/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

>>10159374
You can’t please everyone you sell to unfortunately. Once I had a buyer leave me bad feedback because the dress “smelled like laundry detergent.” Like, sorry your accustomed to your items being sold to you dirty but I clean mine before sending them out. As long as you reasonably do your best to fulfill a sale you can get mods to edit bullshit feedback.

>>10159708
and maybe i'm an awful person, i'll admit to it if i am. but at the end of the day people should want to do something because they love to do it, or are curious about it, or because it makes them feel good not because they have a weird complex about seeing other people achieve this.

>>10159693
Come to Colossalcon and pay my bar tab for the entire weekend.

>>10159826
Will you be showering the weekend?

>>10159708
I feel like I'm one of the people in my comm who is most into lolita. Tbh I'd love to spoonfeed a new lolita irl if it meant she's become a good friend.

I'm so torn. I need to vent.
It's been a while since i saw my girl friends. I recently found out one of them is transitioning. It hurts to admit, but i dont think i can ever accept it.
I liked her so much, but i dont want to see her. I dont want to forget what she looked like.
I dont want to say something hurtful, so i dont think we will meet again. Neither of us have many friends, though. WWYD?

>>10159959
I understand the feeling of wanting to own or you feel like you own your friends but you need to get over yourself- they’re living their life, paying their bills, and at the end of the day they’re the ones who will wake up everyday with the actions they’ve taken. It’s their choice to make, you should have no say or influence, nor should you really feel anyway. This logic would apply if your friend was getting married, an abortion, etc.

>>10159959
Just cut them out, anon. FUCK trannies

>>10159959
If youre going to be an asshole about it, it would be best if you left them alone. No one need extra negativity and shit while transitioning.

>>10159522
I have the same problem but with navy blue lol

I just want to buy another black dress but I already have 34

>>10159981
I fail to see any reason why that should prevent you from buying another. In fact, 35 is a cleaner number.

Selling a bunch of lolita on LM and very rarely am I offended by an offer but I hate when people give you something absolutely ridiculous like 80 bucks for three items in excellent condition? ¿ Has anyone ever been successful with offering such low amounts

>>10159993
I'd rather give my stuff away to friends than take stupid offers. Cheaply priced items attract absolute garbage buyers with unrealistic expectations who will do things like file a claim for a dress not fitting despite you providing accurate measurements

>>10160014
Yeah I felt awful because as much as it isn't about money for me I don't find certain haggling behaviors to be appropriate

>>10159959
I completely understand. Its hard seeing a friend go through a big change because it can change the dynamic of the relationship. Just explain its hard for you to see someone go through a big change and you are worried things might change for the friendship.

>>10159959
you are treating this as if your friend is going away or dying or something. there's no tragedy here. if u are really their friend u should support them & be happy for them. they're out there living their best life & u can't support them being true to themselves on the deepest level? you sound like a bad friend.

>>10159959
As much as I would like to cut contact, if that person was a part of the whole group I'd probably tolerate them since I wouldn't want to lose contact with the rest of the group.
If it's possible to see the others cut contact with tranny.

>>10159959
Whenever I have a bad thought about a transsexual I watch a Contrapoints video to cleanse myself

At my current job, which I'm now starting to dislike, I'm really interested in being friends with three people who I really think are nice and cool to be with, but they keep taking me for granted and rarely ever invite me to things despite me actively making attempts at friendly conversation, showing concern about them and their problems, hearing them out...

It's making me so miserable because I have to be with them daily and it's starting to become extremely lonesome around here, what with me always being the odd one out in our team, the person who no one really expresses hate or dislike for but at the same time nobody really cares about. It's also really frustrating. I find that the people I met from fanmeets and cons who I have been hanging out with on and offline care more about me, but they live too far and are also busy with their own lives, so I can rarely bond with them in person.

Should I just stop hurting myself and accept the fact that I'm just not interesting enough for my officemates despite how much I really like them, and just focus on my distant friends..? I've been feeling more and more demotivated to even work...

>>10160153
>that hon
>makes me like transsexuals
Anon please...

