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Anybody been thru this? What happens now?

>>15886603
told u she is cheating on you bro

hope you lubed up

>>15886603

She's just sick of you personally. She feels gross. Women get like that when they get older, especially if they have no discipline or anything going for them. Women want to leave, take the kids, and half your money to blow in a year or two. Then they become single mothers with wretched kids that can't tell the difference between their and there.

How do you tell her she is an idiot? Don't. If you can't tell some one their reasoning is illogical in an intellectual manner, if you can't convince them, then you are the idiot.

>>15886603
Coming from someone who had parents split at a young age, this will impact the kids more than anything else. On the bright side, your kid is 5 months old so they won’t remember any of this... regardless, having them move from parent to parent every weekend is not ideal. Sorry to hear, sounds like she just isn’t into you anymore, and decided now (when you just had a kid) to drop the news. Like, you guys were together for 15 years..? Wtf no logic just straight emotion

>>15886718
I also think its fucked up she is doing it now.

>>15886603
>>15886614
Listen to this dude, she's cheated on you bro and wants to make it out like you're the bad person to remove some guilt.

>Update:

>Just talked to her. Asked her the reasons. She is saying Im bad father. Says shes been thinking about us ever since our last kid was born. She told her mother about a month ago. I asked her what the plan is, she says we sell business.
>i tell her that she cant afford morgage on house by herself. She allready figured out her parents can move with her or she can sell the house. I know she will be fine financially.

Aka her mother is a fucking nightmare. Well that’s that then, at least the kids will have a male around in the form of you ex’s father.

>(As Im writing this she just texted me that we need, by law, have counciling because we have small kids and that she is making appointment)

Oh she’s done with you. Planned this for a long time. Don’t you need to be separated for some time before you can divorce? That’s the case in the UK.

>Looks like she wants to get this done quickly. She gave me also bullshit reasons like she doesnt like being with me, if we continue being with each other, she will just hate me more.

Yup she’s totally seeing someone else. Perhaps not physically but mentally. Has a old fling or school Chad suddenly arrived in town you’re aware of? It’s him.

>She acually said nothing about me not taking care of business or house tho. Her focus is that Im a bad dad and that she doesnt want kids to grow up and learning from my behaviour.

You drinking alot? Drugs? If not that’s all bullshit she’s using to justify herself.


>Yesterday, I wasnt sure how certaim she was about this. Today, from what I can see, pretty certain.

Stay strong dude, you’ll see this out in a better place without her influence around you. Just focus on the kids, improving yourself, she’s dead to you now. Get a younger hotter gf.

Ask her which parent she would have wanted to live with when she was a kid and tell her that's what she's doing to your kids. Tell her that she deserved better than that and her parents knew it. Straight up ask her parents to talk to her. Be like, "Look, this marriage means a lot to me. Your grandchildren-- my children, mean a lot to me. I think your daughter is acting irrationally. Can you please talk to her and find out exactly why she wants out so badly? She won't talk to me anymore and I don't know why."

Parents have a special relationship with their kid and coming from her mother, these questions might make her re-think things. The worst that can happen is they say "No" and then rat you out for circumventing her, but you're doing this to save your marriage, so no one can fault you for that.

Remember though, most people think with their feet instead of their brain, so whatever logical argument you make will probably fall on deaf ears. It's more important to appeal to their emotions.

Good luck anon.

PS: This is barely related to /biz/ and probably should go on /adv/.

>>15886603

I have been through this I want to help you anon. But you have to fucking listen to me and only me.

1. You have to be okay with letting her go.

2.Buy 2 copies of 7 principles of making a marriage work by Gottman.

3. Ask her for a chance to work it out, not because of the kids because you want it to work

4.She needs to know that you love her and that you DO NOT want this whatsoever!

5. Give her space

Here's where it gets tricky. She's making a power play. You do not win by fighting. You do not win by giving her your power. You win by being non combative. If that doesn't work glow the fuck up lose weight get a haircut and a new bitch. When she realizes you genuinely tried she will regret the fact that she is now to blame for you starting a new family.

Also that meme is childish af for someone who's gonna lose half of everything and their kids. Grow the fuck up and take charge. Your woman is in control you're obviously not a chad

This is why I'll be banging 20yo sluts till the day I die.

I would like kids but fuck women are too retarded so I will be cool wine uncle instead and leave inheritance to my nephews.

>>15886823
>she will regret
Stupid incel, women never regret because the never feel like it's their fault. Ever. They are genuises of rationalising their wrongdoings so that everyone else is to blame.

>>15886777
>You drinking alot? Drugs? If not that’s all bullshit she’s using to justify herself.

Rearly drink. A beer every once a month on a weekend. No drugs. I just have bad habits with my routine, staying up late on pc and waking up late. Sure, I could have been «better» with my kids but the way I see it, Im a good dad. I think she expects too much. I think she has this fantasy about what «dads» are supposed to be like. Im not that.

Im kinda getting angry at her right now. I dont want to tho. If this goes thru I need to be in a good relationship with her so I can see my kids when I want to. But the more I think about it, the less sense it makes. What alot of anons pointed out, the timing is shitty.

