/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

>>10112338
I'm poly but I hate everyone. Poly doesn't = slut anymore than bi does. It'd take someone really fucking special to make me want to date them too, but I can be open minded toward the idea if the right person came along. You've got a really narrow idea of why people might have room in their life for more than one person.

>>10112341
I dont know how you do that, desu. Its hard enough to have the patience to deal with a single person. I dont see how it can work with two (or more), doesnt the whole thing just turn ... superficial?

>>10112299
>making fun of polyamory retards means you're prudish or autistic
You can be a slut all you want, just call it what it is

>>10112346
Oh god, thank you!

>>10112346
>>10112348
Leave her alone, Beta males.

>>10112350
I dont think that you know what "beta" or "male" means.

>show up to my friend's wedding reception with my boyfriend and girlfriend because we're ~poly and proud~
>everyone starts looking at us and making snide comments even though all I was doing was groping their asses
>some people even pointing
>can't contain myself any longer
>burst into treats
>begin to scream at everyone and call them all autistic beta male incels for not understanding how amazing and wonderful it is
JUST GO BACK TO /R9K/ REEEEEEEEEEEEEEE

>>10112219
Since you're so open ~ and polyamorous ~ cant you just find someone else to whore around with and get over it instead of lusting after a married man

>>10112372
Wow you certainly are mad.

>>10112407
Maybe she just doesn't like sluts

>32x[Deleted]

Another male bigot bites za dusto

>>10112219
No. leave him alone.

>>10112091
Thanks for clarifying anon, this gives quite a different impression from your first post.
I would tone down your hobby around then and discuss other things, slyly try to imply you've moved on. Maybe lock down some of your online stuff. Don't give it up but just give them the impression you aren't as into it. They don't need to meddle with your hobbies. It's a stupid reason. They probably have other dirt on them anyway.
There are politicians who openly have shady history with real sex things and they're worried their sons wife wears weird clothes? They need to get better priorities. If they bring it up play up the Japanese culture angle. They wouldn't want to be culturally insensitive now would they?

>>10109835
I want to give you a hug, anon.. We're both anons but please know that in some corner of this world is me, quietly supporting the you who is in another corner of this world

I'm seriously about to be fired for the first time in my life and I'm afraid it's because my depression is getting worse... I'm afraid to tell my parents. I'm afraid everyone will be disappointed in me, and won't understand, just like how everyone at my job doesn't understand.

>>10112453
Why do you think it's because of your depression and that your job doesn't "understand"? If you're doing things like showing up late everyday or not doing your work, they'd fire anyome who's not being productive.

I'm out in public alone in lolita and I have my headphones in but people still manage to tell me things about my outfit... I wish I could have a sign made that says "Please don't talk to me"

>>10112477
Stop wearing Lolita in public then

>>10112526
You must be fun at parties.

>>10112527
I am. I like when people talk to me.

>>10112477
People don't always notice or care that you're listening to music, they care more about saying whatever is on their mind. Unless they compliment you, just ignore them.

>con in 30 days
>haven't started sewing
>unstyled base wig arrived today
>haven't been to a proper con since 2015
>going to paradiso after that
>haven't started planning coord
>know I need to buy accessories
>depression persists

How do I motivate myself to work on these things? I love sewing, and I love my fashion, but spending money makes me anxious because I know I need to save for those events, and I guess I'm worried that if i fuck up anything while sewing I'll have to buy more fabric and spend even more. I don't have any real reason to worry about money but my anxiety is killing me. I want to just have the finished costume in my hand and be at the con. This process is so nerve wracking.

>>10112534
Different anon, buy your really weird and sound deeply attention deprived if tedious conversations with randos sounds good.

>>10112477
Pretend you don't understand them and start speaking broken (insert language of your country.)

>>10112219
I say ignore all these other anons. They’re all a bunch of non-poly people pretending like they know what polyamory is. They think since he’s married, there’s no way he could be poly, which truly shows how little they know about polyamory. I know 3 different poly couples who have gotten married in the past few years and they’re all still happily open and poly. Two people getting married doesn’t make them monogamous

>>10110368
I feel you anon

How do you anons deal with being ghosted?

>>10112690
I think of the good times we had and leave it at that. I also understand that sometimes we don't connect, and that's fine.

