/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

First for kill all crossboarders.

Also, I'm sad it's still too warm in my country. I can't wait to pull out the heavy capes, coats and muffs.

Greetings, I'm a crossboarder. I need a bard in Ultima Online Outlands to help me grind for gold. You don't have to be good, I just need someone to pacify monsters for me. I'll give you half the loot. This should make you feel better.

>tfw feels threads being ruined by r9k-esque posting

Someone bought a dress I have for sale, but they are an unkempt hamplanet and I don't want to sell it to them, and I don't know what to do. I know it's really petty, but I don't want this dress getting destroyed.

>>10060412
I used to do animal taming / wizardry in UO. Sold beetles allll daaaaay.

>>10060442
You would fit in great on UO Outlands then. We got taming out the wazoo. We even got mount breeding to get rare hues.

Forget dressing up as my favorite characters, I'm going to become my own versions of them

>>10060442
Oh as an aside from UO talk, I suppose I'll hit you with what I think. However, it probably doesn't mean much considering I've never been in your position before. I say just let it go and think about how you made someone happy and that you got some cash in your pocket for other things. Did you ever sell beetles to murderers? Now that's relevant.

>>10060385
Man I just really love Aristo

>>10060442
Here's hoping they dont respond to the invoice in time so you have an excuse to refuse them!

>>10060452
There's never enough love for aristo.

>>10060458
You don't really need an excuse. Just be upfront about being attached to the dress and wanting it to go to a good home.

>>10060478
That's how you get bad feedback

Man I just really love cosplay boobs

>>10060488
For being honest?

>>10060442
I didn’t read the post you were replying to and maaaaan was I confused there for a minute. Thought selling beetles was the hip new way of earning cash for brand.

>tfw cute mori bf who actually does woodsy things

my heart

>>10060493
Still bad feedback

>>10060504
How is it bad? She'd be demonstrating that she actually cares about her dresses.

I'm coming to terms with the fact I may have been abusive towards my ex. I didn't even realise I was doing it but after a mental diagnosis, my psych brought up that this was a pretty common type of abuse present in previous patients that they had seen.

Everything matches up and I feel so dirty and empty on the inside. I didn't think that what I was doing at the time could ever have been abuse, I was just scared and needy. I could never consider myself an abuser, I loved them so dearly and wouldn't have ever of wanted to hurt them. I thought that this was a common thing that happened in a lot of relationships but apparently what I did could be considered abusive...

I feel really disgusted in myself. I despise abusive people and think they are the worst of all people. Abusing and using a person who has sworn themselves to you and trusts you to care and love them. Using that care and love as a reward to get what you want rather than just a given. I don't know how to deal with these emotions. I feel like I don't deserve to live.

>>10060505
You should have put "I reserve the right to refuse any sales" in your TOS/the listing description. Too late now, you're gonna get bad feedback, do it from now on

>>10060513

I get the feeling you and your ex are both girls

Man I just love cosplay

>>10060516
Isn't that implied for every sale?

>>10060513
The best thing you can do now is to become a better person. Send your ex a letter of apolgy once you've gotten your shit straightened out and the n never contact them again. Let go, knowing you've done the best you can to give them solace and closure. Otherwise you will take a long walk off a short cliff.

Also, Shame is good. It tells you what you're not supposed to be doing. If you're ashamed let it motivate you to change. Or at least a deterrent to not do anything similar again.

>>10060524
Nayrt, but no. It really isn't/ List it in your TOS and let this one go.'Save' the rest if you want to.

>>10060526
That was a rhetorical question, and I'm not the seller.

>>10060513
What did you do anon?

>>10060513
Part of me wants to believe this is my ex because he was an abusive piece of shit. But I know damned well he wouldn’t man up to confess this. And to here of all places.

>>10060517
I'm a guy. She's a girl.

>>10060526
We've been split up for over a year now and neither of us have contacted each other except when absolutely necessary.

>>10060533
Lots of emotional manipulation to always be with her. I have BPD so I have an intense fear of abandonment and I felt very, very, very deeply in love with her to an obsessive degree. To me it was only logically. I felt very nice when I'm around this person because I'm in love with them, they're in love with me too so they get the same nice feeling, so therefore I want to always be around this person so I can always experience that nice feeling and they can experience the same. Win-win.

