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I spent my entire life building a solid savings and getting a career I can be happy at for the rest of my life, thinking that everything else in life would come easily after that. Now I'm a 30 year old lonely virgin and I realize that the most important thing I should have been dedicating my life to was finding a partner I can love and trust, and building memories with them. Just waking up to this realization is one of the most painful, soul crushing realizations a man can have.

Women don't give a shit about your money unless you are in the multi million range and even then all the quality women get locked up in high school or college at the latest. The few decent ones still available at this age that are worth associating with are disgusted by my awkwardness and lack of sexual skills and friend zone me after I can't get passed first base. Not to mention the fact that I am competing with the ghosts of all their ex boyfriends and the memories that I lack, causing resentment and jealousy that drive me insane.

Don't fall for the money meme. I want to die.

>> No.9431853

>>9431845
Relax anon, men can have kids in their 50s. Just keep doing what comes easy.

>> No.9431870

you need to really look deep at what you think a woman is going to offer you. if you just want a hot bitch that provides sex for you then everything you're saying is right. it doesn't have to be that way anon.

>> No.9431885

You just don't enough money yet. Need at least 200 million these days to be happy

>> No.9431888

>>9431853
But I'm so lonely and have no hope. I use crypto and this board to kill time and distract myself but I can't go on anymore anon. I even made this shitty blog post I feel so bad I've been fucking crying for the past two days, I can't eat, I have no energy. It all seems so pointless.

>> No.9431915

>>9431870
No I just want someone to care about me but even the unattractive ones have a mile long history with other men and tons of baggage where they are incappable of forming loving relationships at this age. That's the point of the thread, it's bad out there. You really do need to lock down a partner before you graduate college.

>> No.9431924

>>9431845
Buying link will make you happy

>> No.9431935

>>9431845
>>9431888
No, you've missed the most important thing. If you think another person was the key to happiness imagine how much more crushed you'd be when they inevitably screw you over in some way.

You need to find happiness and contentment within yourself. External things shouldn't rule your internal state, you should be the master of your own mind.

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9431943

>>9431845
read the /sig/ thread on /fit/

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9431989

>>9431845
Just get a 25 year old op, are you dumb? Unless you let yourself go in which case lel

>> No.9431992

>>9431888
It might sound cliche but try to volunteer at a food bank or a homeless shelter or someplace like that. You'll meet new people and the work is fulfilling and gratifying. Who knows maybe you'll even meet the love of your life :-)

>> No.9432000

You have the most defeatist mindset. I bet you never live in the present, do you? Reminiscing the past or daydreaming about fairy tale futures. You hate yourself. If you're no Chad, no one will think you're attractive if you hate yourself. Stop giving a fuck whether you have, had, or will ever have a girlfriend. Start finding what makes you happy. The rest unironically will follow

>> No.9432024

>>9431935
This.
>>9431845
Probably having a partner helps to realize that, but OP, you need to work on improving yourself throughout your whole life. Go fucking meditate.

>> No.9432035

>>9432000
>>9431935
These cheered me up a bit. Thank you.

>> No.9432049

So you don't have a personality. It's you who has nothing to offer to a woman, therefore you can't attract them even with money.

Watch Will Smith's 'Hitch' and find a real service of the kind. At least you can afford being taught how to be a little bit cooler.

Regarding sex skills, pay good escorts and have them teach you. Another set of knowledge you can buy. That will increase your self confidence, which is the true woman-magnet.

>> No.9432053

Go post on reddit fucking fag stop seeking attention like a child

>> No.9432113

>>9431845
I just turned 30 too. I was pretty popular in high school and college, got laid a lot and then i started to realize how bullshit college was and how i was going to just end up doing something i hated so i quit my junior year at a mid tier university that i had a 75% scholarship to and began to just read and living a shitty life working in and out of restaurants.

I became a loner and studied about economics and finance and discovered bitcoin in 2011. I unfortunately didnt buy any until 2013 but i now have enough money to chill at home all day and trade whenever i need the extra cash.

I have plenty of friends, i go out every weekend, sometimes out of town with a couple other friend who also have a little bit cash to throw around.

I think about having a child and a family. But then i realize that i still need to find out who I am. What im really into, what drives me. This is what will help you. Focus on yourself before you focus on a woman.

From a 30 year old non virgin to a 30 year old virgin, dont worry so much about women. Get the monkey off your back (pay a nice escort, they are very very nice) and BELIEVE ME when i say you will be like "damn, really? thats all woman have?". You are already alpha when it comes to money (which is WAY HARDER than working out, eating right etc). Paint. Play drums. Learn how to speak Hindi. Idk some shit.

