comes off the dress easier than I was afraid of but will definately still need proper cleaning asap.
>Head out of bathroom, woman now unleashing on a poor waiter
>Shes too busy griping about how she "wasnt the one who made a scene cause she didn't do anything wrong" to see us coming out of the bathroom
>Sorry waiter
>we pay and leave quickly.

I got pants to change into and we were able to drop the dress off at the cleaners. We managed to have fun the rest of the evening.
Dress is fine, except for one small spot that's a tad stained. I get a little mad whenever I see it still.

I've never worn Lolita in an Italian restaurant since then.

>>10099851
Getting the hem of my dream dress stuck on a fence and ripping it the very first time I wore it.

Also, a lady grabbed my waist tie as I walked by once, and pulled it and the buttons off of my dress, ripping the material in the process. No idea why people think grabbing other people's clothing is okay... It was some random lady in the supermarket who wanted to tell me (supposedly) that she liked my dress...

>>10099913
>white colorway
>SPAGETTI SAUCE
I would have killed her.

I fucked up posting this enough please work this time

>make dinner/movie/shopping plans for girlfriend's birthday
>decide to wear my Horror Garden JSK cause her edgy ass loves it
>its the white colorway
>I have nice cloth napkins to drape over dresses when eating so I'm not too worried about that
>we eat, it's a nice meal and we have a good time with no issues
>yet
>getting up from table to pay, feel strong tug on my dress from behind as I'm walking
>look to see what it is
>bitch from table next to us is GRABBING MY DRESS, lifting it up and touching it all over
>this grown ass adult has FUCKING SPAGETTI SAUCE ON HER FUCKING HANDS
>FUCKING SPAGETTI SAUCE
>BITCH WERE YOU EATING THAT SHIT WITH YOUR FUCKING HANDS????
>SHES TOUCHING BOTH THE OVERSKIRT AND THE PRINT
>I'M FUCKING LIVID
>Girlfriend noticed what's going on, gets woman's hands off my dress before I have the chance to rip her fingers off
>Woman starts fucking screaming
>"I wasnt doing nothin wrong!!! I was just looking!!! You shouldnt dress like that if you dont want people to look!!! You can clean it dumbass!!!"
>Bitch the fuck you think it's okay to touch someone at all let alone thetheithetheir WHITE DRESS with your fucking SPAGHETTI SAUCE hands???
>Speed off to the bathroom to try and get the sauce off.
>bitch must have been digging cause it's on my petti too
>Sauce comes off the dress easier than I was afraid of but will definately still need proper cleaning asap.
>Head out of bathroom, woman now unleashing on a poor waiter
>Shes too busy griping about how she "wasnt the one who made a scene cause she didn't do anything wrong" to see us coming out of the bathroom
>Sorry waiter
>we pay and leave quickly.

I got pants to change into and we were able to drop the dress off at the cleaners. We managed to have fun the rest of the evening.
Dress is fine, except for one small spot that's a tad stained. I get a little mad whenever I see it still.

I've never worn Lolita in an Italian restaurant since then.

>>10099922
I would have grabbed the closest utensil and stab her with it. Fucking yikes anon

>>10099922
Wtf is wrong with normies that makes them think a style of dress is an excuse to touch ANYONE? I would've knocked her lights out and sent her the cleaning bill.

>>10099922
I'm the anon up above who had their waist ties and buttons (for waist ties) ripped off by a stranger at the supermarket... I really don't know wyf gives people the idea that they have the right to grab lolita clothing. I wear all sorts of different "dressed up" fashions, and lolita has been the only one this has happened with. I even had a black lady LIFT my skirt up once because she wanted to see what was beneath. Bitch, what do you THINK? Luckily I wear bloomers but god damn, thanks for making me flash the public...

Last train of the night, completely packed, some drunk guy sat next to me and started talking to me because i wore "the same thing as his girlfriend". I found out from him that his girlfriend was an ageplayer who had been sexually abused by her father as a kid and he kept asking me if that was the case for me too. He also told me I should meet his gf and that she would love me and my clothes and we could become good friends.

I couldn't change seats thanks to the train being so full so I had to listen to him for 30 minutes. I ignored him the entire time and chatted with my friends on phone, but he just kept going on. I have never been happier to reach my stop.

>>10099930
Broke: Lolitas wear bloomers because it's modest.
Woke: Lolitas wear bloomers because if we don't some poor bastard will flash themselves with our panties.
(Why does every lolita have at least one "I had to remind a grown ass adult not to lift other people's skirts" story.)