I didn't realise that my emotions are amplified much greater than normal people and its not normal for someone to feel this type of love so strongly.

I was very scared of her leaving despite her reassurances that she wouldn't and very jealous and hostile towards anyone who would try to take her time away from me. I had an ex who cheated on me in the past and that really shattered me along with being neglected and mentally abused growing up so she did understand and was compassionate about why I got so jealous, was so desperate for affection and approval, wanting to hog her all to myself and I think that's why she was with me for so long.

She pleaded with me to get help and for a long time I just refused. Then she spoke to my mother and she explained to me that it was my relationship on the line here and so I started going to therapy and got medicated and for that short time I felt things were getting better. I was acting pretty strangely because medication was doing some funky things with my mood but I felt good and felt things were going well with us.

I accidentally read one of her text messages to her friend one night and that sent me searching through her entire phone. She only got me to go to therapy and medicated me to make breaking up with me easier. I felt extremely hurt and betrayed. But oh well.

>>10060534
I feel really awful about it. I genuinely was in complete head-over-heels in love with her and my feelings never stopped.

I hope that you find the closure you need with your abuse and be able to move on from it. I know she has been able to move on without me which hurts in a lot of ways because in a small way, I was right to be as suspicious and as jealous as I was of a certain person but things change.

I haven't been in a relationship since then and I don't know when I will ever be able to reenter one because I'm so scared I'll fall into the same trap.

>>10060538
Ouch. That's pretty bad anon. I have mental illnesses too and I used to act like that with my bf when we first got together. To be fair I had just gotten out of living with an abusive parent so I was riddled with paranoia and a lot of other things but I'm much much better now than I was then and don't do it at all any more. I'm honestly a bit worried about how it's impacted my bf since he still worries and fusses over me a lot. I feel like people with mental illnesses have to grow up and take responsibility a lot faster though, so he can't understand that I've gotten a lot better. I'm putting more effort into telling him it's better now and I hope we can grow together. Don't give up anon, just keep working on yourself. It sounds like your ex was at least understanding if she wanted to get you help before you broke up. In a way you must know that she cared about you a lot to do that. Still, I can understand that it stings. I hope at least the therapy and meds have made you somewhat better. You could send her a letter or something apologising, since it seems like she wanted you to get better and would probably understand.

>>10060534
>But I know damned well he wouldn’t man up to confess this.
>man up
Yikes

>>10060542
>>10060534
Double yikes

>>10060539
You fucked up. She moved on. You need to move on. Life sucks but you learn from your mistakes. She won’t take you back. Trust me, my ex fucked up big time. But I moved on, started a new chapter and found someone who treated me better. My ex got his shit together, got a job, his own apartment and even his own car. It worked out better for him and for me. Sometimes you need that mistake and regret to get your shit together. Use it as a learning experience and don’t repeats the same mistake again.

>>10060555
I have moved on. I don't miss her because she doesn't exist anymore, the person I fell in love with doesn't exist, the person in her body now isn't the same person who I loved. I just miss comfort.

>>10060513
If you haven't already, I suggest sending your ex a proper apology, and explain that you've come to realize how badly you actually treated them and that you're genuinely regretting it and are sorry. Do NOT include any of this "I hate myself because of it I don't deserve to live" self pity in the apology, because you'd be guilt tripping them to forgive you and they might even feel pressured to treat you nicely and make light of what has happened. That's abusive, don't do it. Just say you're sorry for all the suffering you must have caused them, and tell them that they don't need to reply or anything, that you just wanted to try and make amends after realizing how hard the situation must have been for them. You'll feel better, and your ex might too. After that, do your best to start recognizing bad signs in your own behavior before you act on them, and take relationships slowly until you get an OK from your psych. But self pity and hatred is not the way to go, and it will only give you an excuse to continue being a bad person. Get over it and work towards being a good person instead, if not for yourself then definitely for all the other people in your life.

>>10060559
I don't know how to contact her. I do know where she lives since she hasn't moved to my knowledge but hand delivering a letter sounds like a bad move.

>>10060513
The fact that you recognise your actions and feel shame for them mean you do deserve to live.

The worst of all people are unrepentant abusers. Those that use and abuse others to their own ends, then when they can no longer abuse someone, immediately move on to the next victim. They are the ones that don't deserve life and make the world a worse place by their existence.