>>15886603
I hate to say this but there's a good chance she already found another father. Or maybe you're just an awful person in real life.

>>15886822
I want tips from kids on /adv/. /biz/ is my board. There are more intelligent people here then anywhere else on the board. Alltho that might not seem like it, they do lurk.

>>15886823
Im on my phone. Only somewhat «relatable» meme I had.

But yea. I dont want to lose leverage. But I do want to try. Fucked up thing is that I know too many couples that «tried» and then just prolonged the whole thing.

Op how long did you date this woman before you married?

More than 5 years? If not tough.

You get to pick up on all this shit if you date for a long time before marriage.

I agree with other posters she's either cheating, orrrrrrr being extremely emotional. It's a fucking divorce though. And people don't end shit unless societal pressure is high, they found a replacement, or you disgust them.

I'm not a man with kids but honestly just let all this go.

Get your ducks in a row for your life and your kid and minimize ever interacting with her. Because she will drive you mad

>>15886933
How old is she? Is she near or approaching 40? It could be the perimenopause kicking in. It's very common for women to initiate divorce after that age. It's the last chance they have to fuck around and take black cocks.

>>15886877
>If this goes thru I need to be in a good relationship with her so I can see my kids when I want to. But the more I think about it, the less sense it makes.

Be amicable with her, hold off saying anything, one word replies as you go through the process. Don’t give her anything. As the other anon said be none combative till you get the legal shit done. Make her worry you’ll disappear and never see the kids again, that way she’ll give you what you want. Hard to word that desu but you need to play alot of bluffing with her. Be open and straight with the kids. I get my kids whenever i want and the eldest wants to live with me permanently now, meaning I don’t have to pay child support.

>>15886603
smells like you're a beta; no insult though

>>15886777

>>15886603
>>15886608
>>15886933
>>15886877

OP, it's time to leave her. You've had your kids. You still have a business. You'll be fine.

Find some hookers and cocaine to blow ;)

>>15886603
lawyer up now.

>>15886933
I have 3 kids. If my wife tells me want to divorce, I:
1. Celebrate because it's great to be single and now I can do whatever the fuck I want.
2. Show my wife some statistics about kids who grow up without a dad:
- lower test scores
- higher incidence of drug abuse
- more likely to have teenage pregnancies
3. Then I show her studied about kids who are raised by step parents who are dozens of times more likely to abuse, rape, and murder their step kids than the biological father.

Then I tell my wife to fuck off and good luck in her life, immediately call my mistress to tell her I'm free tomorrow.

>>15886603
>bullshit reasons like she doesnt like being with me, if we continue being with each other, she will just hate me more.
whore

>>15886933
Space was enumerated in my post, ask her for a break for a month. Stay somewhere else. I'm serious get your hair cut buy a new cologne, be happy without her. "We fail as humans when we make our happiness the responsibility of someone else."

I promise you that the world is not ending. If you're truly not a piece of shit she will fucking kill herself when you're dating a younger hotter bish. It will destroy her when you rebound and you're happy where you are and who you're with. You're in a battle for peace and happiness. You're going to fucking win I promise if those are also your weapon and armor just know that she isn't your first and if she isn't your last it's her choice and you get to profit from it.

Read my last post on your last post. My woman fucking bows to me, respects me, trusts me and follows me because she knows. I love her I've always treated her with respect and she needs to know that whatever she sees in you another bish will and that you're not going to lay down and die over this shit. Bishes hate when they can't break you.

DESU she's most likely experiencing some sort of post partum something. Step up the things she wants you to but in your own way. If it is some post partum shit shell get over it. You'll be seen not as a man but the man. Learn the art of BDSM and domination. I'm serious do you not see the underlying issue is that you do not take charge.

Power vs force Dr Hawkins

>>15887054
>Celebrate because it's great to be single and now I can do whatever the fuck I want.
Married cucks do that for a year and then go back to the old ways. My dad was having fun after the divorce but then went and found old and busted single mother. Now he supports her with kid and is telling me not all women are the same. I'm embarrassed for him and dread the inevitable fallout when I will have to take care of his divorced hobo ass.

>>15887054

That's a fucking boss rolls. I love my woman but my bitch knows that if i miss the bus another comes in 15 minutes. I'll cry over you to my new bitch. She doesn't give me any shit.

You vote for trump and does your wife get all npc on politics?

>>15887167

You're supposed to get a younger hotter bitch with no children, impregnate her and let her change you and the babies diaper until you die and she collects the life insurance as a reward.

>>15886603
Sorry to hear OP. Hopefully it’s for the better if she really thinks that way, she’s a dumbass. I hate to say it but it’s likely she’s being tempted by somebody else and probably has that all lined up and has for a while.

No fault divorce was one of the most disgraceful laws ever signed into agreement

>>15886623
>if you can't convince them, then you are the idiot.
not really, many women are so extremely thick skulled, no rational detailed explanation will change anything about their stupid world view. they will just feel offended and their ego will be hurt emotionally