/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

>>8376014
It's not so much that the comm is segregated that there are very few venues large enough to support groups larger than 10 or 15, and once you get over 8 people, you're looking at a prix fixe of anywhere between $40 and $80+, then you get people bitching about how expensive the meetup is. So when people organize meetups like that they tend to only invite people they know and aren't going to whine about the price.

>>8376714
It's only a shit show if you go to the all-welcome meets. There's a huge meetup in Central Park in July, go there and make some friends, and if you're not gross then maybe you'll get invited to decent meetups.

>>8377081
See my first paragraph.

For the lone Lolitas in NYC, if you want to get invited to things, you kind of have to be, if not aggressive, then outgoing/personable enough to put yourself out there. Figure out who the active people in the FB group are, introduce yourself on fb and let them know you are interested in getting to know people and going to meetups, don't be afraid to Like/Comment on statuses and strike up conversations, and figure out who you need to be friends with to get invites.

I know this sounds really clicky, like some kind of Real Housewives bullshit or something but the comm reflects the attitude of the city - everybody has their own hustle going on with work or school, it's really unlikely that anyone is going to spend their precious time to handhold every newbie/lone Lolita into being part of a circle of friends when people come and go so quickly. Everyone is really nice, friendly, and welcoming once you take the first step to let them know you exist, but it's up to you to take that first step.

>>8217377
>not from new york
>making statements about comm you are not a member of based on other 4chan posts

>>8217491
>>8217496
I never heard about any porn, probably because no one cares? NYC comm is really only a comm in the loosest sense these days, there are too many people to know everyone, or even most members. When people make open-attendance meetups usually only a dozen or so show up. The only drama is ancient jerky beef between specific people that literally no one else in the comm cares about because it's incredibly dumb.

It's not the NYC is chill, it's just that we all busy with our own hustles to be worried about people that aren't our close friends.

>that feel when you know better than to go to BBG Sakura Matsuri
>that feel when you still want to go anyways