/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

>>10135743
sux 2 b u, dingus

>>10134893
Just don't pay your medical bills. It's that easy.

OwO

AXUbd8

>>10135618
just have one lolitafu
or it will destroy your leifu

A former friend is being a Bitter Betty and is going around telling people I stopped being friends with her because she quit lolita when really it's because I wouldn't quit with her. She even lectured me to not to even bring up the fashion anymore in front of her. She gets pissed of when I organize something lolita related because she thinks she is being excluded even though she is absolutely welcome without lolita. And she doesn't even want to come when I try to meet up outside of lolita. I stopped being friends with her because clearly the kind of friendship she wants us to have would mean I'd have to give up my hobby and everything related including friends just so I can see her every blue moon without guarantee she will stop being shitty to me..

>Bought an used OP online
>OP smells really strong with perfume and now my whole house smells really bad

People please stop using strong fragrances while wearing lolita.

>>10135770
That's not how it works here.

>>10134753
I gave a ride to a Harley and she tried to suck my winky, I had to t-pose on that thot until she fled.

>>10135826
Lolita attracts the worst kind of women. Every single one I have ever met irl has some sort of serious mental issue that revealed itself within several minutes of casual conversation. It's almost a prerequisite these days.

>>10135618
>>10135622

I also hope they both dump you, you (I'm assuming man) whore. Like the lolita community is pretty small, it's downright rarted that you didn't think they'd eventually meet. I know lolitas just because we've spoken on RC threads or in comm sales groups.

>>10135865
That’s why I’ve been a lonelita so far. I don’t want to screech in public about anime with a bunch of autistic weebs who have sOcIaL aNxIeTy and are genderspeshul fat fucks or “queer” hetero chicks with danger hair and piercings. All my friends are supportive normies and I prefer it that way.

>>10135929

none of my lolita friends are like this. you sound like your local comm is ita as fuck, or maybe you found the furry community by accident.

>>10135937
I don’t have experience with other comm’s personalities obviously, so in that regard I can only talk about my local one. But it seems like every comm I see in pics on here is half heifers stretching out brand. Ugh no thanks

>>10135738
>I found that there are even grown men who wear these dresses online doing sex work!
I hear this a lot about a variety of things. They don't seem to understand that literally everything is a "sex thing" to someone out there.

I love wearing lolita but I’m a pretty masculine girl at heart, it’s is wrong for me to ‘show’ this side of me when wearing lolita? Like I’m kinda the classic “take -no- shit from anyone” kind of person and acting dainty is very hard for me in general since it doesn’t feel like me at all.
So is it wrong to show my aggressive side while wearing lolita? Arms crossed, hands on my hips, leaning my parisol like this crow bar in this pic, ect

>>10135972
Are you trying to LARP an anime character? Just act natural anon

>>10135972
>I’m a pretty masculine girl at heart, it’s is wrong for me to ‘show’ this side of me when wearing lolita?

Its the opposite of wrong

>>10135972
This sounds really cringe. Not you not being a uwu lovely in lolita, but the way you described your personality. No normal person acts that way, only people who are mentally deficient

>>10135972
holding your parasol like that is cumbersome for no reason and will poke people in the eye.

Tfw you're ready to leave but your group thot is in the toilets, getting railed face-down in a puddle of pee-pee

>>10136007

>>10135980
>>10135988
In short paraphrase it does sound silly but this is just how I am.
I was in the military for a long enough time that that’s just how I hold myself /act now, whoops
I also go the the gym on a daily basis if that gives you any more indicator of what type of person I am if that’s any less ‘cringy’

>>10136011
It’s not any less cringe. How do those things correlate to you acting like an autistic retard?

>>10136014
So if I’m an autistic retard like you say, where do we go from here anon?
Please shed light on what I’m supposed to do now.

>>10135988
>No normal person acts that way
Are you unaware of the existence of tomboys?

Can I have a /cgl/ birthday party?

>>10135972
>>10135988
Most people, normies included, have some kind of dumb schitick that's a part of their identity.

>>10136022
Ignore bait and be you.
Fuck murder kill in burando as you were meant.

>>10135837
I opened a hair clip I got from a girl off lm, fucking 3x3 inches of hair spray and pure hate. Some fuckin people man.

>>10135453
Rip your mental health.
You in any archivers discords?
Could be nice not being alone/ in touch with the archiver behind rebeccablacktech.

>>10135972
>arms crossed
That's fine.
>hands on my hips
...You can do that but it'll look very unflattering with your flared skirt. Up to you though.
>leaning my parasol like pic related
Like >>10135991 said, not really recommended.
You don't have to fake a personality or force any behavior while wearing lolita since it's a fashion, not a costume, but it does depend on what you otherwise mean by "aggressive side". If you're not unnecessarily loud in public and know how to sit in a dress, there should be no issue.