>>10060385
Guys I’m sad and alone for the holidays, should I just stay in bed for the rest of the winter?

>>10060558
You’re not over her if you’re still this hung up on it. But >>10060559 has a point. Apologize to her but don’t play the pitty card making her feel obligated to accept it. It’s not going to help her and is just another form of abuse that she left you for. Putting it past you, not letting it make you feel like a worthless shit is really getting over it. But you’re not over it if you’re feeling like you don’t deserve to live for it.

>>10060566
That's probably for the better then, don't bother her anymore. From your posts you sound like a complete nutjob anyway, so I suggest taking all these feels you're posting in a non-related thread instead to your psych or a therapist and let them sort you out. Any advice you're going to get from anons and especially /cgl/ is not going to make a difference, and you wallowing in off-topic self pity in the wrong place will not help either.

>>10060568
That won't solve the sadness and loneliness anytime soon.

>>10060572
I’ve tried getting out there going on dates with plenty of girls and really just showing that I can be worth a bit of their time, but I guess no one what’s a shitty cosplay bf anymore

>>10060570
I can promise you I have moved on from her but not my actions. I do miss being in a relationship and the emotions that come with being in love but I don't want to hurt another person the same way until I'm fixed. It was just today that my psychologist brought up that what I did could be considered abusive. I never had reflected on that idea before and I don't know how to deal with my self-image anymore. I'm a very lovey-dovey person but that turns into obsession which leads to doing things which seemed okay at the time but obviously weren't in retrospect.

>>10060576
Why are you posting here? This is a board for cosplay and lolita fashion.

>>10060578
This is the designated shitposting corner.

>>10060538
Could you be more specific; I'm not clear on what you actually did.

Man, why is Moitie so hard to find.

>>10060580
No this is the feels thread things like “ I was cosplaying with my friends and my cosplay was too obscure for the general convention attendees to know who I was” or “ I missed out on the preorder for an AP dress and now it’s second hand sales price is twice it was when it was on preorder” not “ I am a fuck up and abused my ex. That has nothing to do with cosplay or lolita fashion whatsoever. Did you and her cosplay? Does she wear lolita? Did you meet up at a convention? Did you cheat on her with another cosplayer? That would be relevant.

>>10060581
I couldn't really be more specific since this occurred over a period of 4 years and I wasn't always in that state of mind. I can give specific instances that I remember bear in mind that these are the worst of the worst things I did and that's why I remember them.

She would go to house parties with friends from her old highschool and she was a tomboy so she had a lot of male friends. I have quite a lot of social anxiety so I don't like to go these parties but the same vein I don't like her going because of jealousy. I'd demand she text me back within 2 minutes of me texting her. I'd demand she limit herself on how much she drank. She was not allowed to stay the night and I would pick her up and drop her off. Most of the time, without her knowledge I would be parked just across the street and would sit in my car for hours, texting her in almost an anxious panic until she finished or I couldn't stand it anymore and would go in to find her. Then I would tell her how much it hurts me that she goes and does these things, why do you want to hurt me? How could you do that to someone you love? I would keep going until she was in tears begging for forgiveness and most of the time she would try to have sex with me to make up for it which I would tell her that me having sex with her was my gift to her, not the other way around so I could guilt her further like sending me pictures of herself etc.

I am not proud of what I did and it really makes me feel terrible remembering these things. I did love her extremely deeply, obviously I'm offering up one of the worst stories but we did have some really lovely memories together like going to a Koi pond and dropping our parking ticket in the water which we fished out using her floppy hat. At the time I just felt that I was doing what I had to do because I was so anxious about her cheating and it drove me insane.

>>10060587
I cosplay, go to conventions and wear j-fash. She as far as I know doesn't do any of these things.

>>10060590
>10060590
nayrt, but wow, that was shitty. I'm glad you're feeling disgusted with yourself after realising how manipulative and abusive you were to her.

I hope you have apologized to her and now strive to be a better person. I guess that is as much as you could do now besides offering her support so that she could also overcome all those years of abuse.

