/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

Man, I just really love Aristo.

>tfw no senpai to wait hentai with

I just got a raise, but I knew it was coming for awhile, so I'm pretty sure I've already bought too many things with the "I'm getting a raise" excuse.

It's enough to technically buy another new dress every month, but also I want to be responsible and save more and probably won't. First world problem, I know.

>>10089077
Buy a new dress every other month.

>>10089077
Save first. Having savings built up means that in the event of a catastropic incident, you probably won't have to sell your burando to pay for it!
Burando will always be there, your kidneys might not.

Man I just really love cosplay

>tfw I want to get into cosplay but I have a ton of scars
What the fuck, why was I so retarded in high school and why did I have to get in a car wreck??

>>10089167
Cosplay a character with scars.

>>10089168
It will fuck with my autism not to have the same scars in the same spots as the character.

>>10089169
Get a cosplay that requires body paint or is full body.

>>10089167
>>10089169
Have you tried something like mederma or vitamin cream, or even a dark spot corrector? I also have scars and all those things have really helped through the years.

Or you could cosplay characters that have the areas where you're scared covered.
Cosplaying scarred characters would be really cool even if they didnt match up though!

>>10089172
Yeah, whatever. I'm completely fucked. I just won't do it.

>>10089173
I don't know how well mederma will work on the big one on the right side of my forehead. It protrudes quite a bit

>>10089174
Okay.

>>10089174
Then stop bitching.

>>10089185
>>10089186
Fine

>>10089174
Go mech. No one will know who you are or what you look like.

Japonica was a slow bitch and missed my rare DD even though they had like 24 hours to buy it before it sold. I'm so upset. How do you get over this feeling gulls?

>>10089225
Cry. Buy like 6 things you don't really want off LM. Cry more. Write a bad review for Japonica. Cry even more.

It'll fade in time. I'm sorry, anon.

>>10089225
What dress was it? Post your throwaway, I'll keep an eye out for you too.

>tfw sack dress comes in and it's too small

Oh, not the bust or waist, those are so big I could drown in them. The shoulder width is tight enough that it's pulling on the sleeves inwards. It actually looks decent on but I feel like the she-hulk in it and don't dare move my arms goddamn.

>actually contemplating modifying burando because I like this dress, even though it's not my dream print

It's not gonna be a reversible mod. idk, I was gonna sit on it for a month then decide if I still like it enough to mod it, but if it's not modded I definitely dislike the way it feels when I wear it.

What do.

man I lust really love kamen rider

>>10089167
There are a multitude of heavy-duty concealers on the market that can cover everything from tattoos to scars. You could still do it.

More rant then feels but:

Someone on twitter that I follow on twitter is essentially unemployed, having to stay at a friends place, and yet they still try and go to cons.

How do people not have their priorities in order to sort their shit out before going to cons? I don't understand it.

>>10089243
This would be be except the bad review because I'm too nice.

I bought a BTSSB hoodie a few years back, and it was so comfy. It allowed me to feel close to lolita even when I couldn't wear actual lolita. A few days ago, I lost that hoodie somewhere. RIP favourite hoodie.

>>10089302
Anon I see you're also bringing love and joy to the thread with Kamen Rider


Good Job!

>>10089322
Does going to a con harm your ability to get employed or something?
Like, are we talking about some local con with $30 ticket or a very expensive con hours away?

>6 years ago
>hate for oldschool at an all time high
>find a dress second hand for cheap
>post to cgl a picture of it
>they tell me its fucking ugly, looks ita because of all the bows and ribbons on it
>they asked me why I picked it up, its practically unsalvigable
>someone says "it MIGHT be ok if they seam ripped the bows and ribbons off of it
>everyone agrees
>make a thread asking for improvements
>thanks to chrome, can tell there's a bunch of different posters
>everyone agrees that its ugly and that seam ripping all the bows and ribbons is the only way to go
>do it
>years later realize the dress was pic related
what have I done. what the fuck have I done.

>>10089388
I hope you find it.

>>10089504
Tell yourself it was a replica?

Auction Anon from last thread. Just lost a bid war. It went way above what I was able to pay for it. I'm kind of sad. I really want it. And sure, I could use paypal credit to pay for it. But it's not that worth it.

>>10089504
Hawase Dolls ribbons are removable. If you're gonna roleplay at least do it properly.

>>10089526
What were you bidding on?

>>10089537
An old school 2003 meta skirt and purse. I mean I really, really liked it. It would fit in well with my existing wardrobe. But I don't really need it.

>>10089538
The one on LM? But it's still going.

>>10089547
Yeah but I said it went above what I'm ABLE to pay for it. And that I COULD just use paypal credit, but it's not worth it.

>>10089552
Anon if you'd have to take a credit to pay $50 you shouldn't buy or bid on anything in the firsr place and invest in your savings instead..

>>10089555
I have a savings, I just don't want to dip too much into it for a non-necessity. I have katsu coming up and my sister's 30th birthday and my grandad's 70th and that's all part of my savings right now. If it was a dream dress, yeah I'd even dip into my con money.
But it's just something I thought was nice and tried to bid on.It crossed the limit of what I can pay right now with other obligations.
Not that deep, anon.

>>10089559
Ah, I see, I didn't mean to attack you or something. It sounded like you have only a very small budget.

>>10089566
No worries. I mean I am on a tight budget, if only for major birthdays and an expensive con. And it's also $80usd after shipping. And that's a fair few prints or other nice shit I could get at Katsu.
Again, if it was a dream dress, I'd sacrifice buying anything at Katsu for it.
It was an "ooh shiny!" bid and it got to the point I cut it before it was too far.

>>10089532
not if you seamrip them out, pull them out and throw them away. no ribbons left.

>>10089538
that print shows up really often anon, theres like 3 more listings of it i know of that are active rn

tfw no gf to do couple cosplays with

>>10089620
I don't know how to use anywhere but LM...

I got my Christmas bonus and I could buy a new dress with it but I’m trying to be responsible since I have a con coming up. I just have that itch to have something new in my hands. It’s so damn hard, gulls.

>>10089625
tfw no bf/gf to do couple cosplays with :(

I am ftm but I am afraid they will doubt my identity because of my love for frilly dresses and the fact that if I end up doing transition people will see me as some sick larper. I have not gotten out of the closet yet and i am scared to do so.

>>10089673
>doubt my identity
what does that even mean?

>>10089620
The other anon wasnt me.
I know it does. It was a really nice condition. One of the reasons it was nbd. It started off as a 1€ auction and it came with a nwt purse.
Im sad I lost the bid for it to be cheap, but I won't lose sleep over it.

>>10089709
To clarify, it wasnt a big deal because it show up a lot. And i care slightly because it was nice condition and came with the purse.
Sorry for the confusion, im trying to multitask. Im baby sitting for my sister so she can go out for her birthday.
The baby is asleep but she has needy dogs.

>>10089700
They're afraid people will tell them they're not really a boy if they wear frilly dresses.

I wish I was a paypig for a nice gull

>>10089721
>nice
>gull
Pick one.

>>10089721
I mean sure you can PayPal me three-fiddy if you like. What do I have to do in exchange though

>>10089721
I wish I had a paypig, but all of the ones I have had an opportunity with are super cringey sissy types. alas. I don't want to step on balls or do creepy shit, I just want money to buy cute things to make me feel cute and be friends.

>>10089721
I'm a nice gull, drop email.

>>10089515
Thanks anon. I’ve looked everywhere in the house and called anywhere I can think of, but still nothing;;

>>10089728
Same, anon. I could do like dressing a guy up if he wanted or sending (innocent, clean) pics of me in the things he buys. But I don't wanna hurt anyone, even if he wants it...

>>10089721
Guaranteed replies.

>>10089673
If it's that scary, stay in the closet. Wear your dresses and maybe... Play with the thought of just being a woman for the rest of your life?

I'm probably the last person you want to hear this from, because I have no sympathy or understanding for your gender issues. But my main reasoning is that being a cisgendered woman comes with a lot of privileges. Throughout history there have probably been many ftm like you who stayed in the closet because it was just... comfy?

Of course if push comes to shove and the female identity is making you feel like you're suffocating in sewer water you have to get out of it. But if it's just mildly uncomfortable, like cold water, you can stay in and get used to it. I have a childhood friend who's had a lot of mental illnesses, and they came out as ftm. Ever since they've been more stressed about withholding that identity and fighting to not be misgendered (which I am supporting as best as I can). To me it seems like way more trouble than it's worth, adding on top of the heap of problems he already had. Like you my friend withholds a lot of female oriented interests, which challenge the gender norm and makes everything harder. The derogatory term fakeboi fits him, sadly.

I've lost my train of thought and re-read what I just wrote. My take is that I'm basically telling you "just don't be trans" but I'll stand for that on a decorative Tibetan shoelace knotting forum. A kinder way of putting it could be "wouldn't it be great if you weren't trans"? No, that's still quite mean. I'm just bitter over my friend's percieved suffering and long for the fated day when de-transitioning becomes more trendy than transitioning.

>>10089719
but like, you are who you are, and wearing dresses doesn't determine if you are male or female. Who cares what others think?

>>10089751
Nayrt but wow I feel bad for your friend, having toxic people like you pretending to support him.

>>10089760
Yeah, whatever. The 'childhood friend' affinity always keeps him special to me, but we're not the closest we could be at an adult age. Disregarding our history, I'm more or less an acquaintance who respects his pronouns. Would you rather I didn't?

