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>>16809708
I have experienced something similar. Some people start treating me real nice when they see me. Some become real hostile to me for no reason (mostly fatties, I am thin). I have suspected that people become hostile towards me out of thin air because I trigger their own insecurities. Maybe the people who treat me good for no reason work the same way mentally too, they just react to their own insecurity different. This part is just about looks.

I have also treated some people like shit. Some people react to this by putting me on a pedestal, at least it seems like that. Some people start mirroring my own behaviour and start treating me the same way I treat them.

Do you give people strong signals of approval and disapproval or mild? Interesting topic. Tell me more.

>>16809889
I don't know how to describe it perfectly but I think the key is I manage to simultaneously project a vibe of criticism blended with nurturing. This may be due to an abusive background and is probably textbook sociopathic, but I genuinely WANT people to be their best selves. I have pretty severe health anxiety so in the case of my gf, I genuinely get stressed if she eats junk food but my instinct is to project outward disapproval, I don't express my concern but its there. Similarly with colleagues and even managers, I am very keen and eager for the company to do well and to have a strong quarter and I take a strong lateral interest in my managers other projects WHILST simultaneously projecting a critical air. It seems to really disconcert people and triggers approval seeking.
For example, my boss is working on three other projects, one of those involves streamlining a redundant department, I am the next in the chain of command for that project, but when I see my boss I am inquiring about their other projects and how they are going. Normally this kind of brazen attitude would rightfully get a 'mind your business' response, but after several years of brow-beating my boss I have somehow created a power dynamic where my boss seems almost nervous about his performance and I often ask about what he's doing in the other two projects (one is to merge two departments and the other is to create a spin off a new analytics department from the marketing analysts) anyways my boss now sometimes asks me what they should do regarding those other projects. I really feel more work needs to be done in clarifying which precise speech and behavioural patterns create this oppressive aura.

"why do they love the Devil? because he gives them nothing"

treat people like shit and mostly they'll try and win your approval

sounds fucked up but people are just wired up that way

>>16810005
This also needs to happen naturally, I think people can smell fake.

>>16810005
Thank you very much for the information. I am just starting out in my career so I am going to keep in mind that nice guys don't win.

I think that even if you criticize someone but you have friendly body language they can stay friendly to you. Most emotional communication is body language and tone of voice I think.

>>16810116
Yeah it's not something you should start out with at all, I mean mess it up and you'll just be seen as the local sperg. But once you're comfortable definitely learn to project an aura of disapproval. Humans are all primates and if you make people think you're really focusing on them they'll become instinctively insecure and this will make them actually try to please you.
I think the real secret is focus, just really FOCUS on other people, like they're under a microscope. It will instinctively make them want your approval.

>>16810173
Focus. Good idea.

>>16810173
Focus and asking good, relevant, hard questions.

>>16810173
I have actually experienced that asking people questions that they don't want to probably answer makes them act better towards me. This experience is from friendships, not working life though.

>>16809708
I definitely have psychopathic qualities. I have noticed exactly this.

Its shit though, that the game is that way. I dont really like looking down on people unless I really hate something about them. I see it as unproductive and unnecessarily rude/hateful.

However I will try this shit more

>>16810301
Humans are animals and we have to work with our animal nature. I think it is better to try to act like a father rather than a rival. Don't communist dictators try to give out the feeling of a powerful father?

>>16809708
>Belligerent Psychic Energy.
nice

>>16809708
>I became extremely mentally hostile
very nice

>>16810005
>I really feel more work needs to be done in clarifying which precise speech and behavioural patterns create this oppressive aura.

>>16810527
Exactly

>>16810719
>create this oppressive aura.
turn it on yourself and see how far you can go

>>16810940
Someone is having fun.

>>16811017
>Someone is having fun.
always

>>16809708
I’ve come to realize this too, not from acting this way, but from observing how I *react* to people that treat me this way.

>>16811166
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pEaTeuVFxa4

>>16810069
Agreed. It’s kinda like how real chads don’t think about being chads

>>16810940
>turn it on yourself and see how far you can go

>>16811213
it's more like this
>pic related

>>16809708
ah fuck that
I aint reading all that shit

>>16811277
Your demand for comfort is your greatest weakness, young one.

Dubs