>>10060585
I guess that's the charm of it?
No, JK, this also drives me nuts. There's this grey dress I've been looking for and it just doesn't pop anywhere! WHY DONT YOU PEOPLE SELL YOUR MOITIE WTF

>>10060595
Motie fans keep their Moitie. The only stuff that sells is the prints that are either high dollar and you can make a profit on. Or the garbage that took three years to sell on cdjapan because no one wanted it. It’s also very versatile fashion that can be used even in non lolita settings.

>>10060590
You didn't love her. You saw her as something you owned, something you could control, something that was owed to you.

You're an absolute piece of shit. I don't believe you for a second that you're just suddenly realizing what you did was abusive. You stalked this woman, invaded her privacy, set ridiculous rules and treated her like property, emotionally manipulated and gaslit her, guilted her into both having sex and sending you photos of herself, and probably tonnes of other common abuser shit that you aren't telling us.

If you're truly sorry (which I doubt you are because you still keep excusing this behaviour in small ways), don't date anyone again.

>>10060595
Yeah I'm not happy about it but I don't think I'm capable of that sort of stuff now. Medication levels out my moods a lot, I've learnt to overcome some of my anxiety and that sort of thing. So I hope I can share a happy and healthy relationship with someone special in the future and cherish that person properly.

>>10060601
If that's how you feel, I don't think I could convince you otherwise. I admit and own what I did and I don't think I'll ever be able to remove the regret I have for my actions which I will live with until I die. I even knew my actions at the time were wrong and hurtful (I didn't consider them abusive because that didn't fit in the definition of what I thought abusive was) but I couldn't stop letting my emotions dictate what I did. I can't change what I've done and what I am very sorry for but it doesn't mean I can't not live my life.

>>10060590
>I'd demand she limit herself on how much she drank. She was not allowed to stay the night and I would pick her up and drop her off.
Those are fairly normal expectations people have of their partners.
>I'd demand she text me back within 2 minutes of me texting her.
This is ridiculous. How could you expect someone to pay that much attention to their phone while at a party?
>Most of the time, without her knowledge I would be parked just across the street and would sit in my car for hours, texting her in almost an anxious panic until she finished or I couldn't stand it anymore and would go in to find her. Then I would tell her how much it hurts me that she goes and does these things, why do you want to hurt me? How could you do that to someone you love? I would keep going until she was in tears begging for forgiveness and most of the time she would try to have sex with me to make up for it which I would tell her that me having sex with her was my gift to her, not the other way around so I could guilt her further like sending me pictures of herself etc.
This is crazy. I'm glad you're seeing a psych. about it.

>>10060612
>How could you expect someone to pay that much attention to their phone while at a party?
That was the point. If she was glued to her phone texting me, she couldn't talk to other people and therefore couldn't cheat.

>>10060590
you are a special breed of fucked up and you should feel bad about it for a lifetime.

do the world a favor and fix yourself before you dare to get involved with somebody romantically ever again. also, if i were you, i sure as hell wouldn't reach out to her. if anything she's probably trying to maintain no contact after what you did. don't fuck it up for her again.

Okay but seriously though, I need a bard in Ultima Online so I can make some mad dough. Feel free to be a mage or archer bard. Be prepared for ganks.

>>10060632
have you tried going to >>>/vg/ ?
lol this looks like tibia. good times.

>>10060612
>>I'd demand she limit herself on how much she drank. She was not allowed to stay the night and I would pick her up and drop her off.
>Those are fairly normal expectations people have of their partners.

No they aren't. If you don't trust your partner to drink within their limits, don't be with them. If you can't trust them to stay the night somewhere without cheating, don't be with them. If you can't trust them to get a ride home with someone else, don't be with them.

It's literally that simple.

>>10060635
No, no one is interested in discussing video games there. It's likely that there are more submissive minded individuals here that will fill a supportive role, thus this is the perfect place for recruitment.

>>10060637
>It's likely that there are more submissive minded individuals here
hmmm you just lost your chance of finding a bard.

>>10060502
That's really anon! Hope you two make a bunch of woody things together.

>>10060641
There's nothing wrong with being submissive. I used to do a LOT of ERP and would generally play switch. It's just that being my bard wouldn't be much of an alpha activity, you know? Those who enjoy the supportive side would get more enjoyment out of it. Then I would split half the loot.

>>10060637
>> submissive minded people

I hope you never find a bard if you think like that. Pitty, I was actually going to take you up on your offer till you proved you’re an incel.

