/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

I guess my comm is similar to the comm described here >>8218135 in that it seems to be split into nicely dressed mature girls who have private meets and obnoxious itas who make up most of the attendees for public meets.

I don't blame the private meet girls for keeping the itas out but since I'm relatively new to the comm and super socially awkward (read: shy and quiet) I get stuck next to some weeaboo replica-chan squealing about thin privilege and smexxy anime boiz every single time. I've actually stopped coming to meets because of this; it's hard enough for me to connect with strangers, and if these strangers have absolutely nothing in common with me there's really no point and it's just a huge stressor. The FB groups are the same, with a private discussion group for the girls who hold the private meets and a public group full of "Kyaa~ look at this kawaii rorita dress I found on eBay!! >_<"
I wish I wasn't so painfully shy so I could actually try and establish a connection with some of the more mature girls without having to 'prove' myself in the ita cesspool first. I also worry that I'm actually obnoxious or ita myself somehow and just don't realize it.
>pic unrelated
>Naruto soup?