>>10100019
>Why does every lolita have at least one "I had to remind a grown ass adult not to lift other people's skirts" story
Honestly, the psychology behind it fascinates me. There's so much content and discussion about why girls choose to wear lolita, but I want to know what it is about lolita fashion that makes people who may otherwise be completely normal and ordinary, to go completely apeshit and lose all semblance of humanity.
I haven't had any true horror stories (thankfully) but plenty of occasions when grown adults touched me and my dress or lift up my skirt to see what makes it poofy, and a moment later immediately apologized and felt embarrassed for their behavior. What is it about our frilly dresses that makes people forget their manners?

>>10099851
I fainted right as one of my graphic design classes ended and got sent to the ER in Lolita. At least the nurse and doctor thought I was cute.

Okay...not really horror, but every time i take the bus and wearing very obvious gothic lolita (in a satanic way, not just crosses) a very old nun takes the bus too and at least once she sat right next to me, and shes overweight and im tiny so i was literally trapped all the way to my stop. I was fucking anxious because i thought she would turn around and scream at me or something, which happens sometimes.
>>10100033
Ahahah that's a cool story

>>10100037
>very obvious gothic lolita (in a satanic way
Explain? What does that mean?

>>10100038
Stuff like pic related. I tend to wear jewelry with sigils too.

>>10100045
Oh! That's pretty cool. Do you see her often? I wonder how she'd react to a nun coord. :^)

>>10100045
Don't cut yourself on all that edge

>>10100037
Regular old ladies might scream at you, but I doubt a sister or nun would. They tend to be more educated and therefore less stupid than the populace.
Maybe she’d get into a convo with you about how inverted crosses are actually a symbol of St. Peter or something.

>>10099928
>>10099930

Looking back I think she might have been severely mentally handicapped or something. I mean it really did look like she had been eating it with her hands. I've had other normies touch my shit a few times but never QUITE like that.

>>10099994
Why do people think everyone wants to talk about their kinks/abuse stories with strangers, drunk or otherwise? Geez anon, I'm glad he didn't do anything creepier...

>>10100033
Be glad it wasn't a serious emergency of the type where the EMT's cut you out of your clothes. Hope you ok.

>>10100072
My parents have a friend who's a monk, he's super chill and definitely not obnoxiously religious
>>10100097
Not even his trauma, he was just airing out his gf's abuse and kinks to a complete stranger, I would be pissed

>>10100019
This has happened to me once too. Fucking middle aged white bitches man

>>10100072
>Maybe she’d get into a convo with you about how inverted crosses are actually a symbol of St. Peter or something.
I've done this to people who are obviously edgy satanists. Cause Im a cunt.

Not really my horror story, but at a Halloween meet up a few years back, we were getting ready to leave and my tall friend was bending down to fix her socks and I ended up "nnnNOOOO!"-diving between her and some middle aged lady who was crouching to take a photo "of her petticoats because they're frilly".
Like lady, no, please don't upskirt my friend, it's not like the rest of our attire is any less frilly.

>>10099854
So you bled through your bloomers and petti huh?

>>10100121
But anon, this story is about a fucking middle aged black bitch, shut up.

>>10099922
She sounds mentally retarded.

>>10100045
Info on the dress for a fellow edgelord?
I love wine and gold, and that print is gorgeous!

>>10100138
Informing people makes you a cunt now? lol

>>10100140
This reminds me of an upskirt pic of a lolita I saw while salvaging some pics from flickr a few days ago. Coincidentally, said lolita was also bent over to apparently fix her socks, which was enough incentive for some creepy fucker to take a picture of her petticoat and bloomers and post it online. Your friend was lucky to have you around to shield her from that woman.

>>10100108
This is one of my fears. I’d rather die than let healthcare professionals cut up my brand to save my life.

>inb4 edgy af

>>10100443
>Informing people makes you a cunt now? lol
It's because my motivations are cuntish. It's not to inform but rather troll. They always get mad when I say this. I ask them if they're a devout catholic first, which they reply "no" and then I ask them why they have the cross of saint peter and the pope. hey usually try and tell me how it's satan and then I "educate" them on the history of why it's associated with satan (protestants seeing the pope as the anti-christ) and that hollywood has just run with it as a satanic symbol.

>>10100097
>>10100113
Yeah I was kinda shocked how lightly he just talked about such heavy and personal stuff about his gf. I know many people around us could hear it too.

>>10100449
Hmm I see your point, but you're still educating them so I don't think there's anything truly bad about it ngl. If they get mad because they're ignorant, that's on them, and frankly they should be embarrassed for feeling edgy for wearing symbols they don't understand.

>>10100138
I love you, that's amazing

>>10100447
That doesn't sound edgy anon, a lot of brand clothes are expensive and sometimes irreplaceable. I was just saying to my mom the other day how if my house caught on fire and everyone was safe the first thing I'd do is run to my closet to pick out my most favourite dresses and take them with me. I love my dresses so much and even with insurance it's not like just running to the store to replenish my black jeans, I've been building up this wardrobe for years. My dresses are as important to me as other people's old antiques, family photos or prized toy collections. Lolita is everything to me and I will die with it.

