/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

>mfw messaged several people on here
>we have common interests, chats are great
>get ghosted after 24 hours

Feels bad man. I just wanted more lolita friends.

>>10316141
Big mood

>>10200732
I am also very particular about how clothes feel and make me feel, to the point where I get anxious if I don't plan my day accordingly (what kind of places I'll be in, transit or driving, foods I will be eating). I noticed that chiffon is one of the fabrics I am comfortable in the least, especially printed chiffon/light fabrics because I get so worried over snags or stains. Now I usually reserve my chiffon pieces to fancier outings.

I found wearing cutsews instead of blouses helped with my anxiety over it, as well as utk and ankle socks which I just treat as regular socks. They're also easily replaceable.

I like cheaper dresses for more toned down, solid coords for daily wear. I don't feel like I have to be more ginger with how I navigate the world if it's just cheap shit. I have some plain solid brand jsks for this that were like $50-$90 USD secondhand. Most Bodyline / Taobao stuff feel like garbage, but wearing a cutsew to separate the polyester helps. Basically just echoing everything >>10200930 said already.

In terms of style, I felt the same way you do. It might help to identify what aspect of lolita had drawn you into the fashion? My wardrobe had started to veer down the classic path, (high neck collars and neck bows and jabots), and it started feeling like I was wearing something that wasn't for me, like it was a costume. I made a couple of changes and additions when I realized I was actually more drawn to the youthfulness and "idyllic countryside" vibes. Stuff like more peter pan collar cutsews, gingham dresses and skirts, straw hats and bags, more lace socks, accessories, etc.

Another thing that really helped was getting comfier shoes.

>>10193001
Thanks for the translation, anon

>>10168424
I'm three inches taller and not even Asian and I have the same problem. Fucking stumpy legs

>>10153422
Oh, anon. I've been sniped before and it's such a bad feeling. One of the worst. I hope you'll find the kumya you want in time, but for now please be kind to yourself. Cry if you need to, vent if you need to. It's fine to be sad about this.

>>10122769
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>>10122827
Kei Market! I hadn't looked at it because I figured it was for VKei, but I'll keep an eye out for brands I like. And I forgot about Jp Mercari. Is there a decent ss that will let me order through them? I've used one for Otamart, but never Jp Mercari.

>>10122830
I hadn't seen the above post before I asked, but I really hope that person isn't serious or is reconsidering. If you're still lurking, >>10111107, I hope you find someone to talk with. My discord is Again#9700 if you ever need anyone to just vent to, and I'm sure other gulls would be open to talking with you as well. I've been in a bad depression episode for a couple of years now, so I know it gets bad and it's hard to reach out. No pressure if you don't want to, but I thought I'd offer.

>>10122769
>>10122783
>>10122827
Kei Market! I hadn't looked at it because I figured it was for VKei, but I'll keep an eye out for brands I like. And I forgot about Jp Mercari. Is there a decent ss that will let me order through them? I've used one for Otamart, but never Jp Mercari.

>>10122830
I hadn't seen the above post before I asked, but I really hope that person isn't serious or is reconsidering. If you're still lurking, >>10111107, I hope you find someone to talk with. Here's my discord if you ever need anyone to just vent to, and I'm sure other gulls would be open to talking with you as well. I've been in a bad depression episode for a couple of years now, so I know it gets bad and it's hard to reach out. No pressure if you don't want to, but I thought I'd offer.

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>>9916209
Story of my life

>>9902706
This literally happened to me about two months ago too, it's a bad feel.

>>9891399
I get that, I have depression too and it sucks. I used to shitpost a lot and it did kinda help sometimes. I'm sorry you're struggling anon, I hope things get better for you

>>9880300
Holy shit, anon. Are you me? You even type a bit like me, only you're more articulate. I know this feel so well and completely agree.
>Even though I do shoop a little myself... but I'd never deny it if asked.

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>>9800544
F

I go to cons often and I meet people, sometimes talk for a few seconds, sometimes more like 30 minutes, sometimes they walk away and I never hear from them again and sometimes they add me online as a friend and we chat once in a while for short portions.

But I feel like despite this, I haven't made a real "friend" from cons? There are several people who've even started talks of group cosplays with me or photoshoots and then drop the idea and do it without me or alone.

I don't get what I'm doing wrong but it must be something. I keep good boundaries and I don't bring up political/uncomfortable topics. It seems like the furthest I can get with anyone is just simple acquaintances.

>>9470572
Our comm is the same way. There were three mods, one has essentially quit lolita and the founder of the group has gone lone for whatever reason, leaving one mod with not a lot of time on her hands floundering trying to get shit done. We're a small comm but we essentially have no mods at this point, and only the founder can approve new mods but doesn't since she's pretty much quit the community.

>>9467976
Are you me, anon? I get the exact same fucking thing.