>come back home from college
>college city has one fabric store that is dirt cheap (<$4 for anything) and great quality, but shoddy selection
>home city has great selection due to a garment district but is priced to fuck
>want to start making clothing after half a dozen cosplays (and improve my finesse)
>go into city to buy mats
>city is host to a decent fashion school
>all the fabric is stupid expensive and I can't justify blowing that much money
>need to buy some ribbing for a bomber jacket
>impossible to find, the only places that carry it price it to fuck
>wtf.jpg
>see all the bougie art students splashing daddy's cash, spending $80 worth of mats for a t-shirt or a hoodie like it's nothing
>the fabric isn't even that good
>all the cheaper stores also started charging more since art students are a blank check

I knew this was an expensive hobby but seriously, art students piss me the fuck off
also finding it harder and harder to justify getting into sewing clothes when I can buy a premade jacket for half the cost of mats for a homemade one

>>10159959
My best friend transitioned years ago and I was happy for him because it made him happy. You haven't lost anything. You might want to reflect on yourself a little.

>>10160232
Shop online. Even if you pay shipping you're probably finding better quality stuff for your money.

>>10160153
Yikes.

>>10159959
how selfish and entitled.

I think I love planning and buying the materials for cosplay projects more than I like putting the projects together or actually doing the cosplaying. Shit.

>>10159959
I have a good friend whose transition I've been watching from the very beginning and the difference between now and then is incredible, he is SO much happier nowadays.
In the very beginning it was a bit strange, especially getting used to calling someone I had known for a good while a completely new name and pronouns. But it honestly didn't take all that long..? Seeing him excited about transitioning made me excited for him and having been there to support him through their journey has been nothing but rewarding. I was there in all the more difficult times and in all the better parts and it only got us closer.
If you care for your friend, stop being selfish and open up to change. They won't become a completely different person, just their exterior is changing.

If you don't care enough to get over yourself and support then in their decision, then I honestly think you should leave. Transitioning is quite a long and difficult process and your friend is gonna need all the support through it, they don't need to feel bad about it because of you.

Why don't we have a home decor board. Why don't we also have a general crafting board.

we deserve it, we shouldn't be confined here on cgl with the lot of you

>>10160377
cry harder faggot

new thread?

>>10160386
Make it yourself pea brain

>list things for sale
>all the shirred pieces sell first
I wish western lolitas were thinner so my stuff would sell faster

>>10160377
I tried to make a thread for a general crafting thing in /diy/ and they politely told me to come to /cgl/.

>>10160416
This isn’t the place for general crafting. Cosplay and Jfashion only.

>>10160419
They're not, but there's still threads that I think the mods begrudgingly keep up. It can tie into Cosplay and Jfashion if you stretch enough, but you're really stretching. That's why I think that decor, and crafting should have its own board.

Man fuck doing stuff. I just want to laze in bed, eat doughnuts, and watch anime

>Anime EXPO is expen-

>>10159423
>>10159610
Imagine the smell.

I got new shoes for costplay!

>>10159959
I'm having a similar problem

Someone I started dating is transitioning but they're going to be starting T soon and I feel like such an asshole if I say anything. I obviously still like them and they like me a lot as well. I have no problem dating someone male identifying and stuff like top surgery doesn't bother me but I just hate body hair. I did research into T therapy and I just don't think I could realistically see myself with someone who looks more manly then me in all honesty. Is there a way I can voice my concern without hurting them? I still really like them and I would never want to do anything to hurt them it's just I can't seem to get over it. Is there anyone who can just educate me or give me advice on the situation?

>>10162618
I feel like you should just be honest. Just like the person transitioning, you can't force yourself to be someone you're not. Don't ever force yourself to be attracted to someone, or "settle" because someone else changed. You can offer your love, support, and friendship, but I'd really advise against continuing a romantic relationship if you're gut is telling you this. If they don't understand, they they are being the insensitive one, not you. Attraction is mental and physical. Everyone screaming that people are assholes for not staying with their transitioned partners are just unrealistic. You absolutely have to have the physical attraction to work, and if you look at them and see "Ew, hair" it will take the magic out of things.