>>10100492
nayrt but legit though
If such an emergency happened, would insurance replace the outfit?
I know in some cases they have? IDK about health insurance.
But in certain scenarios, I'm sure the destruction of the brand would cost someone more than their insurance bill.

>>10100498
Thing is with lolita in a lot of cases insurance can reimburse you but there's no guarantee you'll ever even find that dress again in the same condition unless you bought it new and it's still in stock. Sometimes it takes years to find a dream item on the secondhand market even once, let alone a second time. I worry that if something happens to my clothes I'll be searching ages for a lot of things or I'll just never find them again and insurance will assume they can be as easily replaced as going to the mall and picking up another white tshirt or generic jeans.

Honestly, even if something happened to my favourite blouse I'd be devastated because it fits me perfectly and I've never seen come up for sale again. It has sentimental value too since I bought it at the first brand store I ever went to. I do have insurance but still I worry a lot about these things.

>>10100492
>>10100498
>>10100507
A lot of my wardrobe is rare one of kind items.

>>10099851
off topic, but I wish I could find a decent pair of lace gloves like in the op pic

>>10100108
Now that I'm out of college, I'm a MILLION times okay! But yeah, I really lucked out considering I was wearing the dream dress I bought a couple weeks prior to that incident. No amount of insurance would have replaced it either, since I was so desperate to get the dress that I had to ask someone on Lace Market that couldn't sell it several years ago to see if they were willing to sell it again at the same price or higher.

>>10100149
Not everyone wears those, stupid.

>>10100056
>not caring about someone else's made up bullshit
That's not edgy.

>>10100628
but one would assume someone with enough years, prosperity and dedication to the fashion to own an actual CTP would probably be wearing those.

Unless if it was a replica.

>>10100265
>>10100121
but seriously why is it always middle aged women that do it

men sometimes but the perpetrators are almost always older women who should fucking know better

what gives

>>10100138
Did you just refer to yourself as a cunt after ostracizing people for being edgy??

>>10100140
This why you don’t bend over with your back and you kneel down. I went to a meet with a shit ton of people and we were all standing around outside and a group of dumb jock looking bastards were standing around. The one girl in shiro and high heeled boots bent over and gave them a full exposure of her blue panties- it even got captured on film by someone taking a selfie in front of her lmao

>>10100643
It was rereleased and isn't special anymore. Where have you been?

>>10100659
True, but one would still be wearing layers under one's dress, unless anon's period reached her dress through her petticoat, assuming she wasn't also wearing bloomers.

>>10100664
Some girls have a heavy flow and anon even mentioned having to makeshift a pad out of tp.
Are you not actually a woman by chance?

>>10100670
I am a woman and a lolita believe it or not, guess I've just been lucky to never have a leak that serious.

>>10099928
It's not just normies, I've had a few people touch my hair when it was natural because "they couldn't believe it's real".

Some people were just raised by animals

>>10100492
Between my dress, pc, and anime figures I'll kill myself if a fire happened.

>>10100709
Same anon, If all my dresses burnt up I think I'd either kill myself or just stand there in the fire waiting to die with them if I can't get them to safety.

>>10100709
id take my least fave dress and smash through my bedroom window before i let the flames engulf my beautiful, frilly children

>>10100672
Agree. I've had so many strangers tug on/rub my parasol it's disgusting. Some people just don't know what personal space is and we're never taught to "touch with your eyes not hands" as children.

>>10100492
I’d gladly die with my brand. My wardrobe means the world to me. I have very few things that make me happy in this world and if my brand were to get destroyed in a disaster like a fire or a flood, I’m honestly not sure how I could possibly cope.

>>10100518
I wouldn't call any of my wardrobe one of a kind, but I could probably spend years trying to re-find everything, and still not find it all. That's not even getting in to sentimental attachment to my clothes, being able to look at them and think "I met so-and-so wearing this" or "I wore this to lunch with my bestie that time the food was awful". I like that feeling a lot, so while I could replace them it wouldn't be quite the same.

>>10100719
Same senpai
>Burn ward kei is the next big trend, I can feel it in my 3rd degree burns

>>10100628
Who doesn’t wear a petticoat at least?

>>10100741
Same, a lot of my pieces are older non-prints

>>10100868
Anons who post here pretending to be lolitas and don't actually know shit about it. :^)

>>10100265
oddly enough the most complements i get when wearing lolita are from elderly black ladies

>>10100936
Same, black ladies have good taste

>>10100937
Me too. I’ve been called “natty” twice, once by my world renowned African American literature professor emerita, which made me pretty happy.

