/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

>>10112189

cont.

And to get to the point of the previous discussion:
What this anon >>10077197 did was just the same, showing off his laziness, that he doesn't bother to care about looking up the right terminus, that "gothic maid lolita cosplay" will more than likely rub experienced lolitas the wrong way. And assuming that people will help him out with his request to get spoonfed while showing such an attitude is just delusional.

And exactly that is basically the core problem many lolitas on this board and outside have with guys that want to go into the fashion. Coming in all uninformed, showing no genuine effort on their own and expecting to get everything handed over on a silver platter. That's neither how it works in lolita or cosplay, nor how it works in life. You're just coming off as an idiot like this.

Or to put it into an analogy:
Imagine running to a car enthusiasts club and telling the people there you want to buy one of those nice racing cars with four wheels and 8 holes in the engine, and expecting them to tell you right away how to do that and where to buy the things.

The enthusiasts might understand what you are trying to say and what you want, but you're nevertheless still coming off as an idiot who happened to see nice racing cars in a car magazine during their dentist appointment. You will probably just getting told to get out of their place and inform yourself first before you expect them to help you out.

And that's pretty much the same what anon did here.

If you show that your interest is genuine, if people see that you are putting in actual effort into your hobby and that you're not having ill intentions and not showing off your entitlement (or in lolita context more often called "male entitlement"), then people will be more than likely open to help you out with your problems and lend you a hand.