/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

I have a .. probably really stupid concern/question ... and I guess it belongs here?

I'm mute. It's not that big of an issue most of the time because really, not many people go out of their way to talk to you when you look normal.

But when people DO talk to me, I'm faced with the dilemma of "can't fucking talk back." You'd think signing to note this would fix it, but there's a 50/50 chance that they'll 1) just think you're a handflappy autist and give you ???? looks, or 2) they figure out you're deaf or mute or whatever, and then it gets awkward because this is usually the point where they try to figure out what to say to you because you've thrown them for a loop and it's just painfully awkward for them (...and for me. It's not comfortable for me, either.)

Anyways. Because I'm already rambling, basically my concern here is that I don't want to be talked to to avoid the awkward, but I want to wear lolita stuff around to places. I've worn lolita (and cosplays! Albeit, helmeted/masked cosplays. Because no one talks to helmetheads.) to conventions before and I haven't really had to deal with the talking issues then, but I'd like to start wearing lolita outside of convention scenes.

The issue there is that I don't know if people get questioned about what they're wearing a lot? I can handle a couple of people asking, but if it's something that you get approached for a lot, I figure it'd be best for me to avoid wearing it out 'n about for my sake and other people's.

tldr; I'm an autist and worried if people actively approach and question you about stuff you're wearing.

also sorry for any fuckups in the text it's late here and I'm tired.