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>>14631144
Reality is that if you didn’t hold onto your childhood friends, you will never have really close friends as an adult. I’m sorry.

Wear tight clothes that show off your brapper

you don't, really. all your relationships are transitory.

>>14631172
this, there is no chance to find any real friends beyond 30.

if you want to have people to hang out get a hobby, common interest will work out if you are not a wierdo

>>14631144
Hobbies, work

>>14631172
Total horseshit. Literally get a job anywhere and within a few days you will have made a dozen new friends if your not a complete social retard.

t. 35yo

>>14631172
my childhood friend passed away though

>>14631144
do i look like a neurotypical to you?

>>14631223
Then you should go after the thing that killed them.

>>14631220
friends, not ppl you know

>>14631220
hatred for the manager is a potent thing

>>14631235
What if he died of cancer?

>>14631144
This is the secret to a good marriage. Marry your best friend and you'll do non-sex stuff all the time and not think twice about it. Other than that, you'll realize as you get older its difficult to find friends outside of church and marriage...everyone else is probably a business acquaintance.
I'm old enough to be your dad and I can honestly say outside my dogs, I have no friends except fwb's and I don't even want to be with any of them here on a Saturday night. Peaceful living actually.

>>14631220
Lol my last workplace had backstabbers and it was difficult trying to find out who they were heck I wasn't able to figure it out besides two people. Even then most of them were annoying eg the liberal accountant that seemed to expect youtube to not allow videos that are considered "weird" or the lady who was talking about her lesbo friends having an adopted child iirc, disgusting or my former supervisor who'd try to pretend to be friends but would exert authority sometimes when she didn't agree.

>>14631220
> dozen new friends
acquaintances*

There is no such thing as "friends" outside of elementary school. (Primary school for those of you who live in 3rd world countries)

>>14631144
Church, unironically.

>>14631265
>fwb's
you have made it, anon. congratz!

My parents kept moving cities and split up/got back together 3 times when I was a kid so I've never had any friends for more than a year or two

Did I miss out on anything?

>>14631267
Also this. Overheard a few times how when someone would retire and a person goes "We should hang out some time" only for the person retiring to tell them "We're not friends" lol only for the other person to get butthurt. Even some coworkers admitting in secret they're not friends but doing brown nosing activity. Yet when I refused to brown nose I got told it was a bad idea. Still didn't get my former supervisor a gift for "bosses day." Whose idea was it to make that a holiday anyways?

>>14631177
very much underrated answer
(dub dubs confirm, nonetheless)

>>14631312
Did you ever get to place house with a girl?

>>14631265
also underrated

>>14631337
place house?

>>14631199
Even college friends are not something many people hold on to

It's basically pre-college friends or if you had some intense experience like the military, those are the only friends that last

>>14631267
I'm not sure the concept of a friend can even really exist under a capitalist system. It's too dog eat dog. Every man for himself. To many factors like socio-economic class come into play. To have a friend there needs to be some sort of common ground it's based on. Like the view points of your friend matches your own. Then there can be a foundation to build on. But Not everyone sees eye to eye on everything so maybe acquantances are the best we can hope for. Either way human interaction is healthy and no matter what we are all going to the same place together in the end. Well.. Some of us will go to that hades place but you know what i mean.

>>14631172
Fuck, bros, I want to go back to playing Contra on NES with my buds. Being an adult is the worst thing imaginable. No wonder boomers are cruel and vindictive people.

>>14631144
Go out more. I picked up archery about 7 years ago. 3 years ago my mom mentioned that my estranged childhood friend on facebook was looking for people to try out archery with. hadn't hung out with him for more then a decade and now we're back to being best friends and doing everything together haha no homo
Also, I ended up meeting a guy from kijiji that was selling a bow and now he invites me to all these archery events and I've been forcing myself to go out and meet people. Last time I went out I ended up chatting with around 20 or so people and felt like I fit in. The dude's kinda like a father figure that actually enjoys my hobby lol

I can't really tell you what to do other then find a hobby that actually exposes you to a community.

My parents make some really good friends well into adulthood, they're 70 something and have plenty of people who met them 20-30 years ago that remember them fondly. It's all about making an impact on people's lives I guess. Stop trying to be likeable and actually connect you poser.

What's the point of having friends, girlfriend kr wife or anything, I'm not going to live past 25 anyway

May be stop being narcisistic and saying that demands are not demands but needs. If that's not the case(it is), may be you don't even need friends and you are good on your own, if you need to talk find random a girl or boy on tider go to dinner, talk and go home.

>>14631144
hobbies

>>14631220
>considers work-friends real friends

>>14631267
most friends start as acquaintances.
>>14631415
>concept of friend can't exist under capitalism
this is just wrong, and retarded, i mean fuck bruh what the shit.
>viewpoints matching
you don't need to agree with someone on everything to be friends. disagreements can be healthy between two people who respect each other, you can learn a lot from an alternative viewpoint even if your own doesn't change.
>human interaction healthy
yeah this is true. i've found that with a bit of practice you can turn acquaintances/coworkers into friends if you have enough time, but even if you don't it's nice to be on good terms with people you see everyday.

>>14631144
I go to gay clubs.

Gay guys are super friendly and very outgoing. Yes you have to lead them on a little acting like a big fag and all but you can seriously make some lifelong tight bros from it.

All right yeah they get wise to your ruse so if you really want to get a good size group of bros around you you have to give up a little. But once one of your bros has raw dog power topped you in the toilet the bond is pretty well cemented and that is a guy you can count on when you need a shoulder to cry on.