>>10060637
>play healer in most MMO
>Not because I like playing healer
>But because I like how valuable it makes me as a player and the amount of authority I command as everyone begs me to party them
>Collect payment
>Use payment to invest in trading
>Usually become one of the richest people on the server through merching
>Use my riches as a powerplay to get people to do what I want


>submissive

>>10060645
I think you got me all wrong. You're using submissive in a negative context. I think it takes all types to make this world spin. For example, you need aggressive type A personalities if you wanna be a professional football lineman. If you want to be my bard, chances are someone who is in the more submissive mindset would enjoy it more. I ERP'd plenty as a submissive and dominant so I would have nothing against doing either role.

However, a dominant bard would be pretty rad. Especially if they're an Amazon which may or may not be my fetish.

>>10060636
Use 'expect' instead of 'demand' and it's entirely reasonable. You even appear to agree with me on the drinking. I didn't interpret it as not trusting her to get a lift with someone else, but if that is the case, I would agree it is excessive.

>>10060442
You may have to let this one go through or risk a bad review unless the TOS of the selling site gives you the right to refuse a sale for personal reasons.
Put a disclaimer in your future listings that you reserve the right to refuse any sale for any reason. Then refuse the sales like this on an invented technicality.

What age do girls start becoming sexual?

Also, how does one groom a girl to grow up to love them and marry them?

>>10060513
If you did not know, then you couldn’t have done things better/differently at the time. No one can. You’ve obviously sought help and are learning so now you know better. Keep with your therapy, you CAN learn to deal with the feelings, forgive yourself and continue to do better. I’d hold off on letters of apology etc until you are more stable.

>>10060657
18 and that's impossible, you should give up now.

>>10060585
Moitie is easy to find, just don’t be cheap, buy it new.

>>10060659
>18

>>10060657
You should read "L'école des femmes" from Moliere. It's a comedy play, but about this same stupidity that you're asking.

>>10060661
I already have the new releases. I'm talking about the old ones that aren't on their store anymore.

>>10060657
Judging from those exact words nobody would want to love you or marry you anyways. Get lost, freak.

I want to get married one day

>>10060722
Me too man, i'm sure you'll find that special guy

>>10060722
Me too anon, me too...

>>10060724
What's stopping you

>>10060651
I would never tell my partner to "watch their drinking" or anything like that. If they drink excessively, I just won't date them. If someone drinks more than you want them to, don't date them. That's what I'm saying. Don't attempt to put limits on people. If they aren't doing what you want them to be doing, they aren't for you. Find someone else.

I've been on /cgl/ to much. Saw a post about IW feels on my pintrest and was wondering what dress they were talking about and extremely confused as it talked about Ned and Aunt May for a minute before realizing they were talking about Infinity War and not Innocent World

>>10060521
Mods should enforce a one feels thread rule. We have like 6 or 7 in the catalog

>>10060725
>What's stopping you
Me.
I'm a 25yrs old recovering socially awkward neet and not even close to finish my degree. Been trying to get back on my feet since a year, but didn't manage to stick to my plans and the few shallow goals I have until recently. I don't have any intimate experience and probably shouldn't even think about it until I am stable enough to carry the burden of love. On top of that being into lolita doesn't make it any easier to find someone willing to accept who you are.

Only the thought that I'll be able to buy all the nice burando once I'm done with studying can comfort my mind and keeps me going.

>>10060803
I don't come here often and I still have to do a double take whenever I come across that acronym in the context of the movie.

>tfw still so far away from the body I want to cosplay and not feel like an idiot

I lost a bunch of weight this year but I still need to lose a lot more if I'm gonna have an open shirt situation

>>10060735
If your partner did hard drugs and was on their way to becoming an addict, would you try to stop them? I certainly would. I wouldn't tell people to not try and dictate their partners' choices. Everything else he did was fucking crazy, but having your partner limit their drinking is something that could be done out of concern for your PARTNER vs b/c you want to control them

tfw I'm torn between getting married and having no kids, and wanting to have a son to be my precious spoiled child with manners.

>>10060830
People have a lot of setbacks on the way to achieving their dreams. As long as you keep pick yourself up and putting one foot in front of the other, you'll be fine. Even though it doesn't seem like it right now, a husband and a closet full of brand will surely come to you one day. Trust me.

