/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

Honestly, if you’re shy the easiest way is for you to just go in a decent cosplay or j-fash and people will come up to you instead. Just approach people wearing a cosplay you know something about and compliment them, talk about the show etc but recognise when people are putting out signs that they don’t want to talk to you. It’s usually obvious unless you’re completely socially inept, if this is you then you’ll need advice for social situations generally, and not off 4chan. Don’t approach girls dressed in j-fashion unless you’re also a girl, it’s too easy to be misread as a creep.

>>10037455
>Don't approach girls.
FTFY

I like dancing so what I do is I'll find one of those assholes blasting music on a speaker and boogie down with them if they're playing some jams and act goofy as fuck and make other attendees laugh and eventually someone will strike up a conversation or heckle me and then boom made a pal for the weekend

>another "how do I talk to girls?" Thread
Stupid

>When youre a literal alpha male and you just talk to people about what theyre reading or wearing ar conventions

Buncha spergs.

>>10037400
1. Collect underpants
2. Cosplay your favourite series
3. ????
4. Profit

>Dress up as a cylon or a storm trooper
>hover around people and make stupid sound effects

You're best bet is to have a good cosplay, or a silly one if you're brave enough.
I find it's easier to be approached than approach people if you're really shy. I can assure you that lot's of weebs out there love to talk and be talked to, and like the other anon said if they don't show interest in you then move on to someone else.
If you are adamant about being the one to approach people, the best thing to do is approach someone who is dressed in a cosplay that you recognize, asking them for a pic, how they made it,how much time it took etc.., Or go to a meet up you're interested and try to mingle. it also doesn't hurt to talk about the con itself.
Another one that has really helped me brake the ice is to pass out items like packaged small treats/stickers/pins/ribbons at cons. It's a super easy way to have conversations with people, and it makes people's day. I've had lots of fun giving/receiving small gifts, like at a pokemon meetup a girl gave me a pokemon card. She was achingly awkward but very sweet and funny. I've also had a person dressed in the same cosplay as me come and start talking to me, take a pic and gave me some packaged jelly beans. I've also seen cosplayers use cute props for people to take pics with when they approach them, its a lot of fun and helps break the anxiousness you might feel.
Dunno if that helps, but there ya go.

>>10037400
I'm super shy but I'll approach people cosplaying the same series as me, because obviously we have that in common. I'll also be more receptive to people talking to me if they're in cosplay from the same series. Most of my con friends whom I've met and stayed in contact with are people I met while cosplaying the same series.
Pro tip though- pay attention to the person and what they are doing before you approach. I was recently at a con, just sitting on my phone, I was taking a break and didn't really want to socialize. This guy comes up and starts talking to me and I didn't want to be rude but I didn't really feel like talking to him about what anime I watch. If someone is on their phone or seems occupied, it's probably best to just ask for a pic and leave if you want one, or not approach them expecting to have a conversation.

Why do women think they live outside of the same reality everyone else is in

>>10037860
>men constantly ask "how do i talk to girls" like absolute retards
>women live outside the same reality
ok

>>10037860
What are you on about

Don't let this thread turn into shit. OP never even mentioned girls.

>>10037851
What if you do want to socialize but are alone? I know you can wander around dealers/aa, but otherwise it seems hard to signal that you are open to conversation.

>>10037913
If someone is walking around the con, hanging out in the lobby in cosplay, just generally hanging out, they are probably more open to socializing. It's more the lack of reading of signals that say "I don't want to talk to people right now" that socially awkward people seem to miss. If someone is sitting to the side, on their phone, eating or talking to someone, they probably don't want to socialize right then.

>>10037923
(From the perspective of wanting to be approached for conversation) I feel like it's awkward to hang out alone just standing around in cosplay and not on my phone. Is that just an issue on my part? It doesn't help that I've people-watched with con friends and I feel kind of bad seeing some people standing in cosplay alone for 10+ minutes with nobody interacting with them. (I do ask for photos sometimes if I notice people like that, but I'm not a good conversation initiator to do anything else)

>>10037860

>>10037941

Would you find it weird to talk to someone after youre asked for a photo and taken said photo?

