/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

>>10294435
looks like Enchantlic Enchantilly

>>10294436
>Enchantlic Enchantilly
art, thank you anon, was this one I think https://enchantlic-enchantilly.com/?pid=118901132

secrets

>>10294491
Can someone explain the last secret to me? Where was it posted and what's with the name? There's no name in it so I kinda miss the reference I guess

>>10294526
its from the instagram of a german Lolita comm, dasteekranzchen.

>>10294536
OK, checked it out, but I still don't get it?

The sunkitty girl on lacemarket can’t seem to make up her damn mind. First she’s on a trip to Japan, then she’s a foreigner living there running a shopping service? Sus AF

>>10294660

Before she would list dresses that hadn't even arrived from her shopping service and would claim dresses like Dream Cat Go Round were only available in Japan.

>>10294660
Same with Soapboxsiren. Maybe it's her alt account.

Hiroshima tea party
>https://twitter.com/aokimisako/status/1198542606692573184

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>>10294675

Hiroshima is one of my favorite cities in Japan and their AP shop always has reay cute and interesting coords on insta. Everyone here looks so sweet and happy

Reminder to slowly start with wardrobe pictures as long as it's still light outside if you're participating in 2020

>>10294664
Lace market has exploded with new sellers like this lately

>>10293203
Why would you need to justify getting yourself a gift? Honestly if I'm hosting something I'm hosting it because I want to enjoy it too. Get the soap if you want. No one's going to give you a gift unless you're lucky, you certainly shouldn't expect it.

People shouldn't host meets for clout. You should host it because you want to. Too many people try to host meets to gain some sort of control in their life and it's not nice to see or deal with.

>>10294099
I spent a LOT of money hosting a simple cafe meet. Kept the cost low, $5 from all of the guests would have covered it, but only half of them paid. That's when I learned to make people pay in advance. My fault though. It happens.

>>10291407
Unbirthday is 100% poly but it's a lot nicer than their over-used chiffon imo, though the print looks a bit washed out in some places.

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>>10294791
Is having decor and prizes at meetups a usual thing in most comms? I don’t recall a single meetup in my comm with decor that wasn't part of the venue, and we only have prizes at larger events where the costs are incorporated in the ticket price. When we make reservations at a cafe or restaurant we have people pay for their spot in advance.
Idk maybe my comm is the odd one out here but I’m just trying to understand what a host would be spending their own money on for a meet-up. Time, oh yes. Lots of time for some events. But money?

>>10294791
Can't you like ban people for not paying, at least a temporary ban?

>>10294791
Don’t let ppl go if they don’t pay. It sounds like you are too new for meetups to think you deserve a “gift” for planning

>>10294828

Yeah either that or just making them pay beforehand would solve a lack of payment issue. My comm has everyone pay themself for meets and stuff and the leader just organizes the party info with venues. If people host from their home they are free just with the request to bring snacks.

If a venue requires a deposit for a reservation we all pay a small fee to RSVP that gets paid back after the meet.

>>10294178
I don't know how to explain it, but all of these girls look exactly the same.

>>10294849
Imai Kira's prints have a distinctive style, they just tried to follow it I guess.

>>10294830
When did I say I deserve a gift? I said I made a rookie mistake in not having people pay in advance.

>>10294799
It’s a matte woven texture, like a super soft and fine canvas or burlap. It’s hard to explain but it doesn’t feel like plastic at all

>>10294806
My comm will decorate the venue themselves because it’s usually a plain banquet room at a restaurant. The hostesses make centerpieces, a photo booth, and everyone gets a gift bag. There are also usually door prize raffles that everyone gets a ticket for with their ticket to the event. That’s for something big like ILD but almost every meet I’ve been to (that’s more than just 4 people going to a candy shop) there are gift bags that the hostess makes.

>>10294384
Holy shit, someone who knows what I'm talking about! Why the fuck is gratitude such a foreign concept? I can't imagine being a mod. People start volunteering because they love the comm, but they need help to keep going. My SO keeps asking me why I even bother with the stress of planning meets for the comm when I've got a few friends at this point.

>>10294599
That’s because it doesn’t make much sense. The OP just nitpicked the picture frame they used.

>>10291453
The ones who aren't American don't really celebrate Halloween afaik. My comm had 1 very small Halloween meet this year, but last year we had nothing. It's not something we look forward to like American lolitas do. I'll be wearing pic related for Sinterklaas though, which is inbetween Halloween and Christmas.

>>10294828
Nayrt but there are 500 people in my comm. Each time there are new ones that don't pay or cancel last minute.

>>10294831
How do you make everyone pay beforehand if you don't know how many drinks they'll have?

>>10294865
What's in the gift bags? Nobody in my comm ever makes them, not even got for big meets. It seems wasteful since you can't buy cheap things that the entire group would like.

>>10294865
whaaaat? We only do gifts on Christmas. We host meetup every two weeks, I would be broke with giftbags every time o.o

>>10295080

If it's specifically a restaurant or bar, just have everyone pay for themselves and be responsible for their own tab? It can't be that difficult?

