/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

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>>8530254
Lolita is pretty punk rock, you know.
I don't know why you would feel fake for indulging in one side of yourself when you aren't at your job. People have multiple interests. I am a Lolita and my personality and interests align perfectly with the old lifestyle ideals, but I also have interests and things that don't fit. That doesn't make me less of a Lolita. The lifestyle just about putting a priority on what you think is beautiful and trying to be a more charming, polite, and knowledgeable person.

>>8530634
I'm a Lolita because the first dress I seen was the first time in my life I felt like a dress was made for me. Because the lifestyle let me feel like my interests and softness wasn't something to be made fun of or feel weird about, but celebrated and enjoyed instead. I'm a romantic person who believed that life is beautiful and I want to enjoy that as much as I can. Lolita helps me to do that. The clothes and the old blogs I used to read were lighthouses in the dark when I felt lost and needed help to find my way again.

Lolita to me means that softness is not a weakness. It means magic and fairy tales and making them real and believing. It's connecting with my ancestors and women from times gone by. It's being able to live with wealth, even though I am not rich with money. It gives me wealth in the form of experience, smiles, and beautiful things.

I feel foolish for taking the time to be so open and writing so much on cgl of all places, but I don't have a blog or another place to share my feelings. I don't even have friends I can share them with. Truthfully, I only came to cgl out of desperation to find some much needed inspiration, this really isn't my cup of tea. But it is nice to know that there are a few people out there still interested in the old lifestyle things. I miss the "heart" of Lolita. I don't believe anyone comes to a fashion that's so inspired by pure femininity and old fashioned things and storybooks for no reason, either.