>>10089756
Anon does, apparently. As if cis women don't get judged for wearing frilly dresses above the age of 8.

>>10089673
Wear whatever, no one cares about your gender identity that much.

>>10089751
Let me put it this way: If your friend is doing this even though it's adding a lot more suffering to his life, it probably means a lot to him. People don't go out of their way to make their lives harder on a whim. Acting all sad about how "boo hoo my friend is suffering because The Trans got him. If only he could have continued to live his life in the way I think is best" just makes you look like a selfish ass that veils your discomfort with his new identity under the guise of being a good and caring friend.

>>10089769
That's a valid perspective. I'll take that, thank you.

>tfw starting to like chubby short guys now due to years of being a retarded anime nerd
Just fucking end my life already. I think it was sans from undertale that did it.

>>10089775
>chubby
>literal skeleton
wat

>>10089764
>Anon does, apparently.
thats a dumb way to live life.

>>10089775
What is it about sans that people obsess over?

>>10089775
Why is that a bad thing? They should be more attainable.

>>10089077
I was promised a contract job for 25k, almost immediately spent 5000 of the money i hadn't earned yet and then the job fell through and my car broke down for unexpected bills on top of that. Bad bad feel. Don't go too crazy.

>>10089778
I assume it's like most fictional character crushes where they like the character's looks/personality?
Idk, I don't see the sans appeal either.

>>10089673
I can't help but wonder what makes a person feel like a feminine ftm and not just a masculine, possibly homosexual woman. Where have all the tomboys and lesbians gone? Where is the line drawn? Wear whatever you want, honestly.. people will doubt your identity in or out of feminine clothing.


Every other lesbian has had their parents try to tell them it's a phase and they'll meet a nice man and want to have kirs some day, especially if they're femme, and even if they've only ever been with women.. in fact, especially if they've only been with women, because how do you know you don't love the D right?? And this is an identity that's been mainstream a lot longer than being genderqueer has. It's going to be an uphill battle no matter wtf you do, so just do whatever makes you happy, other people can fuck themselves frankly

>>10089775
i wish my standards would lower..

>>10089775
Nothing wrong with having a type. Sometimes you just look at all your fictional crushes and go "Oh no, there's a theme here" and that's valid.

>>10089799
Then lower them

>>10089782
Because fat people are greedy and they're ruining the planet.

>>10089806
Anon I'm crying thank you

>>10089803
You can't help who you are or are not attracted to.

>>10089786
That sucks anon. What did you spend 5k on tho..?

Im so tired of dating. Does anyone else kinda wanna go to a third world country and buy a slave boy to marry? Kinda like what white guys already do when they travel abroad. Idk how dangerous that would be as a woman tho.

>>10089826
hookers and brand

>>10089836
Third world not required. Your slave boy is here

>>10089836
>r9k sissy
no

>>10089836
Why are you tired of dating? Dating is supposed to be fun.

>>10089813
"Standards" implies they're restrictions that Anon set themselves tho. I'm not saying "Be attracted to people you aren't attracted to" I'm saying "If your standards are so high that you're having trouble finding a partner you might need to evaluate your standards"

>>10089852
>"Standards" implies they're restrictions that Anon set themselves tho
I don't think this is implied at all.

I get more and more bummed when I'm not wearing lolita. I've been trying to fill my normie wardrobe with cute things to fill the void when I'm not wearing lolita. But I still always wish I was just wearing lolita.

Sweet lolitas, how often do people ask if you're wearing a costume, or say "I like your cosplay" etc?
I get it almost everytime I'm out and it makes me feel like I'm not suited for this

Lolita gf left me.

>>10089890
I'm sorry anon. Do you need to talk about it?

>>10089836
you will more likely get enslaved yourself, if you gonna do that
(or worser)

>>10089836
Could you even afford one?

>>10089886
Like 1/3 of the time, other 1/3s are no comment or nice compliments

I'm so fucking tired of gemgem shitting on every single auction for every single item I like/want. I know she'll never be banned but it just annoys me so much.

>>10089673
I have a ftm friend who wears lolita as well. He's been out as trans many years and been on T for long enough that people who meet him for the first time now usually assume he's just a really gay cis man. I can't claim to understand trans struggles or wanting to transition, but the queer community tends to always have people not following the norms no matter what. Just do whatever you want.

>>10089673
I wish I could tell you that people will not care, but they will. Hell, even within our own community I've fought with transphobic gay, lesbian and bi people I considered friends. Like >>10089798 said, it will be hard no matter what, and if you feel like this is something that will make you happy in the long run, I think you should do it, fuck what others think, they'll find something to criticize anyway. I'm rooting for you.

Anyone else get a feeling of dread from posting to CoF? I try to post regularly because I do like seeing people's coords but I always have a fear of seeing myself being ripped apart on the CoF thread.
Maybe that's why a lot of lolitas have retreated to Instagram...

>>10089933
Then just don't look at the CoF thread

>>10089934
I have a bad habit of checking out of morbid curiosity, that's true.

>>10089726
Maybe just talk, I'd wanna know about what stuff you like
>>10089728
>>10089734
I don't like that kind of creepy stuff either
>>10089731
[spoiler]alfibeats91@gmail.com

my parents are getting divorced and it hit me like a truck. I started emotionally eating again and pretty much gained nearly all the weight I lost and feel way too depressed to start working out again, not that I even have the time as they're now treating me like im a third parent to my little brother so I'm having to baby sit him as soon as I get back from work so they can fuck off to go fuck their new partners.
The only thing keeping me going atm is waiting for something I preordered to arrive even though im sure i'll be too fat for it now.
I can't believe I have to go through a second divorce with my parents, this sucks

>>10089673
Take your T ayden.
But grats on liking to wear frilly dresses and not wanting to shoot your brains out. I love lolita so much, but the second I wear a dress i just feel like a disgusting crossdresser

>>10089493
Far enough away that they need to get a hotel room.

>tfw no lolita gf who ain't no beauty but is a secret fox
I know I mustn't step down

>buy jsk that I don't love cut on but love print of
>don't love it, considering selling it but that print tho
>find out there was a limited release cut of the print that would be infinitely more flattering on me and wasn't documented anywhere
It's a mixed feel, I'm annoyed that I wasted money on a dress I didn't really love but at the same time something better exists to chase. I just wish the damn thing was actually on Lolibrary so I'd known about it sooner.

>>10089913
I kinda miss the days of livejournal sales for this reason. Scalpers were rare and super fucking easy to spot.

>>10089673
>I'm a special snowflake that wants to be a kawaii yaoi anime boy uwu

I'm sorry, but what is it that makes you think you're a man on the inside? I know there dudes that crossdress, but most of them admit that they aren't very masculine. Seriously, there is nothing wrong with being a masculine woman, no matter what society migh tell you. Please don't mutilate your genitals for a trend.

>>10090064
M'mustn't

>>10089933
I felt the same way until I just started to avoid the CoF thread in general. It is tempting to look at, but you eventually get over it. Worst case scenario is that you get posted to the ita thread and get ripped apart on there instead.

>>10089886
Last time I went out, I had one lady ask me about it and then laugh in my face, had a coworker say I looked like little bo peep, and most other people didn't comment on it at all. I don't think I suit sweet necessarily bc i'm kinda ugly but it's been fine?

>>10089886
I has this old bald fat dude come on to me once and I'm pretty sure he thought I was a "little" by the way he was talking to me.

>>10089673
I will never understand you fakebois. You say you want to be a man yet want to continue dressing like a woman. If you present as female be prepared to be called female. Just don’t be such a piss baby about it.

>>10090312
Pssst. That's because they're trenders who don't really have dysphoria and just think that they're men because they're not 100% feminine all the time.

>>10089673
dont let 4chan dissuade you from doing what you want. im nonbinary, i expect to be misgendered as a fem presenting enby, and you should expect it too, just remember that no matter what anyone ELSE says you are who you are. Its fucking clothing, its like saying "hurr durr that man that wears makeup and a skirt is obviously a woman hurrrr" because not every person in a skirt is a woman. no shit.

I wish i had a qt cgl bf to take me on winter dates and buy me cute things. Im gentle, i like being cute, and i want to wait before doing anything lewd, but everyone interested in me for these things wont respect i move slow. Why cant i find an equally gentle bf

>>10090319
>im nonbinary
Lmao
Trenders, indeed.

>>10090321
keep talking about things you dont know about faggot

>>10090322
Fucking kek.
I'm sorry that you're a cis girl who needs a snowflake gender to make up for your lack of personality and hobbies.
Either or- Your fake gender is fake. Keep staying mad.

>>10090327
For real, what happened to all the androgynous people who didn’t need to be defined by a made up gender? You can be a genderfuck and be comfortable in being cis.

>>10090331
yes!
I love androgynous people but HATE the "i'm special gender" people.

>>10090320
Because men are scum. Don't wast your time on them, there's more to life than a relationship.

>>10089673
Nobody will give a fuck unless you're a sick sissy piece of shit, fag. Contrary to what you think, you aren't the center of fucking anyone's universe so nobody gives a rat's ass what the fuck you do with your life or your body except you. Unless you're fetishing it up in lolita and giving us all a bad name, do whatever you want. I could see a literal rat dressed in lolita and not care.

>>10090346
id also love a qt cgl gf ngl

>>10090327
b a s e d

>>10090331
They're still around, they're just not loud children yelling on the Internet. Honestly by engaging with the kids who are testing identities like hats you're just making them react even more stubbornly and wasting your own time. Just let them do what they want, they'll probably grow up and settle into a comfortable state of androgyny in their late 20's. I've seen lots of friends go through the same process, it'll be OK in the end.

