/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

Alright /cgl/

I just read the sticky and there are still a few things I do not understand. I s'pose this will be newbie general here.

Questions:
What is Ita?
How do you find your style?
Can white girls pull off lolita? I am white as fuck and think the very simplistic/classy or simplistic/cutesy (see: whatever roland is, I see it in threads and it's always nice). Also, I like the style but I don't want to look like I was vomited on by a pastel rainbow or look like "that guy" when I walk into a room, I just want to be cute and feel cute in what I'm wearing.
Where is it appropriate to wear this stuff? It seems like it'd be formalwear in Japan but my insides hurt imagining going anywhere professional dressed up like this (more weekend-wear rather than work-wear or something)
Are wigs necessary? I have straight auburn/strawberry blonde hair.
Is there an age limit?
Are "plain Jane" styled lolitas a thing?

Thanks ya'll.

>The only thing I like about this outfit is the dress