>>10100936
Little old black ladies are always the nicest fucking people. I worked at a Mcdonalds near a black baptist church as a teen, and Sunday lunches were always full of "You have a blessed day, honey/sweetheart". It always made my day so much brighter.
They're also always so freakin' cute dressed in their sunday outfits with their little hats. I wonder, though, if that's why they appreciate lolita so much.

>>10101037
I love the hats and I think one that isn't too tacky might work in a classic coord. I've been wanting to try it for a while.

>>10100936
same. they love when everything is 'matchy' and well color coordinated.

Let a now ex friend borrow my dream dress and a few other pieces because I was pregnant and couldn’t wear it. She then proceeded to try and seduce my husband and was mad when he rejected her and we both told her she needed to return our things and get out of our lives she retaliated by selling all my clothes and flaunting her vacation paid for by her stolen sales. It took me until my baby was 6 months old to be able to afford my dream dress again. I was so upset.

>>10101262
God I wish cgl would let us name and shame. She deserves the shitstorm of all shitstorms.

>>10101262
I hope you called the cops on her bitch ass

>>10101330
of course not, lolitas are spineless

>>10100912
I should have been more clear, I only meant bloomers.

However I don't wear a petti to bed and I sleep in lolita on occasion.

>>10100721
Its "look with your eyes and not your hands"

>>10101330
I did but was told it was a civil matter and I would have to take it to the magistrate if I wanted anything done.

>>10101461
This. I'd never let a bitch borrow my clothes.

>>10101520
I don't know why you wouldn't push it. You could probably find the sales page easily and likely wouldn't have a difficult time proving it was yours

>>10101596
Well imagine you just had a baby, some whores trying to steal your clothes and husband, I can imagine she was tired and just wanting to get over it. I probably would have at least commented on the listings and her social media posts that she stole your shit

>>10101461
Exactly never let anyone wear your clothing unless it’s bodyline you don’t mind losing. Not even accessories- the only thing I’d risk is petticoats and even then

>>10102422
Yeah I had a complicated pregnancy and was on bed rest at the end...then had a very complicated birth that ended up with me in the ICU for a couple weeks. I got home and I really couldn’t handle the added stress on top of everything else going on. It was easier to save up for the dress again than waste time and money trying to sue her for my clothes. Plus my hormones and ppd were raging to the point I’m sure if I saw her I wouldn’t have been able to hold back on her verbally and/or physically. It was just overall a rough time in my life that is thankfully behind me now.

>>10100644
>Have reeeaaallly long hair
>Outside of lolita, people still grab my hair from behind like that's not grounds for me to scream for my life
>"I love your hair!"

>>10100628
They do at a tea party when wearing a dress of that cut and material...

>>10100492
I hope I find something like as much as you and the other anons like their dresses

>>10104876
Can relate anon. Happens to me all the time. Why can't people grasp the fact that it's wildly inappropriate to be touching people and grabbing parts of them without consent?

If I don't know you, please don't fucking touch any part of me, my clothes, especially my hair. It's beyond creepy. If you want long hair that you can play with grow it your god damn self.

>>10104876
>>10104923
how long is your hair if people can reach for it before you can stop them?

>>10104992

I don't know if you've noticed, but we haven't evolved with eyes on the backs of our heads. Usually people notice the length of the hair from behind and that's when and where they strike. It's rarely a frontal or side assault.

>>10105007
my bad, i was only thinking of hair from the front
Is there like a length where this starts to happen, bc this doesnt happen to every woman

>>10105015

as a would be hair assaulter (female) i'd say about waist length. Particularly if it's well kept.

I haven't ever touched anyone's hair without permission, but I guess a combination of jealousy and an innate need to style hair makes it very tempting. I used to have a roommate who had beautiful wavy waist length hair and it was really hard to sit behind her in class. When I later started getting waist length hair I'd start getting similar comments from other women too.

>>10100492
I think about this cause I live near the coast and if a tsunami ever happens I’d rather drown with my brand

>>10105016
tfw want to grow longer than waist length

>>10105015
Depends I think. If you're a ginger I bet it starts happening at chest length. I started getting it around waist length and now at almost knee length I keep it braided over my shoulder and it gets commented on pretty regularly when I go out in public. Thankfully most people don't grab for it much if I keep it toward my front.

My entire wardrobe burned down in November in one of the California fires. I talked about it in the feels thread but if ever there was a horror story, it was this.

I was alone with my 3yo daughter and dogs when we got the evac order. I grabbed what I could at the time but the power cut out about 20 mins after. I got the deed to our house, our birth certificates, social security cards, baby pics, wedding pics, a duffel of clothes, my jewelry, took pics of my house and then a op banged on my door asking why I was still there. I needed to go, now.

So i immediately load up the car, grab my daughter and our 2 dogs, leave my cats with the window open so they can get out and leave all my brand behind.

