/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

my bf knew i was into lolita before i moved in, but he didn't quite know how into it. we've been together for a couple years. we had a weird conversation that started with how he didn't really like one of my headdresses, then he kind of let drop that he just doesn't like lolita very much

i feel hurt, but i'm probably just being immature i guess? i have a big(ish, i know standards are different) wardrobe and wear it 4 days a week, more if i can. i've been at it for a decade. so knowing he doesn't really like it just hurts. it'd be like me saying "i don't like black t-shirts and black pants" or "i don't like rick owens" (lmao) because that's what he wears.

but he's really supportive, he's done so many lolita-adjacent things with and for me. like getting a dd that was close to $600, taking me to tea, taking outfit pics, hell our second bedroom is my lolita/craft room. he's done all of those things for me, and gave all of it to me, without me asking for it. so i guess the fact that he doesn't really like lolita makes all of that more amazing, since his only motivation was to make me happy. he's really great!

but i do wish he liked it, and i can't help feeling sad and wishing i knew sooner. if he knew how i felt he would tell me i'm being silly and that he just wants me to be happy or something, but i can't shake it.