>>10090347
You have to be 18 to use this site, dearie.
Why don't you go back to tumblr and talk aout how fem presenting nonbinary you are.
I'm sure they'll see how special you are,

>>10090322
Things I dont understand? Okay, explain it to me then please because every explanation I've gotten as to what "none-binary" is basically comes down to "I define and categorize people based on their gender and I'm not a walking stereotype so I made up my own gender". You people are seriously just sexist as fuck and I don't care if i get called a sjw for saying so. You clearly think that men and women should be confined to the stereotypes of their sex, and thus should change genders or get surgery if they can't conform all the way.

>>10090357
whoa, did I type this and forget? This is nearly word for word my take on gender.

>>10090331
Eh, we're still here, but tbf I also think it's pretty stupid to act like tumblr invented being trans and/or gender non-conforming. Queers have been fucking around with gender for a long, long time, not to mention that now that you're less likely to be fucking killed for not being cis/straight it shouldn't be surprising that people are more willing to explore their identities. Worst comes to worst the "posers" will grow out of it and the rest will transition.

>>10089184
Anon, there are theatrical makeups that can probably help, depending how much it protrudes. I know this means a large learning curve, but things like scar wax (for creating scars or shaping unusual noses) can be smoothed over parts of your face that don't move a lot. So if it's your forehead, it's likely you can smooth the shape down around the edges with it, then put makeup over it. Or hide it with a wig. Lots of characters have hair that covers their face!
https://www.witteartistry.com/blog/about-and-how-to-use-ben-nyes-nose-and-scar-wax

I'm sorry to hear about your injuries but don't give up! There are plenty of ways around appearances to make a cosplay work!

>>10089871
Become a daily lolita

Here comes the janny purge. Hold onto your butts.

>>10090366
Can't come fast enough. Thank you, based jannies

>>10090368
Stop licking janny asshole, they suck at their jobs.

>>10090368
based my ass, they've been deleting cgl-related posts for no apparent reason. I'm looking forward to this particular thread being purged, though, I'm tired of arguing about shit that has nothing to do with lolita

>tfw shit artist

>>10089299
Mod it. If you like it that much, you'll really enjoy wearing it when it fits properly. And even if you don't, YOLO and all that. You paid for it, it's yours, make it wearable as long as the modification still looks nice!

>>10090366
its annoying because gender stuff is 100% cgl related. You can't go to a con without people shoving it down your face

>>10090385
That and all the fake bois with their danger hair and septum piercings posting their shit ita pics.
I don't know who I hate more. Them or sissies. They both need to leave lolita, Im sick of them shitting things up.

>>10090357
i love the "obviously you're sexist if you identify outside the binary" argument kek it's stupid as fuck.

I don't feel like i'm either male or female, when i look in the mirror and think about myself i don't view myself as either and using either label feels..wrong. I still dress hyper-femme, i love pink and lolita and all the good stuff, but i just don't personally view myself as a woman and that's OK. i'm not infringing on anyone by saying this and you're so triggered by people who may or may not be doing something for attention. Even if they WERE who cares they'll outgrow it, get bored, translation, or literally stay the same.

Many Andro people also only say andro because it's easier than explaining this kind of stuff to you people. I don't mind doing it, but it's tiring when people refuse to take a step back and see it from the other side

>>10090393
transistion* thanks autocorrect i hate it

>>10090385
That's not how being relevant works... If this were actually a discussion about gender shit in the cosplay and lolita communities then it would make sense to discuss it. The thing the OP who started all this said was actually relevant because it was related to lolita, even though they're a walnut who needs to gtfo back to tumblr. But the rest of us are literally just circkejerking about the topic and how much it annoys us now. The generic circlejerk isn't relevant to cosplay or lolita.

>>10090389
I love them though, I just don't like the ones with a weird attachment to gender.
normies are the ones that ruin lolita and cosplay the most.

>>10089778
He's a loveable jester who just chills out, but also secretly ohwait do spoilers work here?

>>10090393
Do u have a cunt? You're a woman, problem solved. It "feels wrong" because you've been conditioned to believe that someone must be hyper feminine to be a woman. Why does it "feel wrong" to be a woman if not for your internalized misogyny?

>>10090433
>you've been conditioned to believe that someone must be hyper feminine to be a woman
NAYRT, but didn't they imply the opposite? They said they dress hyper-femme, but don't see themselves as a woman at all.

>>10090433
or you could respect me as i am? like who actually cares, i just don't get why it's so hard for you people to chill the fuck out

Why do feels threads always seem to devolve into gender politics...?

>>10089700
It means that if I want to keep the ruffles they may say I am not what I feel like

>>10089751
Wow, you sound really awful, it doesn't matter how you put it. I will put myself into that "misery" because to be honest, is better than what I have now.

>>10089764
I'll try to not look like a freak
>>10089798
Mehhh, is quite different. Disphoria does make a huge difference. But thank you
?
>>10089927
That is dope. Thank you so much!

>>10089930
I know they will and that those people are in every single community. Which is sad. I'll grow some balls and get a thicker skin

>>10089962
(I hate that snowflake names like damn, call yourself Pablo or Ken) when I wear lolita I feel like a crossdresser too. But after starting with T I may transform the dresses into ouji sets by using the fabric because some pieces are lovely....

>>10090312
>>10090313

The point


(you)
>>10090319
They are not dissuading me out of who I am, quite the contrary. Lolita is a fashion, brolita is a thing. I'm not less of a ftm if I like frills

>>10090347
>feels thread
Lurk more and learn about the etiquette I doubt that you can even make a Twitter account without lying.

>>10090440
Because people here can't keep their transphobic comments to themselves

>>10090447
It’s 4chan retard.

Why do you always have to reply? Why can't you just ignore shitty posts and move on?
Did you know there is a whole board dedicaded to trans troubles? It's /lgbt/. Do you not visit any other boards?

>>10090447
>crying about transphobia
>on 4chan
Based retard

>>10090442
>they may say I am not what I feel like
But in your previous post you acknowledged you are not what you feel like?

ON a /cgl/ related topic
I keep wanting to buy non lolita clothes but lolita related things I see on other sites.
ANgelic pretty tea set, a misako pullip doll, an angelic pretty water bottle, and an angelic pretty soup mug.
It's probably because I can't be a daily lolita but god damned I want a little bit of lolita in my life every day.
The latter two I've already bought and I'm eyeing the former two on LM. If it weren't for their price tags, I'd but em.

>>10090442
I'm >>10089930 and yes, I agree that it's shit, especially when it comes from people who are supposed to understand your struggles. I have been out for a few years and come from a shithole town in the south and I'll say growing thicker skin is just a natural consequence and desu, I'll take that over being in the closet any day. Wear your frills, life's too fucking short

>>10090458
there's a set of AP candy tins on mercari rn i want. but i shouldn't import ap candy for the brand .....

>>10090461
I would get them and then keep my emergency migraine meds in my purse or just keep putting altoids in them.
I have a baby pencil case that I keep in my bad for all my change.
Maybe one day someone will see it and maybe I'll have a lolita friend...

>>10090458
Sometimes I buy brand hoodies which aren't really suited for anything other than super casual coords or novelty items because I can't be a daily lolita. At least it's something.

>>10090468
I need to get me a couple of those... I'd feel happier going out to do my shopping with a brand hoodie.
I'm not confident enough to go out in a full coord by myself, but at least I could feel better with a lolita brand hoodie.
I wish I was able to just go out and do grocery shopping in a full coord like a bad ass. But I can barely go out to do food shopping in normie clothes.

>>10090470
I 200% feel you, I'm too fucking depressed to get out of the house (except when I have to go to work) but having something cute that's still burando helps, even if I haven't worn a proper coord in ages. AP hoodies are the cutest thing, you should check auction sites for them, they're usually fairly cheap too

>>10090474
I'll keep an eye out. What should I search for on y!JP auctions?
And in my case it's less depression (which has been really good lately, actually) and more crippling agoraphobia. Going out in a full coord and sticking out like a sore thumb is terrifying to me.
I just want to grab my groceries and leave asap. But I still want to feel cute and be cute.

STOP DELETING /CGL/ RELATED SHIT U DUMB CUNT MODS. DELETE THE TROONY SPERGING BUT LEAVE THE OTHER SHIT ALONE.

>>10090476
Honestly I usually just search in the "tops" category of Angelic Pretty on y!a, or you could search by brand and add the world parka パーカー
My agoraphobia used to be pretty bad but now it's the other way around, what a strange coincidence. I definitely understand where you're coming from though.

>>10090375
Submit a report to 4chan feedback for now I guess. It won't do anything but it's worth a try.

>>10090504
Ah, thanks for the japanese for it, anon. That's more what I was worried about.
I'm also going to see if there's any from meta, which is my fave brand. I know they had a real cute sailor one a year or two ago that I missed getting. Hopefully I can find that one.
I can't wait to get my water bottle and soup mug, though. It's something I can bring to work with me.

>>10090511
yw anon! Also good taste, I'm a big meta fan too. I'm a bit jelly of the ap water bottle desu, where did you get it?

>>10090531
lolitadesu. There's an AP coffee mug for $25 USD on there, still, if you're interested.