When I got to my mothers house after meeting up with my husband, she keeps telling me how I'm being a drama queen. There's no way my house burnt down, dont tell people that if we dont KNOW. Well, okay one week later get pics of my house burnt to the ground. On my birthday. The fire was so hot, even the wooden slats in between the concrete slabs in my drive way burned to ash.

My entire is wardrobe ash now. Since then, I have had insurance come through and my husband has agreed to let me go on a 25k shopping spree after we buy a new house.

But I wouldn't wish this on anyone.

>>10105182
The horror story to end all horror stories, oh my god. I'm glad you and your family are okay but I'm so sorry this happened to you.

>>10105174
>If you're a ginger I bet it starts happening at chest length
Wut why? Don't most people avoid gingers?

>>10105182
i hope your kitties made it out alive!!! I could never leave my pets behind like that

>>10105182
Holy typos

>>10105223
Yeah, I didn't want to, but that's what I was told to do. They had become freaked out and were hiding. It was raining ash, everyone was leaving and you could hear transformers popping. I felt pretty fucking guilty but at that point I needed to get my lil girl out.

Once we were allowed back, we set up a game cam at an animal shelter and found them. One was very sick. Starved and dehydrated with a bad burn. She's been recovering for almost 2 months now. Had to give her subcutaneous fluids for like a week, she was so weak. But now she just needs her fur to grow back and to gain more weight. She's back to getting lots of love and cuddling with her sister. Who was found 12 days later, fatter than before with one tick and in need of a bath.

>>10105235
>fatter than before
Once again proofing the superiority of cats

>>10105221
>Don't most people avoid gingers?
lol who told you this? Red hair tends to stand out more than other natural colors, I'm assuming this is why. One of my friends is ginger and has people pestering her about her long hair pretty regularly.

>>10100138
It’s used by both. Atheists are so fucking retarded and antagonistic.

>>10101262
How fucking low do you have to be to try to get your pregnant friend's husband to cheat with you?? Holy shit that's not just fucking with a relationship that's fucking with a kid's family. That's so fucked up I'm glad your husband curbed that thot hard. I hope you can get all of your dresses bought back someday anon she sounds like a disgusting bitch.

Explosive diarrhea wearing my favorite dress in a public bathroom

>>10105288
Nyart but don't satanists have their own cross?

>>10105239
Like....my entire life of seeing people make fun of gingers, call them gross, and generally refer to them as soulless?? Idk people in my experience are very harsh towards gingers but my experiences probably aren't universal.

>>10105235
That's understandable, anon. Sometimes we have to make really tough split second decisions in life. I'm glad to hear both your family and the kitties made it, though!

>>10105319
Sounds like it isn't universal. I'm familiar with the "gingers don't have souls hurrdurr" meme but I guess I've been fortunate to not meet someone who talks and behaves like this in person.

>>10105319
>>10105335
England/Ireland seem to have a weird dislike of redheads but from my experience people in other countries are either neutral or fascinated by them.

>>10105182
What a nightmare. So glad you & your daughter got out safe.

>>10105235
>fatter than before
such a cat thing.

>>10105319
I thought it was one of those things where you take the piss but it doesn't actually change whether you chose to be friends, hang out or generally interact with someone (unless you're being like...an edgy teenager at high school and finding reasons to exclude someone from the friend group for a week)

>>10104819
God bless you, anon. No one deserves to go through what you went through, and I'm so glad that awful time is behind you. Wishing you all the best relationships, dresses, and days in your future.

>>10105339
>England/Ireland seem to have a weird dislike of redheads but from my experience people in other countries are either neutral or fascinated by them.
ginger hair is associated with ireland and scotland, and all nations in the british isles either hate, or at least make fun of each other for any reason possible

>>10105174
>I started getting it around waist length and now at almost knee length I keep it braided over my shoulder and it gets commented on pretty regularly when I go out in public.
impressive

>>10105015
My hair goes down to my thighs, so I'm "lucky" enough to be able to fully turn around and look at them holding my hair.

>>10105015
I'd say waist length too is usually when people start to notice and get handsy. My hair is around hip length almost touching my ass and people bother me about it all the time.Usually I keep it to my front or sometimes in two big braids so strangers don't try and start playing with it without me noticing.

It also doesn't help that it's dyed black and I wear egl, so I guess I look like some horror movie character. If only that were enough to scare them off. If anything it makes normies seem to think I'm some weirdo living doll prop that they can touch without asking.

>>10105393
>>10105426
im thinking of growing to a similar length, then maybe longer if i like it
i take it this doesnt happen(at least not as often) when your hair is up

>>10105434
Nayrt but my hair is down to my knees and about 95% of the time I keep it braided and in a bun. People never mess with it, and on the rare occasion I do wear it down my friends/coworkers accuse me of wearing a wig.

