/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

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then so I was like, OK.. so I’m not allowed to like sakura because she’s a girl and she gets in the way. and since naruto and sasuke were both strong and were boys omG sasunaru SO CUTE otpotpotp also man I was super into yugioh ships as well wow anyway, that’s how I started my fujoshit life when I was 12

what I learnt from uni is that, BL is actually a safe place for girls to explore their sexuality because no women are involved and they don’t feel awkward or threatened that way. BUT, when girls start to think like that, you automatically start seeing women as less of a person that way.. at least for me I subconsciously hated myself and wanted to be a boy, and I think this had a lot to do with it

in my mind, I felt like
>girls were useless,
>being girly is weak
>boys were cool
>boys deserved to be loved and they were strong
(one thing I did learn from BL was that love knows no gender tho so that was the good part, probably explains why a lot of girls who like bl are also bi or genderfluid idk tumblr like me)

our culture is just really misogynistic in nature as well, we were born to hate ourselves it seems

>we need more strong female characters or heroines in popular media (that’s recent) for girls that are growing up to have someone to look up to, not just a damsel that needs to be saved by a man
more female leads that save the world and kick butts (props to marvel with gotham academy and miss marvel atm, also steven universe I’m missing a lot of examples)

WOW this was a long post, I didn’t mean to make this an essay

basically I met strong role models in college, and it opened me up to reconsider a lot of things. I was always jealous of girls wearing frilly things and not having this awkward complex of not being able to do the same because I wanted to be a ‘man’.. because of all this I realized I could be strong even in frills so I just went eff that and wore whatever I want on a daily basis from then on