/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

I'm in a lolita comm where the membership is 100+, but we barely have any meets. Recently we had one mega-meet that was gorgeous and glamorous and perfect, and I'm really thankful for the mods doing all that work to get together, but it was still a rare moment in the comm.

And now, after thinking for a year or two that I want to help organize more events in the lolita comm... I realize I don't want to.

The idea of organizing even 30 lolitas to go to one specific restaurant or cafe, seems daunting. Just as I get ready to set up an event on facebook, I think of what the restaurant owner/hosts may say when the 30+RSVP list gets reduced to less than 10 the day of the meet, because of people flaking out at the last minute. So I chicken out and don't set any event to begin with.

I much prefer meeting with another lolita friend one-on-one over tea or coffee, and take time in just shooting the shit. And if the other party ends up not coming, I don't end up feeling like I've caused an terrible inconvenience on the venue.

Also, I am much more at ease dressing up in lolita, at my non-lolita meetup groups, which are not only more active and 21+ in age, but have people I find more common ground with. I can talk about Mel Brooks movies, the latest fantasy novel or Shoujo manga series I discovered, modern feminism, animation, politics, video games... The lolita comm doesn't outright ban such discussions, of course, but I just don't feel as comfortable being open about my non-lolita interests with them.

I'm sorry, my fellow lolita friends in my comm. I love you, but I just can't make the effort to improve our comm when I'm enjoying myself elsewhere.