/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

I wanna make my own lolita discord for people actually wearing the fashion with a more strict vetting process. The vetting server lets anyone as long as they own at least like 3 dresses in.
I'd like a more intense vetting, maybe proof that you own at least 10 dresses and several blouses and accessories and have been interested in the fashion for 2+ years.
I can dream, I guess. I'd feel like a faggot just posting a server with only me and like 3 other people in it. Unless some people would be interested in giving it a go.
I'm mostly just sick of joining servers that let pretty much anyone in.

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It's kind of hard to explain. I'm actually quite into nerdy guys and I love having a partner to share all my interests with, but I feel like in the end the men I dated always ended up being way too consumed/focused on those interests.

Like having no other hobbies/interests outside of nerd culture, not having a clue about any current events, lacking ambition, making cringey references/jokes at inappropriate times, just generally being bad at being adults etc.
I don't want to sound like a snob but I guess my ideal would be someone who's into vidya and shit but also has enough stuff going for them outside of that. Usually nerdy guys I meet are just so invested in that stuff that at this point it seems easier to just find a normie guy who I could talk into playing games with me.

I just got my dream dress in the mail from a Japanese seller... the only problem is that it has a stain on it that the seller didn't disclose.
It's a black dress and the stain is grey. It's not very big, so I don't think anyone would notice that much, but this is the first dress I've gotten with a stain like that.
I've tried getting it out, but nothings working. Will people really notice it if it's just a light stain on a black dress? Is there anything I can do? I feel embarrassed to have a stained dress and don't know if I can wear it in fear that people will be like, "Ew, look at that stain! Disgusting!"
Please, someone reassure me.