/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

>>10112147
>know what to do and not to do.
Cmon anon, it's not >that< hard. And the rage here is not entirely aimed at looks, but moreso about general attitude some guys approach the fashion and it's community with.

You're supposed to:
>learn the appropriate lolita terminus
>learn the basics of the fashion in general and how to roughly distinct each substyle
>figure out how to flatter your own bodytype
>learn not to settle with the cheapest shit you see first on amazon, aliexpress or some costumestore advertizing their "goth loli maid look"
>learn to use basic make-up to flatter your face and soften proportions

and more generally:
>learn that everything has a time and place. Many people might have fetishes or things they fantasize about, but just because they have them, doesn't mean they're supposed to publicly show them off. Just be a decent human being and learn what is socially acceptable and what not (and when)

And to be quite honest, the latter point is not really lolita exclusive, but something ideally every human being should learn during the early stages of life. But I'm not surprised that it's not the case here. Cosplay or lolita fashion are likewise hobbies that draw a lot of attention of people that are elsewhere considered outcasts or socially awkward to various degrees.

If you need examples of what not to do, strictly about lolita fashion speaking, just look into the ita threads. You will be surprised how many guys and individuals you'd consider guys judging by their looks there are. People that just settle for the cheapest tacky dress they can find online, people that completely miss the mark regarding basic lolita aesthetic or silhouette, people that are lazy about their looks and don't even consider styling their wigs or care using 2-3 make-up tips to polish up their looks. In the end the majority of these just smell of laziness.

cont.