>>10060385
>work in office
>desk job
>want to wear lolita at least once a week
>dress code rules outlined in policy are minimal
>wear blkxwhite coord to work, no issues or negative reactions
>get pulled aside a month later by supervisor
>anon, I've gotten some complaints that you wore a french maid costume to work
>fuming
>explain the fashion again and assure her it wasn't a sexy costumeholyshit
>feeling bummed but try to compromise
>wear softer poof old school coords
>get told someone has complained again, specifically about lace headdresses
>am stumped as to what the problem is, other than looking different
>go to head of organization for dress code clarification, assuming he was the one that had the issue
>get official word from top-dog that he actually has no issues with my coords, thinks they are fine
>celebrate by wearing lolita again
>supervisor tells me the next day that someone feels it's "too dressed up" for the office
>absolute dumbest shit ever uttered and wouldn't hold up if this took a legal turn
>revisit dress code in policy just to be sure:
>only says clothes worn cannot be ripped, torn, or dirty
>feel bullied
>be completely discouraged and bitter, stop wearing lolita to work
>1/2 year passes
>wear classic for the two special events we have in the fall
>board of directors and other guests (non-coworkers) at events love my coords
>say they look forward to seeing what I wear each event
>feelsgood.jpg
>fast forward to today
>board member calls, says he is stopping by office today
>asks if I'm wearing a christmas outfit
>tell him nope, wearing it tomorrow
>he is actually disappointed
>asks me to send him and other board members a picture of the coord I wear.

I couldn't believe it! This really cheered me up. There's really nothing wrong with my old school coords. Some salty normie coworker is just trying to enforce her own dress code. Too bad, jerkface.

>>10060919
good job! enjoy your lolita

>ordered a bunch of new clothes
>get them
>nothing fits
Humblecomplaint my tits are too big and my waist is too small but really they are. Now I either have to send everything back or sit and seethe at my closet every day and never wear them because they don't fit right.
I don't even know if I can send them back because several were final sale and I forget which. Dirt cheap, but also no returns. That happened with a sweater I bought that almost fits my boobs.
>>10060724
>>10060722
>want a qt husbando
>hate fussy parties, being the center of attention, and all bullshit entailed with weddings
>hate my family and have no friends, don't want to look like a loser or a russian mail order bride in front of his family and friends
>tfw no bf anyway
I want to elope and not tell anyone, this is the only solution.

>>10060919
Office politics are such bullshit man. If someone doesn't like you they can be a bitter buttercup and bully you out of a job if not outright get you fired.
tfw no remote job so I don't have to deal with it anymore.
tfw no wealthy husband so I never have to work again.

>>10060919
Kek it's probably just some salty bitch that's disapointed in her own lackluster life, just laugh at her pathetic jealousy if she ever complains again.

>>10060919
I'd still keep my eye on the situation a bit. Why didn't the supervisor tell the co-worker(s) that you are within the dress code rather then telling YOU about the complaints? Supervisor doesn't seem like they are on your side for this. Lots of times board members have fuck-all to say in the policies or the everyday running of the office.

>>10060961
>Why didn't the supervisor tell the co-worker(s) that you are within the dress code rather then telling YOU about the complaints?
because supervisor is not on my side, you totally called it.
she is the odd one out in a lot of things and, instead of rallying with me to be a team, she takes the boohoo non-confrontational route. my morale has been in the shitter for a while so I've been job searching. I'm excited to move on from here asap.

>>10060969
Any chance she is the 'someone' who has been complaining about the way you dress?

>>10060930
>>hate fussy parties, being the center of attention, and all bullshit entailed with weddings
I intend to combine the wedding itself and the honeymoon and then have a more relaxed party when we get back home for this reason

>>10060972
good thought but no, she usually isn't around when I dress up, so that's why these complaints get back to me way after the fact.

man, I just really love BPN

>>10060974
I'd rather sign the papers in secret and never tell anyone. Honeymoon is cool and all but it's just a vacation in the end.

>ordered a bunch of stuff (12kg) from Taobao, including Christmas gifts for my mom
>want to have it delivered, but am scared it'll get lost and/or customs will financially destroy me, especially so close to Christmas
Is it a better idea to wait til Christmas is over (so like, 27 or 28 December) to send for the package, then accept it in January, or should I wait even longer to be safest? Also, should I split things into two packages to avoid getting assfucked? I want to send it altogether for convenience and to save money, but there's no point in saving like $30 on shipping if I'll just end up getting taxed $100+ anyway. I need guidance, gulls.