>>10038064
Not them but no, especially if you talk to me about the series I'm cosplaying

>>10038064
Not really, it's nice to get to know other fans

>>10038064
no, those are my favorite kind of interactions desu, its also a good excuse to swap social media

>>10038103

huh, good to know, I was always under the impression that the etiquette was to ask for the picture and when you were done you left. god I wish my iPhone wasn't shitting itself or I would be able to use snapchat on it rather than my huge tablet.

>>10038154
You can talk to them after taking a picture, but notice social cues also. If you interrupted them doing something, probably leave them be (I've been asked for pictures while eating or talking to people and I'm fine with taking a quick picture but I'm not going to want to chat). If they're just hanging out, that's fine. But also be aware that they will probably get asked for pics and your convo may be interrupted. Don't be pissy about this. I've had people give me dirty looks for stopping a convo to take a picture but that's kind of what happens when you cosplay.
If the cosplayer seems kind of standoffish or like the might not want to talk, try asking for their instagram and perhaps try interacting there (send them the picture and say "it was nice meeting you, great cosplay" etc.) See how they respond to that. People can be tired, uncomfortable, hungry, thirsty etc. in cosplay which a lot of people seem to forget.

>>10037673
Please teach me your ways senpai.

>>10038195
Join the Army, get ptsd, learn what true horror is

Is easy get just drunk enough to not be creepy everybody wants somebody to talk to and then if you don't like it just walk off

ok so say your on Instagram and you have someone follow you or your following someone, would it be weird or creepy to message them about an upcoming con or to do a cosplay theme with them?

>>10039262
Asking someone you've never met/talked to do a cosplay together is a bit weird... I wouldn't want to commit to something if I have no idea who this person is. If you see they're in the same area, I don't see any harm in commenting and asking if they'll be at a certain con. If you'll be cosplaying something from the same series, maybe mention it and say something like "Hope to see you there!" Obviously if you talk more it's a different story, this is based off of having no interactions with the person.

Go stand in line for something. It doesn’t have to be something you actually want to go see, and it’s actually better if it isn’t. Look at your phone and find some interesting article or thing on fb, then say something about it out loud and ask the people in line in front or behind you if they heard about this and what they think. Usually people love to offer opinions on stuff as long as it’s not a taboo subject. Since you’re at a con, geeky media things are probably a safe bet.

If they respond positively to your opener and talk to you, and they seem interesting, you can keep talking to them. If they’re not very friendly or the conversation isn’t appealing to you, say “wait, which panel is this line for?” When they answer, say “oh crap, I’m in the wrong line, thanks!” and leave.

By using lines for this, you can practice talking to people without really having to need a “reason” to approach them, which can feel really awkward.

>>10039262
It depends, if you've never interacted before that's pretty weird. Also if they don't follow you it can come across as an attempt to get them to do that. If you've talked a bit and are mutuals i'd say its pretty normal though, I've been in groups/done photoshoots with people i've never met IRL a few times

>>10039593
>Look at your phone and find some interesting article or thing on fb, then say something about it out loud and ask the people in line in front or behind you if they heard about this and what they think.

Jesus Christ. Do NOT do this.

>>10037717
This is a really sweet idea anon! I'm not OP but I have a hard time breaking the ice too and giving small gifts sounds like a great idea! May I ask what you've given away and made it fit into your cosplay?

>>10039593
dont do this

>>10037717
do this
Don't hand out unpackaged food though, people will usually be suspicious of you.

>>10037400
If you can't do it outside of a con, what makes you think you'll do any better here? If anything, you'll do even worse because girls (lets be honest here, that is your goal here) are going to be getting every line from every thirsty guy at the con. You're on /cgl/ so it's not like you talk to anyone anyways.

Just following cosplayers who attend the cons you are going to attend and liking their posts on Instagram helps, I love taking pics with cosplayers and it happend twice that somebody recognised me from instagram. Last weekend I went to a convention and cosplayed a nostalgic charachter and people actually came to me to ask me for a picture (which was a first). If they have a cool cosplay i ask Them for a picture myself. This is a good way to swap Social media, but i havent swapped socials with anyone sadly enough. I Just look on Instagram con hashtags to see if I can find Some people i took a photo with so I can tag em in my posts.