/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

>>10853404
>our own social media, but we tear apart everyone who try to give anything to the community as not being good enough so we can't have nice things.

what do you suggest?

But yeah, I think everyone who has been in lolita for a long time has noticed the changes you mentioned. I don't think any of us think it's an improvement. Maybe it's because I took a hiatus from lolita for a long time (left in 2009, came back in 2018) but I still have trouble adjusting to the way everything is now.
It used to be the popular/most well known lolitas had that position (for a lack of better word) in the community because they were experienced, knowledgeable, dressed well but even more importantly they contributed to the community by guiding newer lolitas towards resources, they organized events, came up with ideas for stuff to do online, moderated, etc. Positive community involvement and being well dressed is what guaranteed that you were someone people recognized online.

These days other things matter more. You can have piss poor taste and still have a big following if you're loud and controversial enough, or focus at least some of your content on LGBTQ, plus size, POC, disability, etc. That will give you popularity points regardless of your skill in dressing. I don't understand that, imo it should not work that way (and I say that as someone who is part of some of the aforementioned groups). What also gets people popularity points is them buying loads of cheap, mass produced hauls. Gulls might not grasp how many people are really into low cost, low quality crap and lots of it especially if you don't frequent the same spaces they do. So not only do you not need to be well dressed to be popular, you can be a loud, fat, poorly dressed butch and be popular, and you can be simply popular for buying crap hauls and not do anything in the way of community interaction.