/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

I'm a brolita and into kink and I always feel like I'm on edge when I go to comm meetups. I'm already kind of an outsider because I'm not a girl, and I'm always thinking about how the lolita community turns on anyone who might see a sexual element in the style (For Reference: I'm not an ageplayer).

But, seriously? There's absolutely no sexual element to lolita? You've got to be fucking kidding me! There's a major sexual element to all fashion, especially alternative ones, lolita isn't magically different. Is it wrong that I want to wear frilly dresses and fuck a girl who wears the same thing? Instead we all just stand around and awkwardly talk about deserts.