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Hey /biz/ how can I stop being a pussy?
Physically I'm alpha; 6 ft, /fit/, dress aesthetic etc., personality wise I'm shy, can't stand up for myself, & a straight up bitch.
I've read self help books, tried drugs, work out daily, but I cant seem to feel comfortable in my own skin.
>inb4 >>>/adv/ >>>/r9k/
This is my home board so I figure I'd ask you guys first. Not to mention self progression is /biz/.
Pls help lads.

>> No.8790697

>>8790687
I am in the same boat as you anon... i wish i had the answer... i used to think it was /makingit/ but i bought in early 2017 and /madeit/ but my confidence was still shit... only time i can pick up girls is if i am drunk af

>> No.8790714

interact with people. try to get them to do what you want them to do.
this is the organic way people get confident with themselves, if they manage to be successful in that.

>> No.8790775

The key is to stick your neck out, get rejected a lot, lose all feelings, and turn in to a sociopath. Worked for me.

>> No.8790783

idk I'm similar
afraid of approaching girls, never had a gf, no frens
I thought lifting would help with my self confidence but it only has marginally done so, not to the extent I hoped for

>> No.8790791

LIFT
GET A PUNCHING BAG
EAT MORE BEEF/EGGS/FISH/DARK GREEN VEGETABLES/OATS

>> No.8790798

>>8790687
Hookers and blow

>> No.8790851
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8790851

>>8790687
what worked for me is getting a best friend from a different social background. He was a slum hustler

used to hang out daily for a couple years. their ways will rub off on you

>> No.8790873

>>8790851
how to get friends

>> No.8790881

>>8790873
unfortunately you have to join some activity/social club and befriend from there

>> No.8790922

>>8790775
you just became desensitized

>> No.8790932

>>8790881
I tried that, only met a girl who rejected me

>> No.8790951

>>8790932
lets cut the crap. you will never make friends coz to join clubs you need a wingman and you have no wingman/friends. its a viscous cycle

>> No.8790988
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8790988

>>8790687
It's because you're scrawny. You need to lift heavy and eat a lot to get big. You literally cannot be self-conscious if you are jacked

>> No.8791005

>>8790988
I heard this meme where as most women dont like jacked guys because they project the idea that they try too hard and arent comfortable in their skin

>> No.8791020

>>8791005
That is absolute shit. Only skinny manlet say this because they don't want to put the work in. You don't want to look like a steroid freak, but you definitely need to get jacked. Girls love muscle

>> No.8791023

>>8791005
ex-pua here. women like alpha males. jacked dudes are just jacked betas. muscled betas

>> No.8791032

>>8791005
only women who operate in environments of physical security, which isn't a lot of them. those that feel threatened on a daily basis do appreciate protection from a man.

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>>8791005
>>8791020
I'll have to add that the muscle had to be in addition to your other redeeming qualities. It's bad if you are JUST a meathead. You need to be jacked and intelligent and successful and then you are perfect in their eyes

>> No.8791049

>>8791037
But what if I have a small penis

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8791053

>>8790687
>tinder
>get a boy
>take the dick deep into your ANUS
>absorb his DICK
Close this Thread

>> No.8791064

>>8791023
Manlet, please don't fud physical fitness. Don't ruin it for other anons, they need this.

>> No.8791083

>>8791049
Girls love a small penis. It fits easier and you can really move it around in there. You should start every conversation with a girl you meet about your small meat, it will get them instantly interested and is a good icebreaker

>> No.8791088

>>8790687
Try drugs

>> No.8791098

get angry at the bad stuff in your life...
worked for me. the moment the anger overpowers the little bitch inside you giving a fuck... you stop giving a fuck and your exterior will match your personality and vice versa...

worked wonders for me...

>> No.8791118

>>8790687
how big is your dick?

>> No.8791122

>>8790687
Actual legit advice follows

Do martial arts or dance classes and make friends of their social group

Hurr durr I can't make friends because I am socially inept...
Read how to win friends and influence people, have food higiene and be weird. It's not rocket science you can do this anon.
I hope you all make it!

