/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

Did any of you gulls,especially into (old school) sweet, feel "inadequate" or dare i say "ridiculous" looking when in lolita?
These past two years i haven't been wearing lolita much,only one time a month or so (because reasons) even though i still actively bought some. Yet,something changed, I still love sweet more than any other style (even though i like gothic as well),and people tell me it suits me,that my coords are nice yet I can't help but feel "wrong". I almost feel like i'm wearing a costume at times even though i stray away from anything overly childish or costumey/OTT and keep it fairly casual

How do I feel "right" again? It's killing me. Maybe it's because both my parents and my ex used to shame me but now,even though my current SO says she's ok with whatever, i still ask her "won't you be embarassed?" every time we go out together and i wear lolita because i'm an insecure bitch.

I'm not even that old,just turned 22 this month,maybe I should lay off the big head accessories? But I love my head eating bows and maxipad headdresses