>>10136034
Do you really want a bunch of ita, hamplanets singing you happy birthday?

>>10135658
I once had a nightmare I put on a cosplay and it was way too tight and I had huge puffy nipples that you could see through the dress but I wore it the con anyways.

>>10136048
LEWD. This is a Christian server thot.

>>10135972
If you get into an actual fist fight no one will want to buy your brand because they assume any blood stains are period stains. So don't punch anyone in Lolita, other than that do whatever you want. Lolita is only clothes and a fun community, it doesn't have to be an identity or lifestyle

>>10136034
Yes, it's ok.

>>10135972
Being fake edgy isn't a good personality trait. Do whatever you want, no one really cares

>>10135859
>not letting her suck it
why?

>>10135697
>>10135544
>>10135690
Thank you guys for the support.... I felt stupid being so sad about it. I genuinely feel like she has no idea why this would be kind of a shitty thing to do. She's never tried to one-up me before so I don't really know why she chose to do it on my favorite character out of one of my favorite series. I've even been practicing being in-character and she knew that... I dunno. Ugh. I decided I'll just use the materials I gathered to be a different character that would complement her cosplay; at least we wouldn't look so silly at the con. Making the cosplay I wanted and trying to make it good or better than hers just feels even more petty somehow even if it was my original plan. Oh well. Just won't tell anyone my cosplans anymore lol

>>10135972
It's just clothes. Just don't be obnoxious at meets and you're fine. I feel like I'm reading my own posts in middle school though when I was trying to be my own cool anime heroine. Just be yourself anon, I'm sure people will like you if you're being authentic. No point acting "dainty uwu" if it's not you cause it'll just come off as fake. Instead of protraying a personality just show your own

>>10136151
>I genuinely feel like she has no idea why this would be kind of a shitty thing to do
If she didn't know that it was a shitty thing to do, she would have told you about her costume when it came up. That she hid it means she knew this was not right but did it anyway... why? This cosplay is obviously important to you, why choose this of all the cosplays in the world, at that exact time she knows you pour your soul into yours?

I don't know what you are otherwise like together, but thinking you are in the wrong for being upset about your supposed friend being a cunt to you, thinking you're petty for wanting to do have at least a little bit revenge, her thinking so lowly of you that she thinks she can steal your cosplay, throw more money at it to one up you, and then STILL ask you for help makes me wonder whether your relationship isn't generally toxic. I hope she doesn't use you as a punching bag/doormat/servant while your self worth drops both because people tend to adjust their self image according to how people treat them and because you maybe realize that you *allow* her to treat you like this and think lowly of yourself because of that.

This exchange alone has brought so many emotions. I can't hold all these feels

>>10136198
Nevermind, there's no need to hold the feels. I'll just die.

>>10136151
Plot twist: she wanted to surprise you with your favourite character, because she wants you to fall in love in her and to bang you.

>>10136187
It's just odd because she's never treated me poorly. Usually we do lots of equal favors for each other and are considerate to the others' feelings, so I'm just extra confused and hurt. If it happened all the time I wouldn't be making cosplans with this person.

>>10136307
Jokes on her I used to have a crush on her and she's really pretty

>>10136816

You know you could just ask her why and explain how you feel in a non-confrontational way? I don't think rolling over and being a doormat about this is the best way to go about the situation because it than becomes a habit in other areas, not just life. I'm speaking from experience and it's better to nip this kind of behavior in the bud.

>>10135453
I'm a diagnosed compulsive hoarder and I second everybody saying you should probably talk to a therapist about this. I also hoard-save websites, images etc. because I'm scared of losing them and want to keep them "just in case", and my therapist is helping me slowly ease off.

>>10136048
Then later you find your picture on 4Chan and you realize it wasn't a dream.

do you ever feel like a lot of people in your comm don't care about actually hanging out and only care about taking the perfect coord shot? Like they only come to get that aesthetic picture and not to be friends?

>>10135018
you are literally me. got my FK the exact way. but it wasn’t even my crush, just my guy friend who was bitter because I didn’t want to offer my body to him, and he wanted take something from me and leave his mark on me forever. I don’t have an aversion to intimacy now, but I do feel anxious and uncomfortable when I see those types of scenes in movies (like I literally can’t watch anything with teenagers in it because of that). i also have had a lot of people laugh upon hearing about my experience and tell me to “get over it”, especially the day after it happened.. you are not a weak person at all, and I’m glad we can relate. if you haven’t talked to anyone about this yet I really hope you do. in the mean time, focus on your hobbies and getting dolled up to keep you distracted and remind you that you’re a strong, wonderful person who deserves to be surrounded by pleasant things that you want. best regards.