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>>15283305
Saying "are you paying?" is obviously socially retarded. There are better ways to ask that question.
But making an excuse like "Sorry, I've got a deadline, but maybe next time", makes you sound hard-working and conscientious. The lunch was voluntary - and if it wasn't, then your boss is a terrible manager, and is likely to lose his job.
>>15283144
You can totally say "no", to all of that.
The problem is, are you replaceable? If you're replaceable, then if you say "no", they'll probably fire you at the nearest opportunity. If you're indispensable to the company, then they can't do anything to you, regardless of how many deadlines you miss, or lunches you refuse.
Of course, if you're replaceable, they're probably going to eventually get rid of you, regardless. Maybe because of some bullshit sexual harassment complaint, or office politics, or something.
Don't be replaceable.