/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

This is going to sound really stupid and petty and special snowflake-y but seeing all these cute petite Asian girls wearing lolita and other girly jfash is wearing down my self esteem and making me feel very out of place when I dress up.
I'm not fat, I'm actually pretty thin, but at 5'8' with size 9 feet, broad shoulders, and man-jaw, I feel like a dude in a dress despite being born female. My facial bone structure and shoulder/hip ratio make me look somewhat androgynous, to the point that when I had short hair and even now sometimes with long hair, people would mistake me for a man.
And it's not just like being fat where I could lose weight, invasive surgery would be the only way to change my face to be cute and v-shaped and I can't change my height or shoe size or shoulder width no matter what.
I try my best when I wear coords, I do my makeup and hair and nails but I can't do much to change the weird color of my skin that's a product of being half white/half latina.
I just want to be pale and small and cute so I can look good in jfash and it's just unattainable and crushing me

>>8369108
Eh. This is stuff I feel even normalfags deal with regularly. We only hear about it because they have some relative amounts of fame within the community.

I think both communities have a lot of crazies though that demand a lot of attention despite a refusal to improve their skills or attitude. Because lolitas are less afraid of being blunt I think they get the point across better. Cosplayers tend to be way more afraid of offending someone or being marked as a bigot by criticizing someone who's non-white, overweight or some alternative gender. Thus I feel cosplay is more of a hugbox. It exists in lolita too but there's clearer guidelines and more flexibility because you aren't trying to look like a specific, established character this easier for the noobs and crazies to figure things out eventually.

>>7987047
forgott picture, this is basically what some of you want to do or you try to humiliate when its already bad on his own