>>10090533
Oof and a sandwich plate as well. Same price.

stop deleting the fucking feels you bodyline wearing slut

>mfw no cute cosplay girlfriend
>mfw I have no face

>>10090562
I snort-laughed. Thanks anon. That's be best insult i've seen on cgl in awhile.

it's gotten to the point that I just keep the feels thread from the archive open in a separate tab just to be able to see what got deleted this time.

dab on the mods to make them stop deleting so much.
I'm all for deleting troll posts or whatever, but they are over doing it.

>>10090571
Where is cunnyspammering lolita when we need her?

>>10090572
>needing cunnyspam
we never need that shit and I question your choices for even requesting it.

>>10090577
What am i supposed to masturbate to huh

>>10090578
>gross

>>10090578
Mana

>>10090562
>tfw I was once a bodyline wearing slut

>>10090582
I was too... now I'm an AP wearing slut

>>10090584
Same, but also a based Meta wearing slut

>>10089504
>bows are ita

i seriously hope you learned never to listen to /cgl/ again

>>10090584
Halfway there!

>>10089886
to be honest, hardly ever. i think it helps that i don't wear wigs and i wear it so often that i can strut pastel sweet like it's a second skin. the question i get asked most often is along the lines of "what is this?"

Please don't overdo it when deleting posts... almost all of them were harmless.

Fuck the new janny, Jesus Christ. She's probably going to powertrip and delete this post.

>>10090628
>>10090621
>>10090571
Stop sperging. They only deleted the trans discussion and your shitty crossboarder >tfw no gf post. Just go back already.

>>10089167
I wanna see the scars
I know I’m several days late but cmon show us the scars

>tfw normie acquaintance asks me to teach her how to lolita

i'm really flattered and all but tbqh i have no clue how to approach this. i just buy brand, throw things together, and it looks good. i hate that the only advice i can give rn is basically "buy shit, here's where to do it" until i have coords to crit...

send help pls, the kouhai is becoming the senpai and i wasn't prepared

>>10090653
I honestly just used that Lolita Tips tumblr page to learn all the basics of the fashion and where to get started.

>>10090653
Direct her to FYeah Lolita so she can read about the fashion, how to do it and what to avoid. If she complains that it's "a lot to read", take it as a sign that she's unwilling to commit and might not be genuinely interested.

Who has it the worst in 2019, classic-chans or moitiefags?

>>10090727
>what's worse: brands closing or being "revived" into a shadow of their former self?
Both are equally bad imo.

>>10090643
Okay, Jen. Sure thing.

>>10090756
*jan

>>10090763
No, Jen. She knows who she is. Bodyline wearing slut.

>>10090727
>tfw both classicfag and moitiefag

>>10090643
It was harmless and lolita was part of the discussion. No reason to delete them.

>>10089013
a few feels threads ago i posted about how upset i was about this Liz Lisa skirt i received as a gift from my boyfriend didn't fit, and i took a kind anon's advice here and got it altered!

it now fits perfectly and it's really uplifted my spirits so if this anon is on this thread, thank you so much!

>tfw my weight fluctuates an insane amount over time and I never know for sure what pieces I'm going to fit in whole buying pieces and planning coords

I just want to get this under control.

I wish this board would finally get split into a cosplay board and a Lolita/j-fash board. I know they'd be dead as fuck but I really hate having to share this board with the various lolita communities.

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>tfw my weight fluctuates an insane amount over time and I never know for sure what pieces I'm going to fit into while buying pieces and planning coords

Should I invest in a corset for when my weight is up or just die?

>tfw due to meds my weight fluctuates like crazy from month to month so I can never tell for sure if something is going to always fit when I'm buying new things or planning coords

Should I invest in a corset for when my weight is higher or just die?

Dream Skirt with matching top showed up on fril.
Please Jesus, SS respond in time.

>>10090807
Cry harder.

>>10090643
They didn't, it was way more than that. Some were actually on topic. Not that this thread really has a topic.

>>10090807
I'm glad its not split, its how I discovered lolita since I initially came here for the cosplay threads.

Parcelforce just charged me £32 customs charge for £2 cosplay earrings from Bhiner. It feels awful.

>>10090898
>Some were actually on topic.
Which ones?

>Not that this thread really has a topic.
>Feels Thread, Keep it /cgl/ related, ignore bait.
Sounds like a topic to me.

>>10090873
fuck, same. >>

>>10090920
Shit. I hope it's not the same thing. What brand and color is it?
Mine is meta and brown.

>>10090807
Just hide the lolita threads, you weenie. I hide all the cosplay ones

>>10090830
Get a corset anyway

I have a group of friends that are my con friends. Some of them are so anniying to be around or see on my Facebook wall sometimes though because literally their entire personality seems to just be that they’re “lgbtq+ uwu”. I’m gay too but jesus I don’t post “i’m gay” in every single post, have a cutesy filter on my profile pic saying “i’m gay,” and is the only conversation topic I ever bring up. I get that they’re just finally expressing theirselves or whatever but they are so painfully obnoxious to be around at this point

I finally got my dream dress, but when I tried it on it was too tight in the bust.

I was so sure it was gonna fit right too.

>>10089013

How can I get a cute cosplaying trap gf like the "Hit or Miss" dude?

Does he have a bf?

>>10090976
Oh fuck, same exact thing happened to me :(

>tfw I hate new janitor

>>10090982
the hit or miss person is a girl

>>10091031
(male)

>>10091031
proof?

>>10091041
She has tweets being upset at people calling her a trap. She's as ordinary of a teenage girl as it gets.

Honestly, I'm so glad that people are getting sick of OTT and there's a return to old school and simple coords.
I hated how you needed to have 9001 accessories, a giant wig, triple petticoats, and the most impracticable shoes possible or people would bitch about how ita you were.
It felt costumish and it felt like conlitas/meetlitas had taken over the narrative. Wearing OTT for a con or event is one thing, but expecting someone to be OTT even for everyday coords? That's retarded.
I'm glad its getting back to "shit that's wearable for everyday".

>>10091066
Are you living in 2013?

>>10091066
It's still going on. Look how often a fine, simple coord gets posted in the ita thread.
Or when a simple coord is posted on the CoF thread, people call it boring and tell them they need this, that, and the third.

>>10090604
I thought if I didn't wear wigs, i'd get costume comments less, but it still happens. Is your hairstyle good for Lolita? Mine really isn't which might be part of it

>>10091080
It's very think and curly. I'm growing it out and it's about an inch past my shoulders now.

>>10091080
i'm the ayrt and i would say it's pretty appropriate yeah. it's just thick, dark brown, and to my mid back with loose waves, plus full blunt bangs and side pieces. real easy to style lots of different ways, which is great bc i'm lazy

>>10091031
Just with an unfortunate case of fridge mode.

>>10090961
idk why conventions are filled with so many of these people. Feels like everyone I meet at a con, I end up knowing their sexuality within an hour. I don't care, and don't understand their need to tell everyone.

>>10091115
I can get saying you’re a lesbian to ward off advances from creeps (not that it stops them half the time) but telling everyone and their mother you’re an uwu soft gay boi is offputting. I only tell men that hit on me or close friends/family that I’m a fag.

>>10091102
Sounds nice anon! I sometimes wonder if I should go back to that style. I'm naturally brunette but I really hated it growing up so now I bleach the shit out of it. Lately I feel hair like yours is ideal though.

>>10091123
I can't not roll my eyes every time I see a cosplayer with a trans flag as a cape around their shoulders.
I saw like three of them at otakon 2018.

>haven't talked to gullfriend in months
>just want to hug them and tell them everything's gonna be okay

>>10091147
Why not just reach out to them now?

>>10090948
What kind of corset do you want to reduce bulk though? I already am slim but sometimes get bloated and I've found that corsets just make me look bulkier than I really am. Seems like corsets only work on really fat girls

>>10091141
the icing on top of that is always that their flags are never ironed lul

>>10089081
Unironically this, it's what I do

>tfw your last 3 or 4 coords you've posted on your public Insta don't end up in the ita thread
Does this mean I'm out of my ita phase?

>>10090807
it's almost like lolitas that also cosplay don't exist or something.

>>10091168
Nayrt but sounds like you're doing it wrong

>>10090656
>>10090723
bless both of you, will send links

she sent me pics of dresses from goodwill and normie work blouses she had bought prior. her enthusiasm is precious but i have a lot of work to do...

>>10091198
If her enthusiasm includes willingness to learn what the fashion actually is then you likely won't have to work too hard. Good luck to both of you!

>>10091184
Asking for a friend*, but did all of your previous coords get posted?

If so, I'd say you're not ita any more. You've had a clear period of getting posted, and now it's fading. As long as you don't dress yourself in the dark you'll be safe from now on!

(*I mean it's not like I got into lolita through /cgl/ and thus got insanely high standards from the start and therefore didn't start post myself anywhere until I got confident enough in my coords, SO NOW I'M JUST SITTING HERE WAITING FOR SOMEONE TO POST ME but it hasn't happened yet so maybe I'm fine too?)

