/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

I feel like this is specific enough someone will read this and know who I am/what I'm referring to, but. I'm in a university cosplay club and there's this one kid there that's pretty cringe-worthy (not a bad guy, but he's the type of person that's VERY openly into hentai and is easily excitable and doesn't know when to calm down) and my friend group and I were in a private Discord server that was created specifically to talk about him, and while it wasn't the only thing we talked about it, it was more or less a space where we could go "This fucker's talking about jacking off again lol!" and not worry about it getting back to him. Well, one of the people that had permission into that server that is also an elected member in the club basically told us today that it's been brought up to the attention to the rest of the club board and that it's too close to bullying and that we had to not go overboard, and we ended up not shutting it down persay, but making it just a default group.

I feel really guilty honestly, like I have my own personal reasons why I vent about him all the time, but at the same time I know I'm a cringey person too in my own way, and if I was being made fun of like that I'd be devastated. I wish there was a way where we could just...try to change him completely but I feel like that's also out of line. Idk, I'm in a really weird mood about all this.

>make new friends with some local cosplayers
>they invite me in conversations, try to include me in stuff, add me on social media rather than me add them
>still feel like I'm not really their friend and am too scared to talk to them

Bonus points is that they've talked about their own similar fears and lumped me in with the "cool people" they're friends with. Guess I'm not used to having friends?