/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

I'm really starting to dislike my "lolita bff" we started out as really good friends, but she's starting to move away from lolita and she's starting to act like those teens that are all, "Oh look at me, I can just half ass everything and it'll be fine hurrhurr" Like the last meet I saw her at (we hang out outside of meets, too) her petticoat was sticking out 3 inches past her skirt, and the skirt wasn't even full enough for a petticoat. We're friends, so I wasn't upset by this, but instead tried to help her out, and offered to let her wear my less full petti to wear, she declined, so I suggested that maybe she could roll/fold the waist band of her petticoat and she just said, "Nah, I'm too lazy." and walked around for hours like this. That's the part that upset me. That's not even the worst part, either.
I also feel like crap because she put together a group taobao order for the two of us, but that was months ago. I only had three things in it, but one was rather pricey. So now, a few months later after I'd forgotten about it, she says she's going to put the order in. I had to ask her to take out the expensive item I was getting, but I think she may be upset with me about it, she doesn't respond to my FB messages or skype, and when she does she says she can't talk because she's at some party getting wasted/high.
And the big confession? I guess just that I don't want to be around her anymore. But we already have plans for this summer, and I really hope she bails, because it will be reason enough to tell her the friendship isn't working out.
tl;dr
>Have friend
>Friend is now shit
>Want to end friendship
>I feel like shit for wanting to do this
>Why do I have to be a doormat when it comes to friendships.

Wow this thread has turned to shit. Well, I'll just put in my two cents.
If you are obese, gtfo of lolita. I'm sorry but it's simple as, if you have gorged yourself to oblivion, you're not gonna look cute. You can baw "But I have a health problem that prevents me from losing weight!" Tell me, did your obesity cause this health problem? If so, just gtfo. If you had a health problem that caused you to become fat, don't baw that either, if you listened to your doctor and ate properly, you can still remain at a healthy weight. Yeah, it'll be hard as hell, but it's possible, I've known people who've done it, hell! I'm doing it right now! I'm sorry, but if you're obese, I can have very little respect for you. Overweight, I don't really mind, I have overweight friends, and a lot of times, it's just their build. But if you're obese, I can't, I'm sorry.
On another note, I wish there were no obese lolitas, because it doesn't matter what they are wearing, they make the fashion look bad. No matter what they wear they look tacky and ugly as hell.