>>10091184
>>10091205
Many of my early coords did. But I'm older and overweight and I make most of my dresses, so I definitely have a lot of marks against me. That's why this is so cool. To finally get the feeling that you're doing it right.

long winded blog ahead, I'm feeling very nostalgic

>born poor in a trailer park
>wanted to be a princess
>wanted to be away form all the sad, dirty people in the sad, dirty park who's sad, dirty dreams all died already
>my earliest memory is of being locked in a room with spiderman sheets for curtains, I was being babysat with three other kids, there was a tv on the dresser that no one could reach, QVC played endlessly on it
>get type 1 diabetes before middle school
>found to be "brittle"
>means I'm most likely to die either very young from a medical accident, before 50 from kidney failure, or in my early 60s from heart failure
>it's honestly not as big of a bummer as it sounds like
>death comes to everyone
>everyone tries not to think about it
>take care of myself as well as possible my whole life
>just because you're sick doesn't mean you have to feel sick
>too shy to have friends in middle school
>spent a lot of time
>discovered livejournal
>discovered egl
>suddenly "want" had meaning
>lolita fashion would become the symbol of escape
>the symbol of freedom from this scared, dying world
>mom got sick when I was in high school
>someone had to take care of her
>someone had to support the family
>dropped out
>got a job
>eventually got three jobs
>actually wind up having extra money after the bills, groceries, medicine, etc
>I never really had that before
>have heinous urges to pocket it without saying anything
>tell mom that I'm making more than we technically need
>mom starts to cry and insists that I keep it and do anything with it, it's mine
>feel even guiltier about earlier
>every negative feeling I had evaporated the instant I realized
>now I can escape
>maybe not forever, and maybe not for real
>but maybe enough
>the good lord didn't open a door, but he did open the little window in the bathroom
>buy my first dress two months later
>Milky Planet
>no where to wear it
>no need

cont

>>10091184
Literally everything gets put in the ita thread. 99% of the posts there are just extreme nit picks.

>>10091266

>just touching the fabric with my actual hands was like a confirmation that there really are better things out there
>I wanted those things
>I always wanted nice things
>kept up with work, kept up at home
>started feeling angry all the time, inexplicably
>just bad, all the time
>couldn't figure it out, just stayed like that for a couple years
>at some point, I started thinking very ugly
>that I'd been taken advantage of and cheated and lost out my whole life
>that I got bullied in school for being dirty and poor and it wasn't my fault because I didn't ask to have a single mom, endless medical bills, endless heath complications, and it wasn't fair
>that my skin looked so bad because we could never afford better food and I'm literally always sick and it's not god damn fair
>that even though I'm the one picking up slack all the time, even though I'm constantly making sacrifices for other people, even though I don't get nice things or get to control my life, nobody listens to me, no one cares what I say or think or want to do about a situation, and it's not fucking fair for people to treat me like a fucking pack animal
>doesn't help to think like that, but that was how I felt at the time
>started seeking things out for myself
>start getting selfish on purpose
>still taking care of the family first of course, but
>bought more dresses
>bought skincare products
>hair care products
>less groceries, but better quality food
>stop doing what other people say
>listen, as ever
>but do what I know to be the right thing for me, no matter what
>I come first to me now
>now
>healthiest I've ever been in my life
>my most recent blood work shows my a1c is at 5.9, which is rare for diabetics
>my skin, weight, blood sugars, hair, nails, and body fat are all in health good enough for my doctor to compliment them
>at the end of the day, lolita fashion is what forced me to see that you have to take care of yourself, and before anyone else

>if something makes you happy, do it

>>10091276
Wholesome. Im so proud of you, anon.

>>10091266
>>10091276
That was a beautiful read Anon, and because I'm a sentimental sap I teared up.

I wish you, your family and your closet all possible happiness.

>>10091266
>>10091276
I hope this isnt a larper cause I am so proud of you anon you're a true inspiration oh my god I am literally about to cry AAAAH I love you Anon

>>10091280
>>10091283
>>10091291
Thanks you guys
I hope lolita fashion can be like a talisman for everyone who loves it

>>10091046
Are you living in 2013?

>>10091046
I just realised she's not actually the one singing.

>wants to live in japan for a few years after school
>stupid 18 year old me got a tattoo on my arm that is visible in most short sleeves
Should I get it removed or just buy a ton of long sleeve cardigans.

>>10091380
If you're visibly not Asian a lot of places won't care, they'll just treat you like a foreigner. If you are Asian you might want to wear long sleeves or consider removal.

>>10091276
Well done, anon.

>>10091266
>>10091276
omg anon. you're an inspiration and this was lovely to read.

>>10091159
I already did unfortunately

Lolita Grandpa's petti died hard and I am sad. I want to buy him a new one

>2015
>lurking cgl
>wishing I could wear lolita but I'm a poor, tasteless, depressed teenage piece of shit
>get some secondhand bodyline sweet lolita pieces
>ilooklikeshit.jpg
>luckily I realise I have absolutely no idea about this and drop it without posting pics online
>2017
>gf mentions wanting to go from casual goth to gothic lolita
>remember how good looking at all the pretty coords made me feel
>2018
>start lurking cgl again
>reading about lolita every day, gathering all the resources I can find
>create a big-ass folder of lolita inspo
>realise I'm not into pastel sweet ott shit and find my style
>2019
>financially stable, engaged to my gf, found a hobby that really makes me happy
>still a bit ita but I'm getting there
>just ordered my dream piece for a really good price
>cute lolita wives getting to know the local comm
>everyone's lovely and welcoming, little to no drama
Feels good, gulls

>>10090382

Thanks, anon. I had everything lined up and was second guessing, but you're right, I should just fix it up and wear it with joy like it deserve.

>>10091450
I love this guy. His life is goals. But yeah, he needs a new petti.

>>10091521
>>10091276
I hope when BTB finally dies for good, we somehow replace it with something positive like lolita success stories like these
It's not that uncommon that they get posted in feels threads
I'm sick of associating lolita with feeling mean and petty

>>10089167
Consider a 'battle scarred' version of a character perhaps? You could even use makeup to make the marks look fresher or look like a minor open wound or scratch. Any character that regularly gets into fights and doesn't have supernatural healing ability etc could work, this way they don't have to be in the same spot as say, a character known for specific scars.

Failing that, look into >>10090363

This anon has some really good advice, please consider researching the information. Many people have had successful results using scar fading topical creams, and specialist makeup / topical scar fillers can be amazing for covering up scars when applied properly.

>>10089322
I get it seems a bit backwards but I've been in a similar place myself and went to a con - in my case I was getting really down and was clinically depressed. Whilst going to the con wasn't a cure, spending time with friends and having a good time really helped me to get back on track and start to realise that I could still experience joy, and that there were many things worth living for. I managed to get my life back together, got a job and became self reliant.

I guess my point is, sometimes reconnecting with the things that bring us some sense of contentment, even in a small way can be really important and help us feel like we're connected to the world. I don't consider this the same as people that simply expect the world to provide for them and don't care about improving things. I can't speak for the person you follow, but things aren't always what they seem, especially when it comes to what people choose to share on social media.

I feel kinda bad
there's two characters that I've been wanting to cosplay for a couple of years, but their bodies are athletic/very lean and no matter how hard I work out I'm still skinnyfat
I can't do them justice like this, and I don't know what I'm doing wrong
I mean nobody is really going to complain if I dress up with my current body, but I wanted to accomplish something and it's getting nowhere. Been lurking /fit/ and really want to do a 3 days fast but I live with my parents and my mom thinks I'm too skinny (she's fat obviously) and won't let me. Yeah like, pestering me to eat what she cooks and whatnot. Sigh... I want to move with my bf already. Lame, I know.

It's cringy but I wish I had friends to cosplay and make groups with. I want to make costumes together and go out for photoshoots during cons.

I wish I had friends to cosplay with me, I guess. The few cosplay friends that I do have are incredibly flaky and only want me around to drive to cons, sew for them or style their wigs. If I ask them to do anything with me, they initially agree and then flake out well after I've started making things or spending my money on stuff.

I think I'm just lonely, gulls.

>>10091610
>I don't know what I'm doing wrong
Well, what are you doing?

>listen to goth and goth-adjacent music
>love gothic literature
>have a decent moitie collection
>tfw somehow can't pull off goth or gothic lolita
>tfw the closest I get is dark classic

>>10091530
I am wishing you the best and hope you really enjoy wearing it! <3

>>10091189
They're just to smooth you out, not make you thinner.

>>10091869
Are you confusing corsets and girdles or spanx?

>>10091696
oh, sorry I'm late. I do 16:8 IF, sometimes I manage to push more hours, and I try to avoid grains. I ride my bike for an hour everyday and do a small 10 minute cardio routine every other day. I'm trying to fix my bad posture too. I'm 1,50m tall and weigth 39kg. Sometimes I lift but I'm not consistent on it because I find it boring.

>>10091870
NYART, but she's right. https://thepragmaticcostumer.wordpress.com/2012/09/17/with-and-without-how-wearing-a-corset-affects-you-and-your-clothes/

>>10091874
M8 you're proper underweight. Are you sure you don't have body dysmorphia? You should go get a consultation with a personal trainer rather than asking cgl though. We haven't seen you, it's hard to comment on your health and look from your bare stats alone.

>>10091168
Corsets do make you skinnier but you also need to think about the added bulk. So if the corset is thick enough and it is like an inch added overall, you would need to at least cinch over an inch to get a reduction. Unless you are already crazy small this should be achievable, but if you are skin and bones then you would need to train to reduce more.

Boyfriend got fed up with me talking about lolita stuff all the time, which is understandable. It's still really hard to avoid the topic.

I am fet and ugly

>>10091886
I shall be your new boyfriend then, m'lady. I'll respect all your hobbies and give you the space you deserve :-)

>>10091890
Same

>>10091878
yup I know I'm underweight, I'm trying to gain muscle, and seems like I can't, that's why I'm complaining. I've upped my protein consumption and all. I don't think it's body dysmorphia t b h, I just want abs I can show for a costume.

