/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

I'm very worried that my dad is going to snap sometime soon and break stuff in our house. Whenever I leave home I make sure my laptop is in my room because I'm worried one of my parents arguments will result in them breaking it. I don't know what happened, my parents used to have incredibly explosive arguments when I was a kid, but I'm too big to hide behind the couch now. Ever since my dad retired it's like he's backslided into this horribly selfish man who gets mad on a trigger over stupid stuff. I have anxiety and a lot of it ties in with all the fights and shouting that went on in my house growing up. I'm finally doing better after almost two years of severe depression after college. Even though it's not in my field and I don't quite have the courage to try in that yet, I recently got a part time job, and I'm out of the house and my bed almost every day now! And I make short term goals and I can even accomplish them, and like, multiple things in a day. Even though it's just...really rudimentary things that I probably shouldn't be proud over while all my school friends are getting awesome jobs and doing cool stuff I'm like stuck in this limbo. But my anxiety has been rising a lot lately because of all the shouting he does and I don't like how scared I feel when people raise their voices.

I'm going to my first con in years though, soon. So I'm super excited! I wish I was cosplaying, it seems like fun. But I'm too shy in crowded places to try. My goal is to hold a conversation with someone about a series I like! Last time I was at a con, I almost made a friend. He invited me to hang out with his friends after a cosplay meetup and I went there and saw them, but chickened out last minute. They seemed really nice too.

>>8616226

Why are most lolitas so lazy and passive?

Specifically, why are /cgl/ lolitas so helplessly unproductive?

>Complains about lack of content related to their interests, but never create said content
>Complains about democratic groups being a certain way, but never speak up or try to change them despite having as much a say as anyone else in the group
>Complains about wanting to do something but being unable to do so without the permission and approval of lolitas worldwide
>Horror story and creeper threads can usually be boiled down "I hated a thing that was happening and wished it was different," seldom involving the lolita herself trying to fix shit
>Begs to be spoonfed information despite how easily it can be found on Google
>Lets themselves be taken advantage of and scammed without protest
>Stifles true interests or dreams and feels miserable, blames the lolita community
>Generally need to be handheld every step of the way to accomplish anything
>Cries bitter, salty tears when things don't go according to their secret wishes, but never take action to make those wishes come true

What is wrong with the community? Is it just a girl thing, where you think you have to be rescued or pandered to without asserting your needs? Are you afraid of being a bitch? Are you afraid of being alone and rejected? What the hell is up with this massive passivity?

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