>>10060991
Depends on your local laws and regulations.
Shipping usually ramps up along with total weight, so splitting it up probably won't make a huge difference in that. If anything it'll end up more expensive because now you've got two packages to deal with instead of one.

Customs, taxes and import duties are a different story though, where I live everything under €22 won't get hit by customs at all, above that you're paying 21% VAT on the total value and €13 in customs fees on top, and above €150 you're getting shafted with import duties before all that to boot so if you can split something up so each package stays below €150 in value, it might actually end up cheaper.

>>10060977
Same anon. RIP.

>>10060930
Boy you are a lovely bunch of coconuts
Humble brag on your tits/figure but no bf
Complain about your fits but too sloppy to manage your purchases, too dumb to get clothes altered.
Hate senpai, no current friends but concerned about your future image in front of some imaginary people.
No bf but want benefits of hubs and marriage.

Just Wow.

>>10060977
>>10061001
I have a cool bpn jacket that I never really wear, should I sell it? Do people collect bpn pieces?

Mfw have lovely husband, I do not have to work, I have a decent amount of brand, local comm is nice but I also have depression and don't enjoy anything for a good while now. Not even my cat makes me feel happy.

Medicine makes me volatile, therapy just makes me feel worse, what should I do?

>>10061010
Find a volunteering gig or something to get you out of the house regularly

>>10060864
I think you can read enough context into what he said that he wasn't concerned about possible alcoholism. There's a fucking ten mile difference in "my partner was becoming dependent on alcohol so I suggested we stay away from situations where she'd be tempted to drink" VS "I told my partner how much she could drink, when she had to be home, where she could sleep, that I would be the only person to drop her off and pick her up, and since I still didn't trust her, I parked across the street from the party and constantly texted her, expecting her to respond in under 2 minutes, otherwise I gaslit her and made her apologize to me and give me sex which I then convinced her was a gift to her."

>>10061004
>spending $40 to alter a $5 sweater
tell me how they can let out the boobspace of a sweater m8
salty surfboard detected

>>10061004
HAHA

Pettanko!

Christmas is Tuesday and I know that I'm not going to get any presents.
everyone in my immediate family is broke, I'm single, and all of my friends live far away.
I got some things from my Aunts earlier in the fall that I'm counting as early presents to make myself feel better. I also hopped on a reservation last month even though I'm supposed to be on an indefinite no-buy.
It feels really sad. maybe one of my siblings will do something special for me. it really doesn't have to be something bought...
I usually go all out with presents for my family to make up for the fact that they won't have any presents to contribute but I am already spending money on groceries for the huge dinner I'm cooking. It's always so one-sided
I wish I had a partner who could make the holidays something to look forward to...one day, I hope to open a gift box and see some secondhand brand or something. jumping into my husband's arms in gratitude...that's the dream.

>>10061021
But you're a worthless whore so why would a man love you?

>>10061018
Buy to fit the boobs, take in the waist. Also for a tight sweater that you stupidly can't buy to fit to your goddess-ly milk bags, what is cute side-lacing or back lacing over contrast or coordinating inserts, not only easy to do, it's stylish right now. You are just cheap AND dumb, I guess?

I'm a surfboard all right but I don't crave the hourglass and neither does my boo so I'm good, thanks. Also, my clothes fit.

>>10061020
Half-right, I'm flat but I'm a dancer so actually pretty relieved that I don't have moo-chan problems. Or that kind of attention.

>>10061027
A nice figure and a good career! :^)

>>10061027
>tfw no flat gf to dance with

>>10061033
>Maidens Rescued: III

>>10061038
Well played but still no gf so I’m outta here

>>10061040
Good luck on your love quest.

>>10061045
Thanks I’m sure it’ll be over soon with the new year when I give up again but hey I still have cosplay

>>10061047
How's Magi-chan?

>>10061050
You’ve lost me anon, what?

>>10061052
Is the dimensional merge going to happen or not?