>>10091898
Personal trainer will be able to help you more than anons, forreal. Even just a consultation can set you on the right path.

>tried on a blouse
>looks great
>take it off
>find a smol rip on one of my sleeves

the fabric for the blouse is made out of polyester and i need to repair it. i'm so fucking stupid because of this. advice?

>>10091874
>>10091610
For one, you don't need to do a 3 day fast. Just stick to your intermittent fast. Trying not to make this a /fit/ post, but just make sure you eat a lot of protein, get good sleep/vitamins and LIFT HEAVY, 3 sets/10 reps. I'm in the same exact boat as you (want to cosplay a buff shounen type and I'm anything but) but WE CAN DO THIS. Don't skimp out on what you eat, either. You can't lose at the same time as putting on significant muscle anyway so just appease your mom by filling up on the healthy stuff and avoid bread/sweets. I mean don't skimp out on running or something too, but it's not what's going to make you look like your character. It's really not.

We're gonna look good in our cosplays, both you and me, okay? Can I ask who you want to go as?

>>10091898
You're pretty much doing everything wrong to gain muscle apart from lifting, and I can guarantee you your intake is too low to gain muscle since you haven't already. Most people aren't gonna gain muscle very well on IF, that's for people who want to lose weight and use their body fat as a fuel source, however your body will use your glycogen first and possibly cut into your muscle if you aren't eating enough carbs. You do need carbs to fuel you as well as protein, don't be scared of them if you're exercising! Just watch your macros and increase your overall calories, you need to be eating at a slight surplus (~500kcal above your TDEE) to actually put that muscle on and getting decent amounts of protein otherwise you will just stay skinnyfat. If you absolutely hate lifting heavy, you can do bodyweight exercises like pushups, squats, lunges, dips, etc. in a circuit which is more like cardio, but will take longer to show any results...

>joined dance group
>SO excited
>songs and positions are chosen by one person and just assigned
>everyone just goes along with it
>try to bring it up and gets nowhere
>get halfway through learning a song and it gets canned with no notice, was the only one where I had a part I liked

life is suffering. I just want an adult, reliable, agreeable cosplay friend who likes to dance. Why is that so hard?

>>10091890
Me3
Well not fat but I'm bmi 20 and look huge compared to most lolitas

>>10090873
I got it~ I'm so excited now.

>>10091890
You should try being fat and cute instead! As a fatty myself, you feel a lot better when you think positively about yourself and it may help you to lose weight if you accept yourself first (depends whether feelings like spite/disgust/etc or happiness/hope/etc motivate you more)

>>10091926
nyart can i lose weight just by running & gym machine ..? fuck dnt tell me 2 go to fit pls.. this my home

>>10091984
That's a horrible idea anon. Self-improvement is a must, the anon should lose weight.

>>10091976
BMI 20 is pretty slim; I’m that BMI and people usually call me thin. There are loads of lolitas who are way bigger and many of those look great, so idk where you got the idea that you’re bigger than most unless you meant to type BMI 24 or something.

>>10092018
I didn't say they should stay as they are. You can accept that something is and still work to change it.

>>10091905
Thank you for you motivation anon, we're gonna make it! I try to eat more but looks like it's not enough, yeah.
I want to go as Etna from Disgaea, and Tatsumaki from OPM. As for now I'm finishing my gem costume from HnK, I would love to find the right wig to go as Phos.
What is your buff shounen character? Got me curious haha
>>10091926
I see, this is very helpful! So, onto doing more lifts, gotcha

>>10092012
Yes, but count your fucking calories.

You can lose weight laying in bed, watching Netflix and masturbating all day.
Just practice CICO.

Calories In - Calories Out.

>>10091870
No, I have a couple cheaper corsets and didn't like them enough to get a nice one. What brand do you like? Everyone used to recommend orchard but idk if they're still good

>be eye-searingly pastel sweet lolita in a male-dominated major
>consistently have gotten/continue to get the top grades in each class

feelsgoodman. my professors haven't seen anything like it, so it's always a nice feel to have them recognize me for my grades and not just my clothes.

>>10091978
What was it?

>>10092096
Meta's Apprentice Sorcerer vest and skirt.
I also posted about getting it in the ugliest dress thread.
I'd love to have the cape/cloak, too, but honestly I'm beyond happy with just those two.

>>10091903
did it rip on the seam or the fabric itself? I would advice to iron a small square of interfacing fabric on the wrong side, then with fine thread stitch trough it. Can you post a pic?

>>10092054
ty, ur reply give me motivation

>>10092110
it ripped on the seam. it's about an inch or two

i’m so fuckin tired of being fat, /cgl/. i just wanna fit into brand and like myself again

I just bought my first ever new, straight from the brand, full-priced brand dress. All of my other dresses are indie/bodyline/second hand or came from lucky packs. I probably won't ever spend this kind of money on one dress again unless if it's something I absolutely love but this was a kind of treat to myself for getting a new well paying career type job. It's my first Moitie piece too. I'm so excited I'm already putting together coords for it in my head. I haven't been able to afford any new lolita in the past two years and I haven't worn it much either because I don't fit most of my blouses anymore (I still fit most of my dresses because shirring but my few blouses weren't as forgiving) and just life getting in the way. I'm so happy I'm going to be able to buy new clothes that fit and start wearing it again!

>>10092034
Errr, if that's all you took away from that post then you are really never going to get to your goal. Building muscle is what you need if you're starting from very skinny, not just randomly lifting - so you need to be progressing either resistance or amount of weight rather than just reps. However, looking at the energy and nutrient content in your diet v.s. your estimated TDEE is as important! You will likely need a certain amount of protein to put on muscle (most people who have this goal advocate at least 1g/lb or 2g/kg) as well as the caloric surplus. You can't ignore nutrition when you are trying to change your body composition and you should probably stop the IF while you're trying to put ON weight. Many people end up taking the extra calories and protein in shake form as it's easier to consume higher proportions of protein that way, as it sounds like you're still at home and not doing any of your own food that's an easy way to get more calories in.

Seriously - have you even googled macros/calorie content or anything about building muscle? There's a wealth of information out there so it boggles me that anyone looking to gain lean muscle mass can be doing it so wrong for 'years' of trying...

>>10092124
Try some fork putdowns.

>>10092124
Do what the other skinny anon does - IF 16:8 and cycle for an hour every day with 10 minutes of cardio every other day. If you aren't eating like complete shite in those 8 hours then you're pretty much guaranteed to lose weight.

>>10092125
Congrats anon! I'm sure you'll rock it.

>>10091535
you know people are allowed to post positive feels good type stuff on btb right? just no one does anymore.

>>10091079
i dont notice that too much anymore actually...all the nitpicks always come off as vendetta posts to me. id say basic coords are generally more accepted again.

I've lost my passion for everything since I had to put my cat down. I let a chance to buy a former dream dress pass me by, and I felt no happiness when a pair of shoes I'd ordered arrived in the mail recently. I'm still going through the motions of checking secondhand shops and reading /cgl/ religiously, but I feel completely empty.

>>10092164
I'm so sorry, anon. Losing a pet is so goddamn hard. Just take your time and grieve however is necessary. Dresses will still exist when you're ready to wear them again.

>>10092133
honestly, you’re right. that IS the root of my problem. Just needed the cold hard truth i’d expect to see from this board
>>10092125
huh, never considered IF before. I’ll give that a shot along with the other suggestions!

thank you both!

>>10092164
Sorry for your loss, I've been trough it and can relate to what you're feeling. It'll get better with time, trust me. What >>10092165 says, just take your time to say goodbye to a good fluffy friend. I'm sure your cat had a good life with you.

>>10092185
You want to lose weight?

Change boards.
Lurk fit.
RTFS.
Download MyFitnessPal and put anything that enters your body in it.
Drink a glass of water - record it.
Eat 35g of almonds - record it.
Swallow after a blowjob - record it.
You need to immerse yourself in it, get yourself away from the crabs in the bucket.

>>10092265
>get yourself away from the crabs in the bucket
Then why would she go to /fit/?

>>10092275
Lurking /fit/ burns more calories; haven't you heard?

Paradise anon here.
Nov 8th, lost everything I owned in the fire. Since then I got about 95% of my insurance payout. Husband has agreed to let me spend 25k to rebuild my wardrobe. Sad the things I hunted for are now destroyed, excited to rebuild a new wardrobe.

No matter what befalls you gulls, stay strong. Change can be good.

>>10092275
Say what you will about fit, but the majority of people there will be the best people to immerse yourself with when you're trying to improve your body.

They will not hugbox you like people on facebook/Instagram and they're not trying to sell you a meme like all the social media influencers.

I lost 40kg, can cleanly OHP 85kg, and I owe my motivation to fit.
People on Facebook constantly told me that I didn't need to change etc, just to make themselves feel good about themselves - I needed the constant contact of:

>Exercise you lazy shit.
>Fork out downs.
>CICO

>>10092265
>>10092298
>>10092275


Will suggest lurking reddit's r/loseit over /fit/

loseit is way broader, and in a way, much kinder. It's the kind of sub where people make dumbass posts like "I ate 5 million calories today but it's okay! Just sharing so other people also know it's okay and we can commiserate together!"

It's weak, but sometimes you're weak and seeing /fit/ go "you're a lazy shit, put down the fork, cico rant, kys" just makes the urge to binge so much worse, not better.

