/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

>>10854073
I think shopping addiction is way too common in the community. Some of these people beg their local comm for money so they can pay for vet bills, rent, electricity, medical costs, etc. But then these same people buy new brand releases like 3 days later. Some are homeless/displaced and still continue buying. There are also people with mountains of credit card debt.

Even if it's not that bad some people are in denial of their shopping addiction. They think their monthly brand hauls are normal and everyone who doesn't consistently do that is poor and ita and doesn't love lolita fashion as much as they do. They just tell themselves they love lolita more and that's why they do it. But what it really is is self medicating. Even if they have a fully functional wardrobe they would still be unable to go 2 months without buying anything new, they would feel empty, have no way to relieve their sadness, get annoyed/irritated, etc. Any talk about budgeting/finances or taking a break from shopping will trigger them. Their only defense is to call anyone poor.
I know a lolita who spends hours every day checking updates on sales platforms, will always have packages inbound, she has a constantly updating wish list with 20+ items on it despite the fact that she's been wearing the fashion for at least 8 years. That sounds exhausting.
In my second and third year in the fashion I was also very enthusiastic about buying stuff. But once my wardrobe was big enough and versatile enough that I became a daily lolita I started to buy a lot less. I'm looking for 3 or 4 things at the same time at the very most.
I'm not saying buying a lot of stuff is bad, I'm saying it's stupid when lolitas act like continuous mindless buying is the only way to be a lolita.