/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

Why is a temporary distraction some kind of horrible betrayal to your partner? Why are open relationships such a fucking taboo? What happens when your partner claims to love you, but doesn't spend enough time with you, and communication doesn't convince them to change their minds? Why should I have to throw away everything we've built for years when I can just start seeing someone else in their absence? Why does me seeing other people have to mean I don't love them?
Why can't I just say "I could *possibly* end up getting some feelings for one of my friends if we grow apart too much, I hope that's okay"? Fucking none of this would be happening if they weren't so distant in the first place, but if I said any of this, I'd be the bad guy. Why? I haven't even actually done anything, but I can feel myself becoming attached to someone new, and I know it can only cause problems. So, my only morally defensible options are: Be lonely, but technically "with" my partner because we technically love each other, or just sever my ties with them completely (even though our issues might only be temporary) and be even lonelier.
Absence only makes the heart grow fonder to a certain point. After that, without your knowledge or permission, it starts seeking a replacement, and if you happen to run into a good candidate, you're pretty much fucked.