Plus the fitshits who post "DYEL, stacking, lelelkek girls are stupid" can definitely get you down no matter what. At least on reddit comments like that will get downvoted to oblivion even while other people post more helpful stuff to you.

>>10092311
Not gonna make it.

>>10092312

Sad to hear it, hope someone else finds that advice useful regardless.

>>10092311
>Way kinder.
You need the opposite of a hugbox.
Kindness will kill you.

>>10092316
NAYRT but there needs to be a balance. Moderation in all things.

>>10092316

That's the thing about loseit. It's still people losing weight. So people don't take kindly to "I'm beautiful I don't need to lose weight".

They WILL tell you you should lose weight for a multitude of reasons. You're not gonna get asspats for "daring" to be fat.

They just do it without the whole "U A SHITTY SHIT" rudeness that /fit/ absolutely revels in.

Signing up to be /fit/'s beta doormat isn't always necessary. Great that it works out for you, I'm just pointing out there's kinder places than /fit/ to hang out in.

>>10092316
/fit/ is mainly just r9k with protein powder sprinkled on top. It is in no way a place for ladies.

>>10092316

seeing people destroy their body with roids made me really dislike /fit/. I'm convinced the place is just another r9k with body dysmorphia issues.

>>10092320
>>10092321
As a former fat cunt - I can say that laziness is the enemy.
Getting asspats for cheat days, etc, is a slippery slope.
If you had discipline enough you wouldn't be fat in the first place.

>>10092330
That's the thing though, you don't have to flaunt the fact you're female in /fit/.
There's plenty of girls in /fit/, particularly in the /fat/ and /fph/ generals.
There is no difference between advice for women and men, until you get to shit like hormone and roids.

>>10092331
Honestly, /fraud/ is the best community on /fit/ - everyone there will keep newbies the fuck away from it - they've stopped more people from abusing roids than they have put on it.
Plus with guys like Jano - the resident Czech sexual predator/licensed physician - you get the best and most honest advice around.

>>10092065
Orchard have always been a bit crap, it's just that for a while they were the curviest thing available for cheap. I've had three of their corsets at different times and never liked any. Timeless Trends's new Gemini lines are good and they make some with less layers and bulk for easier wearing under clothing. What Katie Did and Restyle are OK too. But a custom corset will always fit better and be more comfortable than any off the rack bullshit. A good corsetiere can build a much less bulky one for use under clothing too.

>>10092332

Again, that's not how loseit works. Cheat days are acknowledged to be counter-productive and set you back altogether, and there's posts on how much people manage holiday eating rather than using cheat days at all.

Like you said, laziness and giving up are the enemy. The kind of 5 million calories posts referenced in >>10092311 have a very important message: "you messed up today, but you're getting back on the diet tomorrow. You can do this as long as you don't give up." Rather than "oh you're such a complete shit, you might as well give up and be a fat fuck forever".

Again. It's great that you got where you are with self-hate. Other people need different forms of encouragement, and with r/loseit being very broad you're far more likely to find whatever it is you need rather than on 4chan with trolling edgelords (it's literally only about losing weight, so whether you post about OMAD, IF, keto, whatever, you're likely to be able to find someone else doing those things as well).

Anyway, I feel like I've almost derailed the thread. At least I've made the recommendation, so if people need help they know they have options. Good luck losing anons, may your journey be successful, whichever board you stick with.

>>10092335

nayrt, but there's females in /r9k/ actually. They're usually as shitty as the males.
Being gender neutral means we can acknowledge that boards can be pretty shit whether or not they're male or female.

>>10092335
Who said anything abou flaunting being a woman? I went there once and there were threads bitching about how women dress to the gym and complaining about women being whores or whatever. Most of the girls there are the "i'm not like the other girls" attention whores. /fit/ is shit.

>>10092366
Tbh though, gymthots are a cancer.

>>10092287
I'm so happy that your insurance worked itself out! It may not seem like much, but you're very kind and thoughtful for updating us leagues of strangers on the internet. I for myself remember you and feel pretty damn invested. So thank you for keeping us updated! All the while I hope you can rebuild your wardrobe and just be anon, not paradise anon. Best not be defined by a disaster for all your life, you know?

>>10092298
/fit/ is nothing but pseudo tough guys who think the have life completely figured out because they picked up some weights in college

>>10092416
>pseudo tough
Literally no one on /fit/ - it's markedly different to shit like BB.com where everyone competes for internet points.
It's honestly refreshing because whilst it's definitely not a hug box, people aren't afraid to just be themselves.

>>10092368

>it's okay to be rude and disparage this particular person because my shallow judgement thinks she belongs to this other "tribe" of women that I dislike

You're confirming that /fit/ is a terrible place to hang out in, right? nayrt, btw.

>>10092417
Based /fit/ virtue signalling virgin

>>10091959
Anon, I feel you. I'm tempted to go solo because my current group is in a situation similar to yours. I hope things get better for you.

>>10091837
Your makeup and hair are probably wrong

How do I get a bf if i'm fat?
Is too much to ask for a good looking one?

The thread about what you would say to your baby lolita self is getting to me. I'm three main pieces in and don't quite have the most solid vision for my wardrobe yet. But soon I'll be in Japan and let myself loose in all of Tokyo's Closet Child stores...

Now I'm paranoid that I'll get swept up in the moment and make stupid choices. Or that my current vision is going to get boring quick and I'll be stuck with a bunch of clothes I don't like two years down the line. Help.

>>10092732
not /cgl/ related, but go to /fit/ and take your pick
you're what the ones who call themselves "high test" are into

>>10092567
I hope things improve for you as well. Would be ironic if we’re in the same group, haha. I’m too scared to go solo...but if that’s what you choose I wish you luck!

>>10092746
I don't like how it sounds...

>>10092750
Well die then, I guess?
What exactly do you want people to tell you? I just told you yeah, you can get a bf while you're fat, and, indeed, an attractive one, what else could you possibly want?

>>10092164
its okay! don't be sad. you must have given your cat a great life, and i'm sure they loved you a lot. it's natural for a cat to die and i'm sure they were so glad they got to spend their life being loved by someone like you.

>>10092745
just sell them or trade them in the future

>>10092287
The thought of anyone's beloved wardrobe burning up in a fire is horrifying to me. But I'm excited about your payout, IMO you're funneling lots of new money into the fashion/community/industry which is great. Have fun shopping!

>>10092745
It's okay to make "wrong" decisions and buy things you like now and may not like later. Being afraid of missing opportunities is going to make you miss a whole lot more, so don't worry about it so much. Just think your purchases through as much as you can, and if you regret any of them down the road, that's ok. That's how you learn and grow.
Have fun on your trip! I hope you find things that you like.

cosplay club guy here

went on another club meeting, saw a bunch of other club girls talk with girl I liked, realized they saw how clearly we vibed. Saw them talking and I overheard ".....yeah but last time didn't work so well". Girl gives no negative signs (still seems like she's cool with me) and we're still super tight, but I think ya'll we're right about not going after her. Not going after her after all.

also realized the meme of "j-just join clubs to meet new people xd" doesn't work when you join clubs you actually care about.

Uuugh It's going to be 9 degrees tomorrow almost all day.
And I have to be near an open window for nine hours.
My poor, poor, face. I'm bringing the heavy duty moisturizer... Need to stay lookin' cute for my coords.

>>10092376
You're very right anon. Thank you for all your kind words. I was also able to find 2 of my cats at my lot 41 and 53 days after the fire respectfully. Rebuilding a life is hard, but I am taking steps for sure.

>>10092828
I am very sad about some rarer mmm pieces being lost... but I am definitely looking forward to shopping. If this situation has taught me anything: never skimp on your insurance.

>>10092089
You go anon! Kick their academic asses with your frilly self!

>skinny guy (wear 30x32 jeans)
>most every thrift store has less than a dozen pants in my size, but miles and miles of 38+
I just want to buy used clothing, why do only heavier people donate stuff?

I wish more people would post burando updates in the Lolita general. I do post from time to time for the brands I keep up with (VM, Moitie and some others) and new releases from Meta and AP are generally posted to the thread, but no one really posts for BTSSB/AATP, AtePie and Sheglit. With contributions for Lolibrary being closed and all, I'm worried we'll lose the photos and information of the new releases, which is partly why I hope more people can post here. Even with some of the photos being uploaded to Twitter, I feel it's still safer to archive it to /cgl/ archives as well. (But also because I just found out BTSSB made bloomers with Usakumya lace and I'm sad I didn't get to know this earlier.)

>want to build a consistent wardrobe, pick a maximum of three (3) styles and save money while still enjoying J-fashion/alt fashion in general
>genuinely enjoy too many aesthetics
>constantly finding clothing/designs that are original and exciting on sites like Taobao
>think "This looks amazing. If I don't get it while I can, it'll be gone forever. There, now I've b
>wardrobe is now a clusterfuck of mismatched things that I only ever manage to incorporate into a decent coord by extreme trial/error
>always running out of funds
>always think "Haha, I bought so much! I'm good on clothes for a while" until I find the next thing
>shit sucks
I'm worried I'm becoming a shopping addict.