>> No.8791130

>>8790687
Honestly dude, fake it til you make it. Do you have alpha friends or coworkers? Try to hang out with them, their personality will rub off on you.
Do things that make you uncomfortable; make and hold eye contact when speaking with someone. Use your man voice, not your throat nasally voice. Posture, keep your head up and forward. Practice this in crowded areas. Don’t walk so fast, slow down like you’re not in a rush. Meditation will do amazing things for you. Good luck.

>> No.8791164

>>8790775
This

>> No.8791195

>>8791005
This is true.

People who jack themselves up are obviously trying to compensate for a lack of confidence. Unless you are an athlete, pro-fighter or a body builder there is no need for extra bulk.

I'm short, skinny and have a baby-face but I have rid myself of the need for the approval of others, the only approval I need is my own. When you get to this state of mind people can't help but find you attractive because you exude a sense of self-sufficiency and self-confidence.

>> No.8791218

>>8791195
>People who jack themselves up are obviously trying to compensate for a lack of confidence
not everyone operates in an environment of non-scarcity. only there the thing you mention matters

>> No.8791251

>>8790687
>/fit/


Do you lift? I feel that I can really help you with this. If you lift, that might be the problem.

Very brief rundown of my story:

> 6ft+
> very good looking
> shy, useless with girls, awkward, low sex drive, make enemies all the time, no social confidence, etc.

I was big into weightlifting and nutrition for many years and, to cut a long story short, when I finally got away from that lifestyle and outlook, I TRANSFORMED. Without realising it or trying, I fucked 21 girls in the year following, and 30 the year after, etc. Before that, I had got 0 or 1 per year if I was lucky.

Reply here if you want more advice and we can talk elsewhere.

There are ways to change yourself and I can go into a lot more detail as well.

>> No.8791253

>>8791122
Actually good advice. Pick up both those hobbies

>> No.8791521

>>8791251
Got away from what lifestyle? Lifting?

>> No.8791541

>>8791521
Yes, basically. Chronic over-exercising (24hr high stress), solitary hobbies, lack of alcohol, weird diet, etc. It all makes one very autistic.

>> No.8791558

>>8790775
Unironicallly this

>> No.8791560

OP, some sort of credible marshal art will do wonders for you.
The feeling of triumph and confidence after good training is almost unique.
Not saying you need to go and get your head bounced left and right. Just stick to the amateur group that will take it easy on you.

>> No.8791566

>>8791541
>Chronic over-exercising (24hr high stress), solitary hobbies, lack of alcohol, weird diet, etc. It all makes one very autistic.
but I did none of this 2 years ago and I was also friendless and autistic
now I do all of it and I remain friendless and autistic
I dont think its the problem

>> No.8791585

>>8790687
It's about mentality, for example if you're convinced you'll die in 2 weeks you're no longer a pussy

>> No.8792240

>>8790687
You are probably hanging out with people you dislike or who dislike you. Sit down and seriously think about whose company you enjoy, who you respect and which people in your life treat you well in return. If you start seeking out good company, you'll probably feel a lot better.
Take count. Do you ever feel like the person you want to be? Stay in the environments where it happens. Avoid the environments where you become a bitch.
Also, try talking less, and don't get pressured into talking when you don't feel comfortable talking.

>> No.8792289

>>8790951
This. To have social capital, you need social capital. It's like capitalism instead of money, you need people. The more people who put in a good word for you, the more people want to know you and be a part of your life. Let's face it, there are studies that show human beings like to mingle when they're young and in their teens then this tapers off around 20-35 as people weed out those who aren't part of their lives anymore and those who truly stick with them and are part of their circle. Most human beings know and interact people on a daily basis around 10-20 people as part of their daily routines.

Chances are if you don't have any friends in your teens and in your 20s, you will never have any friends once you get past 30. Yes, there are stories who turned their lives around and made it when they were older but those are a dime a dozen and an exception to the rule.

>> No.8792432

>>8791005
Yeah, that's what they tell you. That's not what they tell the jacked guys though. Stop being a baby.

>> No.8793015

>>8790687
stop jacking off

>> No.8793023

>>8790687
there's no such concept as "home board"
Business & Finance, sorry