My comm is having a bit of an issue with being lumped together with another alt-fashion group in our city. We're from a really small area, so any sort of "nerdy" communities have quite a bit of overlap, but it's gotten particularly frustrating recently with lockdowns and only being able to meet online. In particular, there's been an older member of an "adjacent" fashion community who keeps attending our online meetups, even though she only ever wears the fashion from her group and admits to knowing little to nothing about lolita. Where we're from such a small city, keeping good relationships with the other communities is important, but it's just so frustrating to constantly have her constantly talking over people or interjecting about her lack of lolita knowledge. The past couple of meetups have had this pretty uncomfortable vibe and I can tell the other members have been struggling with knowing how to talk to her.
I'm honestly at a loss on what to do. I'm so worried that if we take any sort of action against her that the other "nerdy" communities will see us as exclusionary, but if she keeps showing up to meetups, our members lose their ability to chat about lolita in a comfortable environment.