Idk why I wrote this much, but I have been having some existential thoughts about turning thirty so i thought id reach out.

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>>9432049

>> No.9432161

Do some volunteer work and it will help you personally and mentally and a chance to meet new people

>> No.9432441

>>9431845
You want what you never had, I get it.

But count yourself lucky in that you're a guy and you can work on yourself to get this.

>Get in shape. This isn't just about looking good. It's good for your mental state and building mental strength as it is pushing yourself physically.
>gradually put yourself more and more out of your comfort zone socially. It can start with just smalltalk with your neighbour. Over time you'll wonder what all the fuss was about and enjoy talking to strangers
> life doesn't owe you a damn thing. Good relationships with people are earned and it takes time and effort.

Oh and expect to screw things up when you are actually making moves on girls. It's not as big a deal as you think. Trust me on that. There are plenty of girls out there and it's best to consider your early ventures as practice. And with enough practice you'll get there anon.

>> No.9432527

Women appreciate a man with a stable, good paying career. Only the incels here think otherwise

>> No.9432657

>>9432113

heh play drums, speak hindi, sounds like the line of going to fish in the morning and argue in the evening, communism-line in marx.

OP, isnt there an app for that?

>> No.9432667

>>9431853

They shouldn't have kids into their 50's. Risk of ASD goes through the roof at a certain point. You don't want that life man. You can adapt, but it's not something I would risk knowing the risks beforehand.

>> No.9432702

Honestly I don't think you're that bad off. You have a stable career. That's what a family oriented woman is going to be looking for in a man. You seemingly are introspective so there's a plus.
If you need any pointers on wardrobe hit up /fa/ but ask for a normal 30 yr old outfit, not the faggy stuff they try to pass off as men's fashion. Hit up /fit/ and get fit, work on your self confidence and /sig/ it up.

Expand yourself. Find what you like. Go to museums, go hiking, paint, try a musical instrument out if you're inclined, take dance lessons. Something. You can always find ways to improve yourself and expand your knowledge of who you are while meeting people.

>> No.9432731

Also out of curiosity where do you live?

>> No.9432878

>>9432113
>Idk why I wrote this much
because you're a beta male looking for validation

>> No.9432896

>>9432878
nah im just average basically.

>> No.9432934

theres no point of getting a woman if she isnt a virgin

and in the west there are none, at least near your age

just find a slut to smash and move on

>> No.9432957

seriously just start killing rich people and help the poor. Find the richest fucking jew and slit his throat and watch him bleed out, you will feel better and have a whole new purpose

>> No.9432987

>>9431845
I'm not a virgin but I'm pretty much in the same boat as you. My life revolves around my high-paying career and working out or 4chan/reddit during my free time. I have turbo-normie friends but nowadays I only hang out with them to go to music shows/fests.
I do want to get a gf but I'm too comfortable being alone to pursue getting one. I'm not good-looking enough for girls to throw themselves at me despite my having money.

>> No.9432996

>>9431845
ANOTHER thread about a virgin wanting a girlfriend? WOW.

>> No.9433053

>>9431845
Say that to my face nigger.

I dedicated my life to a girl I loved the most. Spent the last 5 years together and she cold heartedly left me and totally forgot all the memories we made in only a few weeks.

Now I want to make it so bad. I want wealth 'cause women ain't shit. Roasties are overrated. Improve yourself and the right one will come to you.

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9433088

>>9432957
R u ok anon

>> No.9433130

>>9432731
Cleveland Ohio which makes it the worst. If I lived in a decent city maybe it wouldn't be so bad. But I make too good of money for the location and enjoy the work too much to ever consider moving. I'm trapped.

>>9432113
Thanks fellow boomer. Turning 30 is rough.

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>>9431845
think about how fast time passes
how much growth we are capable of
a year from now is an enormous time for growth
it'll probably take a decade
but at one point
after getting /fit/ and redpilled
you will pound a roastie no rubber and nut inside
and you'll think back and go 'wow, I really came far in the past year'
good luck

>> No.9433174

>>9431845
Learn to surf you fucking nigger.
>fun as fuck
>makes you irresitble to women
>confront death every time you paddle out
>sick tan and muscles
>exist in a constant state of nowness
>keenly aware of the natural cycles of tides, winds. and littoral drifts
>free to do
>builds courage

IF it wasn't for sufing I'd be dead. I have an objectively great wife (was NEET and comlete loner for a long time), and having a wife is basically the same except our introverted lifestyles slowly kill them. Go surfing OP.