And like I mentioned, if a place charges a reservation fee people would be required to pay their portion of that fee and there would be a cutoff date before the event by which they would need to RSVP with you so you could pay the restaurant/reserve by a particular date.

It's basic organizational stuff that is pretty easy to resolve. If a comm is that big as well, it makes sense to require things ahead of time from people because it's hard to keep track of it all.

>>10295075
I think most people viewed the Spellbound weekend as last year’s Halloween event, and the year before we had a big sold out high tea for Halloween. Maybe normies aren’t super into Halloween (yet, stores are pushing it) but all the lolitas I know definitely are.

>>10294179
I'm so glad I discovered lolita in 2011. Group shots these days seem so lifeless compared to the ones back then. There's no way I would have been enraptured in the same way as I was then.
I get that trends change, but all these muted colors look so lifeless even though they are pretty dresses. To each their own I suppose.

>>10295136
This! Same here!
I think its also the posing, since 99% of lolita photos today have the same pose?

>>10295121
Most places do not allow separate checks, especially for large parties

>>10295139

I work at a bar and have never been to a bar that didn't allow separate checks? People generally order their own drinks on their own tabs one at a time unless they choose to pay together. But I live in the US, maybe it varies elsewhere. My comm doesn't really go to bars for meets though, more an after-meet thing.

Even at places that didn't allow separate checks like a nicer restaurant, we would all paypal the hosts an amount beforehand and then get refunded the difference at the end or have the initial amount cover part and then pay them the rest after. Most basic clubs at my uni have club dues/fees that members pay and paid members get priority in limited events or part or all of the cost covered when the group goes out and does social activities.

Does no one have any accountability? Is your whole comm shady? If one card has to be used to pay and we didn't pay or plan ahead, everyone generally pays whoever's covering it right when we get the check and we just go down the check for each price and add a little extra each for the tip. No one gets weird about it and if you just get up and leave without paying you'd look like a huge asshole and no one would want you back.

And every meet doesn't have to cost money or be food and drink related. My comm does free meets often and does things like local events with ticketed entry where we all just pay for our own ticket.

Either way if a host doesn't want to spend out of pockets for meets they don't have to. You just have to be strict with others or plan things that are free or low cost and if people show up without money to paid social events expecting to get a free ride they can fuck off. If your comm are strangers or just douchey enough that they will scam each other by eating and drinking on each others' dime and bailing out when it's time to pay then maybe you shouldn't hold events for people like that or limit membership.

>>10295150
Yeah, everywhere I’ve ever been to allows separate checks, even for large parties. They just might add on a service fee for big parties but most places do this for bigger groups.

And if they don’t allow separate checks, just have one person pay and everyone else send them money on the spot, everyone has a smartphone and a paypal account. If someone does something shitty like not paying just ban them.

>>10292985
I have been in Japan for three weeks so I made my auctions all back to drafts... Not all buyers would accept to wait that amount of time so it’s easier to take them down for a bit.

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>>10295150
>Does no one have any accountability? Is your whole comm shady?

Your whole comm doesn't have to be shady for you to be out $30 at the end of the night, just a few of them. And maybe your comm is small and everyone knows each other, but mine isn't. I'm not overcharging 30 people and then refunding them all. You're losing money too if you do it like that, because PayPal likes to take a bite out every transaction.

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>>10295138
I don't think the poses are the issue. Lolitas back then used the same few poses too. Especially the completely overdone intense pigeon toe one.
The quality and fabric choices brands, namely AP, are using today just don't have the same pop that the older ones do. But that's just my opinion.

>>10295136

>>10294179 isn't the best example to gripe about, though. It's an Imai Kira meetup after all, stands to reason the type of people who attend are the ones that gravitate towards her trademark dreamy, muted style.

>>10295178

If people skip out then don't let them come back. Be more selective about whp you let in. There were other solutions listed in that post as well. My comm is pretty big and attendance varies but we've never had people skip on bills.

It really sounds like you're either being too nice or not trying hard enough. Both of which end up with you getting screwed over and the assholes doing it getting away with it. That isn't fair to yourself pr whoever is in charge in these situations so hopefully you find a way to resolve it or just stop hosting.

>>10295200
I don't have a problem getting paid for food. I just charge people the right amount before the event. I'm the one in here bitching that when I do a major meet, I want a card. Are you going to trot out that line about not doing meets to get something? Can we skip it? That platitude has been covered.

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>>10295234

There's nothing wrong with wanting gratitude. I was just offering suggestions for people who seem to be complaining that they were taken advantage of by their comm financially and ending up spending their own money.

If you want recognition for doing the meet just tell people you want more than a verbal thank you. Some people won't know you expect more if you don't ask. Just don't also be surprised if they are offput by it like some people in this thread.

I'm the type to go out of my way to thank people for doing nice things and my friends and social groups are very much gift-giving and favor-doing for no reason types of people so I'm not really sure what it's like to he around people who are ungrateful or unwilling to thank each other in ways that are a little but more than just nice words. Maybe it's a difference of culture between the places we live or something or your comm is so disconnected that it's just an excuse for people to get out but they're not at all emotionally invested in one another?