>>10105434
I never wear my hair up due to headaches but I'd assume it's less likely to happen. Usually if it's long and worn down behind you it tends to attract attention more than any other style, especially if it's particularly straight and smooth or particularly curly and bouncy looking.

>>10105319
>imagine actually believing the soulless ginger meme.
do you believe in the tooth fairy too?

>>10105507
I never said I believed those things, anon. I just said that I noticed it was a popular belief.

My horror story for today ,I was out shopping when a bunch of 12-14 year old boys start cat calling me (nothing I’m not used to) but instead of the usual I got “what’s up chink, Ching Chong” ect. I’m not Asian...
Making your parents proud kids.

>>10101262
I feel you on this. A woman from my comm sexually assaulted my children’s father at a time we were trying to help her out. We’ve now been paying out the butt for therapy for him after the incident and a mutual acquaintance just told us she’s all but gloating about selling the clothing and things we’d gifted her when we thought she was down on her luck. Learned our lesson and just don’t help people anymore. Hopefully you guys are doing ok.

>>10105465
huh I thought I was the only one who got headaches from putting my hair up.

>>10105730
We should start beating kids up again when they behave like that. I swear.


Had a mom try to buy my dress off of me for her daughter and pitched a fit in the middle of the restaurant when i yelled "no" after i lost my patience as her bratty crotchspawn was whining "but i'll have the dress right? you said i could mom!! why can't i have it?" before starting to screech. I got so pissed i took my glass of wine and threw it in the mom's face but in the process i got some on my dress. Bitch tried to claw my face and ruined a small fragile part of my headdress with her sharp nails.
I hate people so much.

>>10106026
My SO and a waiter managed to separate us because this crazy cunt wouldn't let go and even tried to bite me. It was horrible,didn't even get my favorite dessert or finished my plate as we paid immediatly and ran outside and i had an anxiety outburst and started crying in the car after. I hope her and her failed abortion get in trouble

>>10106026
>>10106031
While that lady sounds like a bitch and her kid very spoiled, you also sound like an insufferable twat. Perfect Storm I guess.

>>10106026
Just out of curiosity, which dress was it? If the girl didn’t know what lolita was and just thought her mom could buy her a dress right away off some random, was there anything special about that particular dress? Or did she just not know of lolita and hadn’t seen anything like it before?

I know Lor once talked about some normie pressuring her to sell her honey cake while she was wearing it which I guess is understandable because it’s not only highly sought after in lolitas but it is an awesome pancake dress in normie eyes.

>>10106026
God, I hate when parents let their crotchspawn screech like banshees in public. I miss the days when parents disciplined their brats for being little shits.

>>10106026
why would anyone think its acceptable to ask buy clothing another person is currently wearing???

>>10105462
Oh shit, what's up, other me?

>>10105182
God I am so sorry, anon

>>10106171
Hey there, hair twin. I recently had my hair down but was wearing a hat, and one of my neighbors asked me where I bought my "hair hat". Hair hat?? "Yeah, your hat with all that craaazy super long fake hair sewn in." Sigh.

>>10105182
25k on just clothing?

>>10106204
It adds up really fast when you have to replace every part of your wardrobe, especially when it comes to lolita

>>10106026
And then everybody clapped

>>10106026

>>10106315
You should make a wardrobe post when it's complete.

>>10100138
When I was 16 or so, I had a Death Note necklace that was an inverted cross. A sales associate at Home Depot started grilling me about it (the whole St Peter thing etc), and after she said "You should tell your friends that the place where Jesus was crucified is called Skull. It's a cool way to start a conversation about Jesus. I bet that will get everyone interested."

When I informed her I went to a Catholic school, she got kind of miffed and left. I wonder how she would have reacted to a gothic lolita coord...

>>10106094
You would probably also be angry if that happened, fuck off.

>>10106105
Lacy Bright JSK. Don't ask me I have no idea what went through their mind either. It was a young ass kid too so they probably thought it was some princess dressup dress

>>10106322
>>10106352
>nothing ever happens
Except the mom was still yelling at the staff as we got away so no, no one clapped. Everyone was uncomfortable.
Entitled parents are real shit. And so are their kids.

>>10106106
I never had to “discipline” my kid in the way most people push (aka spanking). As a baby and toddler, if she acted up we’d leave instantly until she calmed down. She learned natural consequences and all that, but impulse control in little kids is near nonexistent. Their brains literally can’t do it. So as a parent you have to be ready to take your hellspawn out of the situation when things aren’t going well. I studied child psychology in college and I can’t stand when parents either sit there and let their kids run rampant or they just start smacking them in public like that’s actually going to fix the problem in the long run.

>>10105182
Oh anon. That's horrific. I can't imagine losing everything. I also have a 3 year old daughter and two cats. I'm literally crying thinking about it.