>>10112704
Thank you my friend, I'm not surprised she ghosted me but it still sucks

>>10112676
Half of them aren't saying that, they're rightfully pointing out that he could be lying about being poly, which is a valid concern. I've had an ex before who cheated on me and told the guys she fucked that I was ok with it and we had a poly relationship when we'd actually agreed to be monogamous.

My advice to the original anon would be to ask him about it first, then confirm with the guy's partner that it's ok before doing anything.

>>10107500
why would her cousin be weirded out about that

>love lots of fashion, just not all of it on me/my body personally
>tfw will never have cute gf/bf nor money to play dressup on and be their personal fashion advisor, especially lolita
>tfw will never be a power couple with kickass matching coords

>>10112819
So how much does a guy have to pay to be a fake bf who dresses up for you?

>>10112819
This is the most roundabout way of saying
>tfw fat

>>10112831
I believe that homie

>>10112676
Yikes and cringepilled

>>10112203
Sounds like you’re a compulsive spender rather than buying pieces you truly love. I went through similar not long ago and took a hiatus from the fashion for a few months. It really helped me reflect on what pieces were actually special to me and worth keeping. It also helps to look at your pieces and decide whether or not you can come up with more than 3 completely new coords for each main piece; if not and if I’m not willing to spend more money for just one coord to justify keeping a piece then it’s got to go.

I also like to only buy pretty expensive or rare main pieces, too. It helps me alot to think of quality over quantity and I’ve not bought any shitty taobao or random trash on auctions just because “well it was cheap and I kind of like it.”

>>10112831
can't really prove you wrong on the interwebs but even when I was underweight (used to be 44kg at 165cm, currently 58kg) i simply don't find a lot of stuff to go well with my body and face (wide shoulders, wide hips, boyish face, etc) as well personality and that's ok, not every single style is going to look nor feel right on every body.
Just not my style. But I love seeing things on other people so much, and them happy.
I wish more people had the money, patience, courage and freedom to explore their own style rather than everybody walking around like fabricated fast food fashion robots (nothing wrong if you like it - the problem is that I find people keep wearing it because they feel obligated to, because everybody else does and tells them to, and often get depressed when they themselves don't fit in).

>>10112850
>wide shoulders, wide hips, boyish face, etc
You mean narrow hips.

>>10112219
You talk to his wife.

I had a weird situation with a boss at an old job who was married and I had feels for. He assured me up and down she was cool with it, they were in an open relationship because she was too hot for him or something like that. His wife gave me a ride to work once (I didn’t have a car at the moment) since he went in early and I asked her about her thoughts on open relationships and polyamory since it seems sketchy. Glad I did because she was 100% not in favor of sharing her spouse and thank god I dodged that bullet.

If you decide to do anything ever just keep in mind that unfortunately people aren’t very honest. They’ll flirt and lie in the moment because it gives them a rush. I don’t know why people think they’re not obviously being sneaky.

>>10112854
what? why? i don't think so, it's really wide hips and my hipbones stick out as well

>>10112346
Thank you, anon.
Honestly don’t get why these spergs act like their polyamory is any different than the dirty Mormon fucks. They just aren’t capable of being loyal and need to hide behind some dumb religion or “new age love” bullshit. These retards don’t actually “love differently” it’s just an excuse to be edgy and cheat.

>>10112815
In a poly relationship, it's suppose to be open regarding communication. Yes, both partners are to be made aware, and approve, of new partners before doing anything sexual. Unfortunately, most don't know that's how poly relationships are suppose to work, and it sets up bad situations such as your story.

>>10112819
>broken down and dirty dressed in rags from the day mama told me boy, you pack your bags
>tfw no one to teach me how to make myself dress better
In all seriousness though, you could make money off of this skill if you aren't already

>>10112569
You need to go outside more

I’m becoming such a brandwhore for Enchantlic Enchantilly. They have such lovely prints and they’re tall-chan friendly. I’m literally looking at listings on Lacemarket now and thinking “well I don’t really need it, but it’s a really good deal, I already have shoes and jewelry to coord with it, AND it comes with stockings I want!”

Someone please stop me.

>>10113273
Please stop Anon. We care about you.

>>10107500
Kek, that photo's taken in Lillestrom, aint it?

I am starting to non-ironically want a daddybf. Am I weird for this?

>>10107500
one day i will gain the ability and the tools to make a full kamen rider cosplay