/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

I've worn alt-fashion for over a decade, since my teens but I've been a daily lolita for 5ish years now. I've dealt with everything from people following me around and taking pictures, dramatically pretending to fall right by my feet for the chance at an upskirt (didn't realise what they were doing at the time, now I wish I had've booted them in the face for even trying), mentally ill and homeless people screaming at me and too many strange comments to count. I used to get it more when I was younger, I think due to the apparent weakness that would come with a small, young girl but I've always been a mouthy bitch with no problem defending myself so I've never gotten myself into trouble. When I see posts of people saying they were harassed by schoolkids or like that video of lor in japan where she says she let a man follow her for ages and physically hold onto her and she didn't do anything, not even raise her voice?? That makes me sad since you're literally making such a target out of yourself, not saying you deserve it at all but gals, learn a little self-defense so you don't feel so petrified in those situations. Giving off an aura of weakness or anxiety is what will draw predators towards you. Walk with a bitchface and carry your parasol like a weapon. Just cos you're a lolita doesn't mean you have to embody this frail little child stereotype. Seriously, never EVER just stay quiet and put up with something that makes you uncomfortable. Don't underestimate how afraid men are of a confident woman. People say that they fear being aggressive back will make the person angrier but it actually shows them you're not one to be fucked with.