I wish you and your family all the best in the future. I think you've all earned it.

Also, I'm glad to hear the kitties are safe, brave resourceful lil guys. I could survive the loss of my wardrobe, but not my cats.

>>10106382
I dislike kids and want to smack one whenever i hear them cry or scream but what you say is pretty right and the best thing to do. They're small and they need patience and "time out" more than being slapped or spanked.

>>10104876
this happened to my step mom growing up! people don't believe her when she says it's real

>>10106380
>you would too if you were me
No, I wouldn't throw wine in a woman's face, you definitely escalated the situation by assaulting her. You made the first physical move and you had a panic attack after because socially that shit is unacceptable. You were an adult acting like a pissy child. Congratulations you are the the thing you hate.
neck yourself.

>>10100265
I've had nothing but good experiences with older black women but middle aged white women are so obnoxious when they see me in lolita.

>>10105221
Men maybe (admittedly never met a ginger boy that wasn’t weird and awkward), but not women. I’m a natural redhead and if my mom left me alone in the grocery store when I was a teenager 9 times out of 10 I’d get at least one old man or 20-30 something dude trying to flirt with his very first comment being about my hair. It still happens occasionally. Never had anyone touch me, but it curls up a fair amount and I’ve never grown it out past my ribs in the back as much as I’d like to. I wish people avoided us.

>>10106382
>New study finds spanking children makes them more likely to respond to a situation with violence
>"This is dumb! I am never violent and I was spanked as a child. That's why I always react to my children being children with violence."
Everytime

>>10107065
Hope you carry pepper spray

>>10105235
I'm such a weenie that I cried a little knowing you got out safe, found your cats, and are nursing one back to health.

I hope you find all your dream dresses and anything else you were wanting.

>>10107180
I must be a weenie too because I also cried. having a fire situation where I can't get my cats out in time is my ultimate nightmare. The dresses would just feel like the icing on the shit cake at that point. I can't even imagine losing everything so fast.

>>10105840
I’m sorry anon. Thanks for the support. We’ve learned to be more careful with who we trust as well.

>>10100653
Most girls in my comm have no idea how to move in knee-length skirts and because of this I know many of them don’t wear bloomers, either. They’ll bend over with their ass in the air, sit with their knees up and far apart, come out of the bathroom with the back hem of their skirt stuck in their underwear or tights etc. None of this excuses people trying to take upskirt photos but I wish my comm didn’t make it so damn easy.

>>10104876
>>10104923
>>10105016

What the fuck!?
Do people actually do this and think it's ok? I'm rarely happy with my friends or family touching my hair.

My hair's down to my butt, but I very rarely wear it down to prevent damage/sitting on it/just being a general nuisance when it's windy, and I never have my hair out if I'm walking alone at night or through sketchy areas so I'm not an easy target.

Maybe you should start wearing it up with a fork/pin and if anyone gets to close stab em with it.

>>10105182
Housefires are such miserable experiences. I'm glad things have been working out alright for you. I hope you get you DD.

>>10106488
same! i went to a concert one time and the lady working the hand towel station (she's black) was so excited about my "cancan" skirts haha, whereas the other day i was out shopping and this elderly white woman bursted out laughing at me as i walked past her.

>>10105182
never moving to cali

>>10100037
>a very old nun
out of pure idle curiosity, could you describe her habit?

>>10107818
Born and raised, just don’t live near forests or hills. It’s a great place but don’t join the Lolita comm, all wannabe celebrities.

>>10105182
My God, I cant even imagine... though I'm glad your cats were okay. Think of this as a chance to refine your wardrobe to be the best it can. I hope to see a wardrobe pic someday anon. I'm rooting for you!

The worst I’ve had so far when out in in lolita is some teens snickering at me while out shopping, and I wasn’t much bothered by it-high schoolers will be high schoolers. Think I’ve had worse experiences in normie clothes, kids seem to be drawn to grabbing or touching my boobs. Can’t say I’m really a fan, especially because parents pretend it’s “soooo cute/funny”. Thankfully lolita seems to disrupt the strange booby hypnosis because the full skirt is more fun than molesting me.

>>10107818

CA isn't great for a lot of reasons, but there are disasters everywhere. Pretty bummed I'm moving to hurricane country. I am actually worried about my brand if ever an evac is ordered.

>>10105182
Jesus, I'm glad you're ok. I'm sure there are ninety million things that you're worried about, but the shopping spree does sound nice! Sending good DD vibes your way.

I feel like this is going to be mild cheddar compared to some other stories.

Lots of pictures taken of me. I think the worst was in London when a guy approached me and clearly was making fun of me, but at that point I had no spine so I let him take a picture with me to probably post to whatever social media and laugh at how silly I looked. I've gotten better since then, and calling out people for photo taking is fun.