>> No.9433197

>>9431943
Lol

>> No.9433221

>>9433130
i knew the direness of my situation and i wifed my 20 year gf at 29. met her abroad, no she's not asian. secondly i mainly did it because i wanted to start a family. if you just want sex without kids, it's not worth it.
it's been six years now and i'm pretty happy most of the time.

if you're free from wagecucking you can spend time travelling and do that.

>> No.9433230

>>9431845
Wrong: I'm 35, met my wife at 31 years old. She's pregnant now. She was 27. We're happy because we both enjoyed our youth and realized that being a single in mid 30's is depressing.

Go on dating sites like Match where you have to put in EFFORT to even find a mate. Find someone cute, not GORGEOUS. Someone that literally would be cool with relaxing at home.

Also, don't fall into the same trap that women often fall into: overvaluing yourself.

I dated/fucked models, actresses, and what people would consider "goals". I'm a 5'6 white male with a good career (150-200k a year) in California. I'm good looking, and fit, but considerably average to the rest of the population. I'm short, but with the confidence of a guy who's 6 foot. But still short as fuck.

My wife was a 'model' in the same way that if you have an instagram page and a nice camera, you're a model. She wasn't. She works an average job 75k with benefits (again in California), can't cook, book smart, but became street smart when realizing that 95% of men didn't consider her wife material because she didn't provide anything other than a hot body and a cute face. So she added value to herself; humbled her lifestyle, learned how to be a traditional 'woman', and not some thot who's only value laid in being attractive

Money is a good value to have. Success is attractive and it's important to a relationship.

Imagine you're building a car: You have a fucking awesome engine. But the body sucks, the interior sucks, the color sucks, the size sucks, it gets terrible gas milage.

How about upgrading other parts? Learn a new language. Travel and gain knowledge about the world to talk about with women; who you'll find when you have a common interest starts to grow. Work out. Invest in a new style that makes you look your age (wearing t-shirts and baggy unfit pants at 30 says you're lazy).

Invest in YOU.

Sincerely, a short ass white guy who's happy with his life and his hapa asian wife.

>> No.9433278

Learn to my ball my nigga
>fun as fuck
>you will be irresistible to women(blacked)
>confront death every time you go into da hood
>sick and muscles
>exist in a constant state of shieeeett
>keenly aware of the wind
>free to do
>builds courage

>> No.9433311

>>9433230
>. So she added value to herself; humbled her lifestyle, learned how to be a traditional 'woman', and not some thot who's only value laid in being attractive
How did she add value to herself, just by lowering her standards/lifestyle?

>> No.9433359

>>9433230
Yep, this guy actually understand long term-relationships unlike most of you incels.

>> No.9433365

>>9433311
beauty that comes from braids of gold vs the beauty of good deeds

>> No.9433427

>>9432000
Agreed.

>> No.9433442

I'm married with a family and we live entirely on $400/week.
It's paradise.

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9433446

>>9431845
happiness is a meme, we all suffer here.
can't lose at life, it is loss
"God giveth and God taketh away"

>> No.9433496

>>9431888
I was like you but changed at age 29. Finding a woman really did cure my depression. I could lose her now and I would still be much happier than before.
If you're an autist like me, try online for meeting women. And find a place where you can just practice talking to women before you bother about romance
Eventually you might find a woman you can genuinely talk deeply too and who isn't a stuck up slut who cares about sexual skills. Which can be learned anyway
I couldn't even get my dick in at 29 and she took it and guided me, and it wasn't even embarrassing because she was just nice and didn't care about that. Actually liking that I was a virgin. Or rather, wasn't a normie who fucked around
If all else fails go to /trv/ and southeast Asia

>> No.9433558

>>9431845

OP listen to me clearly.

Go onto OkCupid.com

Create a profile.

Message any woman your age with similar interests as you.

I swear to you. At thirty most single women feel the exact same way you do if not worse. Just be nice ask and ask them what they do etc. Make sure you mention you have solid career in either your profile or the first conversation.

It won't be hard to find someone.

>> No.9433602

>>9431853
>keep doing what comes easy
Hope this was sarcasm. Literally the worst advice you could give a man.

>> No.9433654

>>9431915
Don't be retarded anon. Women don't even like men their own age. You can easily date a 20 year old woman as a 30 year old man, especially when you have everything else taken care of.

>> No.9433662

>>9431845
Start working out, spend less time on the computer and join classes / find hobbies where you might meet people.

>> No.9433974

>>9433278
This is me nigga, or atleast the thots think so.

4real, read though. study a topic. saying you are bored is lack of imagination. Become an expert at something. dedicate yourself towards it.