>want to build a consistent wardrobe, pick a maximum of three (3) styles and save money while still enjoying J-fashion/alt fashion in general
>genuinely enjoy too many aesthetics
>constantly finding clothing/designs that are original and exciting on sites like Taobao
>think "This looks amazing. If I don't get it while I can, it'll be gone forever. There, now I've bought it and I'm satisfied :)"
>wardrobe is now a clusterfuck of mismatched things that I only ever manage to incorporate into a decent coord by extreme trial/error
>always running out of funds
>always think "Haha, I bought so much! I'm good on clothes for a while" until I find the next cute thing and the cycle begins anew
>shit sucks
I'm worried I'm becoming a hoarder/shopping addict. Anyone else been there?

>>10093157
You and me both, absolutely, I like pretty much every style out there from sweet lolita to full-on goth and pretty much anything remotely ""alternative"" there is. My wardrobe is an absolute clusterfuck and I cannot seem to stop spending.

>>10093050
Totally agree! I generally post Meta releases and often IW releases. If there's a brand you like and keep up with, you could start posting them

>>10092980
>tfw could easily wear 28x32 waist-wise but my thighs won't fit
>stuck with 30x32 and a belt instead
At least 30x32 is easier to find than 28x32, I guess.

>>10093157
>There, now I've bought it and I'm satisfied :)
>clusterfuck of mismatched things
>always running out of funds
>worried I'm becoming a shopping addict
You're already one step in it anon.

why do western black women hate white people so much? especially white women?

>tfw want to buy something
>tfw only seller is gemgem

Don't want to support a scalper but gdi I want it

> Snapped up dream dress for a good non-scalper price on LM
> Seller ships out the dress, everything looks good, correct address etc...
> Get usps notification today
> Dress nowhere to be found in mailbox/porch
> Look at USPS notification again
> Dress was delivered, but at my old address more than 10 hours away.
> Somehow pay pal gave my old deleted address as the default, when the seller printed the label
> FML

I'm fucked unless I either make a road trip to retrieve the dress and hope that the person living in my old house had the decency to not steal my mail.

>>10091147
>tfw just want gullfriend to hug me and tell me everything's gonna be ok

My self-confidence in almost everything to do with lolita and lolita community has gone down the toilet in the last 2 weeks or so. Nothing really happened, I just feel like absolute shit and an ita waste of space. I love my comm and try to help out people when they're struggling, but I worry that my lolita friends will ditch me when someone more fun or more helpful comes along. I try to show support for my favourite lolitas on their social media, but I don't know how to ask for support for myself and I'm scared people think I'm weird or hitting on them when I comment positively on their things. I want to feel loved and like I'm part of the community, but every attempt to be friendly just makes me feel more anxious even if it was normal or went perfectly nicely. I used to get out of funks like this by putting on good music and looking through to my clothes to remember what I loved about them, but recently my style has been in flux. I feel bored with the substyle I used to focus on and like an imposter in the one I'm more drawn to. I don't know what I'm doing and I feel very alone.

>have more money set aside than I need to buy my dream dress
>plan to wear it to Paradiso in May
>waiting for someone to list it with the otks and headbow, other accessories if possible
>wait for three months
>no one has listed it
>not even with zero accessories
>not in my colorway, anyway
>scared to post in the dream dress thread because I don't want gemgem or rainies to see it and list one with the price pumped up out of my range

the fuck do I do y'all lmao

>>10093586
M8 just post it with an email address, and if you're going to state your budget make sure you understate a little just in case they put it up for more. But imo they'd probably take a decent guaranteed sale over overpricing and not selling.

>>10093592
Damn, well thanks anon, good call

>>10093474
You have to let me first

*slaps ur cosplay*

>>10093636
yoink

>>10093636
gosh anon no need to be so tsundere
*peeks on your bloomers*

I've been interested in lolita since the late 90s. I've lurked here and on egl before, and so on. For a long time I tracked all the brand releases and stuff. I used to spend hours in the pre-LJ days drooling over Meta's website.

But I've never actually owned something, besides a few issues of GLB years and years ago and a bootleg copy of Kamikaze Girls. I've always been too poor to afford it, even secondhand. And then when I had a little disposable income, I was too nervous to jump in. And I was worried what people would think.

But now I have lots of money, and lots of freedom to do whatever the fuck I want, and I'm too old to give a fuck if people think I'm weird. And after more than 20 years, I'm buying my first piece of precious burando, and trying to figure out my first coord.

I'm finally fulfilling my dream!

>>10093701
Good larp, fag.

I really, really, would like to see a set based off of Rankin Bass's "The Last Unicorn"
I know Twinkle Journey is pretty close, but it's not the same. (Buuuut it's on my wish list for that reason)
I just want a beautiful dress of The Unicorn in her lavender forest.

>>10093636

>>10093744
This is great

>>10093701
I don't believe it, but it made my heart warm anyway. 10/10

>>10093792
>>10093705

Not larping, it's all true. I'm 32 and I'm anxiously awaiting my meta skirt.

>>10093586
Same. I've seen my dream dress but it was missing the one accessory I really wanted and now it hasn't come up for sale again in a few months. I don't want to post it because it's a less known, newer release that I missed

>>10093701
>Late 90s

This is what's unbelievable. In the early 2000s, sure. That was when Gwen Stefani made jfash first really trend in the West iirc. It was covered in a magazine that I read in the early 2000s

>>10093868
>>10093868
ayrt

I was a total weeb when I was a kid. That led me to jrock and vkei.

I was a huge Gackt and Malice Mizer fan long before Gwen Stefani was doing her harajuku girls crap. Mana was very inspirational for me.

>>10089013
So, this is the taste of defeat...
I'd forgotten it after all this time.


My 5 year streak of never losing auctions and scoring every new release I wanted has just ended, gulls.

It was a good run...

>>10093878
Wrong. Walking away when necessary is a victory.

>>10089013
what if someone made fb secret group for lolitas hunting DDs
maybe it already exists n i just don’t know it

>>10093897
But why? We already have the DD thread.

>tfw no gf
i have a crush on this cute girl i have absolutely no chance with and it hurts
but! we have a cosplay planned together from the same series (it's a vaguely popular ship too)
can't decide wether i'm happy or it's just gonna hurt more but for now i'm excited

Tfw depression has hit me hard this month, looking at all the new AP releases I had a strange urge to just purge my life of lolita and be a schlub in a dirty t shirt. I’d have tons of money from some fairly popular items in my wardrobe, but no urge to purchase anything if I did have that money. I just want to stop feeling sad and tired all the time, and stop feeling like the only way out is me being dead.

>>10094134
I hope you feel some relief soon, anon. Just try to remember that you've felt better than this before and will do so again. Life is rarely ever as linear or clear as we want it to be.

Depression can also sink its evil claws into our hobbies and passions and drain the life from them. Your current disinterest in lolita is probably stemming from that. I've found that when my mental illness is taking away joy from something I previously loved, I try to make a list of memories I have involving that thing. It's a literal reminder that it does bring me happiness, even if I can't feel that currently.

I'll also send a hug your way if you'd like one.

>>10092948
>rare mmm lost
I know the answer to this will hurt me, but what did you lose?

>>10093868
>what is livejournal?
>what is Mana?
you must be 18 to use this website, anon.

>>10093868
Does anyone remember the fashion pics in the old shojo beats? It was alt weebs trying to mimic old school lolita without having access to any burando, and they all managed to look like saloon prostitutes.

>>10093868
Lil momma did more for lolita than Gwen Stefani ever could.

>tfw working conditions at my job gotten so shitty that this year might be my final year for out of state cons
>tfw I’m planning my two weeks notice two weeks before AX
>tfw I’m now saving up for both AX and saving up enough cash for rent to last me at least 2 months

>want to make a Taobao purchase via Superbuy
>for some reason, they removed the option to use your credit card on-site, now only the PayPal option is available (PayPal is unavailable in my country) and I can't load credit onto the account itself without bank transfer (ughhhhhhh)
>try to contact customer service and ask them to put it back so I can pay
>immediately receive an e-mail stating all services are suspended until the end of Chinese new year (Feb 12)
>mfw I already purchased something before they removed the option
>mfw when it arrives at the warehouse, I won't be able to have it delivered
I want to cry/die, anons. What do I do?

>>10094198
You can use a credit card through Paypal without an account. Is that not an option?

>>10094187
I know this is ita as shit, but I honestly kinda dig how Lil Mama wore AP and I'm sad she stopped.

>>10094178
Oh man that brings me back. I looked at some old issues I had stored away and of course they look ugly as sin, but I’d be lying if I didn’t want to dress this ugly when I was 11

>>10094207
>glue it dress together
Unless you're Bendelacreme, please don't do this

>>10094203
It doesn't have my country available in the drop-down options.

>>10094134
Anon I can tell you from first hand experience that the issue isn’t lolita, ilike anon >>10094142 said, it’s your depression sucking all the joy from your passions. I’ve done what you contemplate doing, and purging my closet only left me feeling emptier and foolish.

>>10093897
How would you keep scalpers and DD thieves out

>>10094155
How old are you? If someone was reading teen mags in the early aughts they would be late 20s to early 30s now

After many years of having to deal with my increased appetite and weight gain, I finally have it back in check. I can finally be thin again and hopefully fit in some old school skirts again. I also sold some basic ass Aatp jsk months ago and I regret it so fucking hard.

>>10094248
There are plenty of gulls in their late 20s and 30s. You're just revealing how new you are.

Tfw impatiently waiting for my tax return and already have plans for every last cent of it but don't have the funds now. None of the stuff I'm getting is time sensitive, thankfully, but when you plan on dropping a grand, waiting just somehow seems even more like a pain. I've been putting off buying some of it just so I wouldn't have to dip into my savings