/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

My only insecurity really is that I've gained weight. I know I'll lose it again when I'm not as depressed but it's taking so long and I am an emotional eater. I went from thin to kinda chubby and it makes my boobs look weird in lolita...

Opposite though... I'm scared for a friend of mine that just started going to lolita meets. The girl who organized the meet was saying some really nasty things to her, and making fun of her for being thin (she has trouble gaining weight.) Basically anytime my friend said anything this girl (woman?) would shut her down. She was texting me since I live halfway across the country and she just seemed so upset... I don't want her to develop similar insecurities just because someone was mocking her for everything that she did/wore/said. Does anyone have any advice for how she can deal with this woman without shunning the comm or trying to "ignore" it and having her insecurities get even worse?