/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

>in a discord server with a semi-popular male cosplayer
>he is pretty good looking, has a personality that isn't like most cosplayers, and stuff about him going on
>somehow has no gf yet is popular with girls. For whatever reason last 2 cons I thought he was taken the way he hangs out with people
>we chat off and on but no real advances made other than hoping to see me cosplay next con and small talk
>too scared to message him or approach him about anything scared that I may ruin what I have. Not gay, female approaching male

I'm 25, how the fuck am I still acting like I am 13 trying to give someone a valentines day card. Anyone help me out here