/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

>>8393973
You know, you were asking for advice about how to go about responding to their inquiries in another thread. I have an idea for you, I was actually thinking for quite some time about how I'd approach it if my coworkers did the same.

Basically, the way I see it is that provocative clothing in our culture is mainly for attracting guys, that's why they're confused, they're looking at it from that perspective, the best thing to do is to convince them that it isn't about other people, it's about what you'd wear all the time if you could, what you'd look like reading a book, or sipping tea with friends.
Lolita is and has been a style I associate more with what one wears for themselves, not for the opposite sex.
I'd say pretty much, "You guys are very masculine, I don't expect you to understand what I'm doing or why, since it's all extremely girly, but I do expect that you respect my privacy regardless of what you have come to know about me. About the dresses, it's a hobby, I like looking cute, not for anyone else or for anything but the sake of it and hunting down hard to find stuff. Have you ever worn a really nice, tailor made suit? It fits you perfect and makes you feel like you can take on the world. That's pretty much what these dresses do for me."
Equating lolita to collecting fine suits feels really right for some reason, I don't think guys have any other equivalent.