The other incident is that my friend and I were going to a flea market and one of the sellers decided it was very appropriate to lift our skirts to look at our petticoats. Weird shit.

>>10115655
Hurricanes aren't the worst in terms of getting your shit out tho. Always a lot of warning ahead of time, so if it seems like it might get bad you have time to pack it all up. Investing in waterproof storage bins would be a good idea.

>>10115659

Ah, I actually feel better now I know that, thank you. Will look into the storage bins.

>>10106380
Most people aren't rachet ghetto clowns who start fights over annoying children, sorry.

>>10115663
If you're keeping them in bins in your house also try to put some bricks in the bottom to weigh it down, just in case of flooding. If you have the option, stacking them in our car and skidaddling is the way to go ofc.

>>10115666

Will do. All the more reason to start doing that closet clean I was putting off. Thank you again.

I tripped on an escalator and got these dark grease/oil stains on the chiffon of my dress. How the hell do I get it out? I've tried handwashing that part with woolite delicate and using a tide pen - NOTHING!

>>10115935
Sorry anon. Oil and grease permanently stain polyester.

>>10115935
It sounds weird but coffee grounds are actually great to remove oil and grease, a tip I got from a friend who is into bikes

>>10100936
Me too, even when I'm wearing different fashions I always get a cute compliment from them

>be a small 17 y/o headed to first meet
>it's ILD so i'm scared to look rough like normal
>go for this slightly sweet monocolor coord, shoes matched great, 2 pettis like god intended
>ignore mild stares getting off bus
>fuck, misread the meet location
>start walking down the road
>shoes dig a little
>eventually walk about half a mile, begin limping
>i make it to the meet and suppress limp as best i can
>"h-hi"
>everyone already knows each other
>i don't have the social skills to make any friends
>get 1-2 "well, i looked worse than you when i started out"
>sneak awkwardly out while everyone is taking photos
>walk another half mile to bus, now limping outright
>get home, change into normie clothes, realize i've bled through tights and into the patent leather
>heels ugly as shit for a week or two after

>>10106382
I was spanked and I didn't turn violent. I learned not to do the thing that got me spanked because I hated spankings. Also I have the most loving parents. I actually feel pretty bad when I hear the way my friends parents treat them.

>>10116751
I was spanked and I have lasting issues. But my parents were also emotionally abusive and unavailable. Pretty common for "spanking" to be more like "beating" or "terrorizing." You were lucky not to get that.

>>10115935
failing the other suggestions, try dish soap to cut grease, if it can save baby birds covered in oil, maybe it can save the dress.

>>10116483
I am really sorry OP, that was an unfortunate day

>>10105319
this started with south park way back. it's mostly a high school/internet thing now. more redheards I know irl don't get that kind of shit.

>>10106382
I was spanked and was admittedly a very violent little kid.

>>10116977
eh, they healed up fine and i got free snacks so it was still a net win imo

>>10116483
That's why you never buy smaller shoes.

>Be me, a dumbshit.
>Decide to wear (Bodyline) RHS out for the first time, looking cute as hell
>Agree to walking ~20min on shitty footpaths to a particular restaurant as I've been doing well so far
>'Bitch, I got this'...
>Mfw stacked hard, broke the heel clean off my shoe and scraped up my knee, hands and shoulder
>Even more embarrassed as my friend was legitimately concerned about me, despite being the kind of friends who normally just laugh at our dumb asses.
I am glad I only bled on my petti though, and made it out without breaking an ankle.

>>10116483
hugs for you anon.
It's tough in general to meet other people; it's not just lolitas. If you're happy in your hobby, then keep trying, and definitely share that joy - perhaps on social media - with your comm-mates. When our passions are shared, other people who have those passions find us and feed from that passion and contribute. Remember: everyone wants to talk about themselves. Let them talk about themselves for a bit and share also what you have. Don't give up.

>>10117118
yeah, i want to time warp and smack younger me for thinking cheap online shoes would be true to my size.

>>10117153
thanks, anon. i'm a lonelita atm, but met plenty of kind people after getting over myself a little.

>be me
>the macy's near me is closing
>ah yes, get some cheap normie clothes
>find the PERFECT loliable blouse
>lovely collar, nice lace, solid colour, good material
>try it on
>where's the other armhole???
>?????????????????????????
>It's a one arm blouse like those shitty 80s shirts
>cry
at least I didn't buy it and find out after I got home lol but I definitely got my hopes up for nothing

>>10117142
>>Even more embarrassed as my friend was legitimately concerned about me
while it may have been embarrassing at the time just be glad you have a good enough friend to break the bantz and show concern

>>10117286
buy it & use fabric from long sleeve to turn into two short sleeves

>>10117329
find the person that got that 13 sleeve BL luckypack and ask if you can have 1