>>10061056
>I’ll roll with this bit
I can get started on it sooner or later

>>10060830
Don't worry anon, i'm financially stable with a reliable job, not socially awkward (neither an extrovert or introvert), 23, know lots of lolitas and people who like the type of fashion, and i've been single for 5 year. So even if you were to turn it all around, you'll probably still be single!

>>10060830
>>10061081
I want to hug both of you right now

I wish nobody cared about me so I could kill myself without spreading pain and depression to more people

>>10061085
Do not anon i care about you

>>10061089
Fuck you

>>10061091
That’s not going to stop me you fool

>>10061091
Fuck YOU, leatherman

>tfw have crush on guy
>make plans to go to AMKE together
>slight suspicion he only likes me because of an asian fetish, but ignores it bc i'm excited
>"oh sorry anon, i actually got a gf, can you just go alone?"
I think I'm doomed to be single forever

>>10061022

>>10061108
Well at least you stil have us, or like online dating?

>>10061112
>online dating
I tried that and only got guys who obviously only wanted a hookup. a girl and I hit it off but she only wanted me to help her with her makeup.

>>10061116
Well idk what to tell you anon, I’ve been fetishized by white girls since I’ve got into cosplay. At this point I just want to settle down with someone who really likes my personality and I think online is a good place for it

>>10061119
If you end up finding someone online who falls in love for your personality, please give me pointers.

>>10060612
>Those are fairly normal expectations people have of their partners.
Honestly, no. That's fucked.
I would never tell me partner i demand anything of them, and I would be pretty pissed if he did that to me (not that he would). There's a very easy and correct way to deal with this situation:

>"Stay safe, have a good time and if you need anything then give me a ring"

I suppose if you know your partner to go overboard and get extremely sick/terrible hangover then you give a gentle reminder. Yes, kind of parenting but what couple doesn't parent each other to some degree honestly. Its entirely different from literally demanding.

>>10061120
Well I think I’ll start now because, I’m alone on winter holiday. So how you doin anon? :^)

>>10061126
>>10061120
Shitty memes aside anon, I’m bored as hell and would like to talk about cute things with you

>>10061130
do you have a thowaway

>>10061186
added the wrong image, but also fitting i suppose?

>>10061186
I do not but you can add my main
AngerySnowman#4628

>>10061027
HAHAHAA IMAGINE THIS LEVEL OF FUCKING ABSO FUCKING LUTE COPE

>>10061108
Chink

>>10061192
imagine getting this upset that a flatty can have friends and a loving bf while you don't

>>10061210
>can have
Bitch please if I wanted a bf I'd have one by next week. No fucking point when I'm moving in a few months.
Hey hey tell me this, if your life is so fucking great how come you have to go try and insult strangers on the internet just to feel good about yourself?
And my god my rack is lovely.

>>10061007
I don't know about collecting. You should try anyway, but expect it to be on sale for a while unless it's really cute.

Looking for cute gf to discuss killer7 and Legend of the Galactic heroes. A trap is fine too, but you have to be under 6 feet.

>>10061202
gook actually

>>10061216
>A trap is fine too
hmm
>but you have to be under 6 feet.
FUCK

>>10061213
sure, and if you wanted friends and a family you didn't hate you'd have them too, right? i wasn't the anon calling you a lovely bunch of coconuts and didn't insult you for your initial post. but based on >>10061192 and this reply you seem incredibly unpleasant. no wonder you don't have any of them

>>10061093
Hey, you take that back. Leatherman makes a very good multitool

One of my friends had hella rebound depression and fucked an e-famous steamer and now every time I see her, all I can think about is her getting dicked down by my friend.

>>10061093
I'll show you who's the boss of this thread

>>10061216
Galactic heroes never should have been remade

>>10061252
You're right but the new series was mediocre instead of terrible or as good as the original.

How do I find a qt gf to do cute couple cosplays with?

>>10061257
Fuck if I know.

>>10060977
Mah gull. I wish bpn and other goth/punk brands would be used more in lolita. Especially Na+H, their main pieces are mostly too short for lolita but otherwise they are honestly amazing.

>>10061256
What riveting conversation, it's a wonder you don't have a gf already

>>10061269
I'm not that anon. I just wanted to add my two sense to the discussion.

>>10061273
Don't break the illusion I want to rp

>>10061276
Oh okay I am that anon and will now be buying dream dresses for you.

Man, I really like it when cosplayers are IC.