/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

>>9101027
this sounds shitty

tough situation. but you don't need to take it.

>be angry if you need, but you don't need him to make you angry. your feelings are justified purely by you feeling them. you can't necessarily 'unfeel' them so why both trying
>you can let yourself feel that anger (or sadness, or loneliness, or abandonment ) anytime you want.
>when around HIS anger, let him feel it out. he's a big boy. he can feel his feelings, you don't have to feel them for him.
>be calm, know that he has ZERO control over your life if you don't want him to have any. turn the water back on, get your phone and costumes back, go to the job you worked hard to get and that gives you a sense of pride
>be good to yourself, even if your mom won't stand up for you. YOU DESERVE TO BE GOOD TO YOURSELF
>be your own mom and dad. there's a little kid inside you who needs someone to tell them they matter, because they do, despite whomever is saying you don't for whatever reason they give

>fyi, he's just a little kid too, someone told him he didn't matter and now he needs this control over a family (that isn't his) to try to drown out the little kid in him that keeps yelling back that he doesn't matter

realize if the worst case scenario is that he hits you for 'disobeying', you can call the cops. that might also cause your mom to 'not forgive you' because she's tied her value to this relationship. but don't worry, she loves you but she might not love herself enough to be able to get to that point right now. but you and her will make amends eventually, just how life works.

>also, fuck other people who make fun of you for dealing with domestic abuse on any level. odds are they have no idea what to do about their feelings and just need an object of shame to cope with that
>and by "fuck other people" i mean, have "compassion for them and don't let it get to you"