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Has anyone ever been able to conquer their ability to be around others? I find that I am most at peace when I am myself and when I am myself some bitch ass normie wants to test me and I struggle with pushing back sometimes. If I am being honest its because my hyper empathy. Sometimes I lack bite. I don't want to paint myself as a total bitch, because I am not. It's just hard to catch certain slights and shit tests from people in the moment. In general my hate for people grows by the day. Is this a me problem? Or is this what it will always be like for me as a hyper neutrotic autist no matter what I do? It's not natural for me to put on a "resting bitch face" front. The ironic part of it all is that I don't even enjoy being around normies or other retards. Very rarely in my life have I been around people where I just felt comfortable. Is this a me problem or are people actually obnoxious little insufferable pricks?

>> No.58421244

>>58421224
Definitely not a you problem. Most people have such a high opinion of themselves that's way outside of reality and everyone wants to punch down. It's mass insecurity. I genuinely laugh at people who try to shit test me or have an opinion. I don't study people to one up them but most people do and when you realize how pathetic the life of the people you are talking about is, you'll laugh too. You have one life. Do whatever the fuck you want. Enjoy yourself anon and don't compare yourself to retarded normies. I hate them too and avoided them but I had to make a life for myself and got a job. It was a huge wake up call to realize how dumb everyone around me was. don't try to play their game, you'll lose. Be your own person and be secure in that. Stick up for yourself.

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>>58421244
i appreciate it anon. been beating myself a bit over not standing up for myself more. i so badly just want to be stronger in these situations, but my mental makes me overthink and overstrategize these situations (i also get caught off guard), it can especially be difficult at work where there are power dynamics. im also getting paid a decent amount so it just complicates things further. ultimately i think there's a way to stand up for myself and be a strong contributor that keeps his job. good to know i'm not the only one that thinks everyone is fucking lame (kek though im guessing this whole board is probably in agreement with that).

>> No.58421341

>>58421224
What do you mean by testing you? Can you be more specific as to what behaviors you are speaking of?

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>>58421224
Its called having schizoid/avoidant personality disorder. And it is truly hell brother. We simply weren't made to live in a world populated by chaos gorillas and constant strife.

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When I was in college (2017-2021) I rushed a fraternity - primarily because I was at a big state school and that's just what you do but also so I could kind of force myself into social situations as much as possible. REALLY helped me get over my social anxiety.

Really helped me branch out after school too (was in a SWE position initially, now I'm a sales engineer and I enjoy it MUCH more.

There's really no easy way to get around it, you just have to put yourself out there and force yourself into social situations. Do that, and you'll eventually improve.

>> No.58422200

>>58421438
Possibly but those two conditions are quite different from each other