Bought the Drink Me JSK and headbow from an SS whilst I'm living in Japan. All good, wait for it to be made, my SS messages me to confirm she picked it up. I see the pictures and remember that I already have the headbow in the same colour as I ordered at home. So now I've paid for a headbow that I'll have to resell at home for way less than I bought it for. Great.

I went back to my home country for a year and a half to serve in the military, and since I've returned my weeb friends act kind of cold towards me. I guess I'm going to skip con season this year, boys

>>10157445
oh that must be Akira.

I hate it when people try to sell damaged shit for like $15 less than the usual price it sells for. I also hate how much people misuse the phrase "minor damage" - it's not about how physically big the damage is, is about how wearable the item still is. For example, people calling a bunch of smaller, but untreatable stains on the front of the garment "minor damage". If it affects the way you wear it severely, for example, having to cover the entire bodice with a bolero every time you wear it because it's stained, it's not fucking minor.

New thread
>>10163716

>Been living with PTSD for years
>Lolita has always been a distraction for me that helps me keep my mind busy with constantly shopping, brainstorming coord ideas, trying on clothes, etc.
>Suddenly dad who's been absent since pre-teen years finds me on facebook and messages me asking to meet
>Immediately get PTSD triggered and fall into an emotional rut that I can't get out of
>This was new year's day, it's almost halfway into the year and I was still in the rut
>Lolita hardly keeps me distracted anymore, can never get the energy to dress up or look for deals or anything
>Missed out on dream dress I've been hunting for about a year while in this state
>Feel like all is hopeless and like the one thing that I actually love has finally been taken away from me and I have nothing to keep my mind from snapping anymore
>Friend gives me LSD saying it'll help
>He watches over me while I trip, has me write feelings down and records some of my monologues
>Go down some weird rabbit hole on youtube and discover music genres that I fall in love with while tripping
>Rediscover my love of lolita
>Realize that I'm putting too much blame on my father for something he couldn't actually protect me from
>Have motivation to go back to school
>Tell this all to my therapist who just kinda nods smiling and tells me that she wishes it was a legal substance because this isn't the first time she's heard of something similar

What the fuck, guys? I've been on a cocktail of PTSD medications my entire life that have varied from being ineffective to just barely working. You're telling me some fuckin squares of paper were what I needed instead? I'm just so happy that I was able to discover this. Like, don't get me wrong it's not like I'm "cured" or don't have things to work on but this was the largest boost I've had emotionally in forever.

It really felt like a lifechanging experience. I probably took too much for a first time because it felt overwhelming at times but maybe that's what I needed.

>>10154748
I wouldn't say he's toxic, but I always tell this to people:
Your tastes in fashion are a reflection of your personality. Think about it - we wear clothes to visually express ourselves. They're an extension of what we think of ourselves, what we value, how we want the world to view us, and what we resonate with. I always bring this up when people complain about lolita comms being stupid because "the only thing you have in common is clothing." Which is true, but there are almost certainly common grounds to touch on simply because there are reasons to WHY you love the fashion that you probably share with one another.

Those scene kids from the 2000's were wearing the fashion mostly because they thought of themselves as anti-society, rebellious, pained, misunderstood, outcasted, etc. Not everyone, but most of them probably had some of those common themes, it's what attracted them to the style and the culture that was attached to the style is a testament to that.

So someone rejecting your style in fashion cuts deeper than just them not liking a particular shirt you do or a hairstyle you like. It's like they're rejecting a part of your personality, part of your identity. It can feel really saddening and can cause emotional turmoil. If he knows you dress like that and straight up calls it "giant baby" clothing in front of you, it's a direct insult to you and you have every right to feel hurt. If this is the case, he was knowingly taking a jab at you perhaps in hopes that he discourage you from expressing that side of yourself and that is indeed toxic behavior and flat out manipulative/controlling.

My suggestion is that you talk things out with him. Actually sit down and get his opinion directly about your style and try to explain that it's important to you. If he can't respect that, it's really up to you to determine how important it is or not to have that side of you accepted by your partner. IMO any partner that refuses to accept me isn't the one.

>>10164065
>I wouldn't say he's toxic,

What I mean by this is that it isn't inherently toxic unless he knew you dress that way btw. It's vague from your post if he knows that's your style.