>>14631616
>thinks people can't genuinely make friends in a work environment
>probably can't make friends in any environment
>NaCl levels off the charts

>>14631177
>two dubs
>2 womps

>>14631415
>I'm not sure the concept of a friend can even really exist under a capitalist system.
where did Marx touch you?

>>14631719
>>NaCl levels off the charts
replace salt with cope. see how long you say you are tight with these people when they start fucking off. you'll pick up the slack, you're their friend ;)

>>14631144
Cokefriends, beerfriends, friends from your hobbies if you have one. Hell, I even have old people as friends. There's this one old couple at my neighborhood who keeps giving me cupcakes every weekend just because I fixed their old car when all I did was replace the radiator. Then there's this fat guy at the shooting range near the city who modded his AR 15 to be automatic while avoiding the law legally. Told me proudly about how his girlfriend took 4 inch barrell from a gun I forgot the name because I'm not good at remembering gun names. How about dogs and cats, you don't consider them as friends?

Listen up. If you want to make loads of friends become a Jehova's Witness. Also I've made a couple of life long friends from work but not from a hostile office environment. Maybe go on /soc/ and try to find some locals too.

>>14631235
>>14631247
yep it was cancer. 1 year anniversary of his passing is coming up, maybe ill throw a couple bucks towards cancer research.

>>14631802
nah i'm the one that's fucking off in a few months

>>14631144
you take the little you have and become a millionaire here

>>14631236

hardest thing is that everyone I know is poor to hang out, lives far, have girlfriend or is working. The only people partying everyday are normies.

>>14631706
This except actually doing gay shit. Gay dudes make decent friends and they usually don't give a shit when they find out you're not gay.

>>14631706
The masculine type gays are usually pretty cool. I could never see me chilling with a faggot like James Charles or any of the makeup wearing drag queens though.

>>14631172
At least half of my childhood friends are criminals or drug addicts.
Most of my post-adult friends I met through work, or because of my kids. You get to know people standing around little league practice three times a week.
Your common interests realign with different people as you get older.

>>14631144
Childhood friends, or friends you got to know in high school. It's almost impossible to make new GOOD friends that you actually want to hang with past your mid-20s. Being a wagecuck will probably get you the best chance to actually find a person you enjoy spending time with, but who wants to be a wagecuck..? Not to mention pretend to enjoy their normie humor where you have to force out a small fake laughter so they won't hate you? Not me.

>>14631144
Pick up a new hobby

>>14631706
Based and redpilled.

>>14631144
Find a men's group near you. It's a way to develop meaningful friendships as a grown up.

>>14631144
If you are a successful neet, then you probably wouldn't want to have "friends" as an adult for various reasons.

Though the best places to go are social functions, clubs, seminars...really anything related to your hobby...Go to these places and after 3-months you'll have the friends that your looking for. As long as your not a weird fuck its pretty easy

>>14631172
I wish this wasn't 99% true. It's like he say in that sunscreen song:

Get to know your parents, you never know when they'll be gone for good
Be nice to your siblings
they are the best link to your past
and the people most likely to stick with you in the future
Understand that friends come and go, but for the precious few you should hold on
Work hard to bridge the gaps in geography and lifestyle
because the older you get
the more you need the people you knew when you were young

https://youtu.be/sTJ7AzBIJoI

>>14631172

>>14633059
better quality version (and full song):
https://youtu.be/MQlJ3vOp6nI

>>14631849
You must now become an oncologist.
Avenge your friend gary.

>>14631843
But JWs don't go to heaven

>>14631415
Fuck off commie

>>14631144
You don't. We're the only people you can even try to consider being your friends. You're stuck here forever.

Why? You don't need them.

>>14631172
I think this is a falsehood

>>14631172
>Mfw this happened to me

>>14633933
>You don't. We're the only people you can even try to consider being your friends. You're stuck here forever.
This, once you are here, and don't get out in first few weeks you are here forever.

>>14631144
>friends
Lol

>/biz/
>nobody has said to buy friends with bitcoin
Absolutely pathetic, enjoy your lonely misery while i enjoy my cruise ship with two hundred loyal paid actors.

>>14633933
I'm not stuck here forever with you all. You all are stuck here forever with me.

>>14631312
Yes no maybe. I have some deep bonds with friends I've known for 20 years but Ive also known some of my closest friends for less than 10.

>>14631802
>hasn't maintained contact with work friends
Honestly /biz/ y'all work some shitty jobs if you can't hang out with coworkers, get drunk with, and call the dude you were doing CPR for 30 minutes with a raging homosex for feeling up a dead man's chest

>>14631144
Volunteer somewhere. Or get a hobby. Or become le threeper. Or work friends, they're no more shitty than 'real' friends.

>>14631220
Those are not friends

>>14631220

LOL , i'd rather fuck a hooker every night then actually meet those npc's from work.
I hate when coworkers invite me to their private shit , jesus christ. All the coworkers live around the work place but not me , i live 1 and a half hour of driving away from the shortest distance because of rent prices here being low. Why the fuck would i waste precious gas and money on meeting people i actually hate in my deep inside?

>>14631235
A bus?

>>14631144
you need to have an activity that you have in common with the person.

The reason you make friends as a kid is cause you go to school and you're stuck in a room with other people.

As an adult, just get a job or a hobby. People don't hang out with random people. They hang out with people because they are forced to. Like when they pursue their hobby.

Sometimes people also hang out with people because they think it might help them. For example, if you're a photographer, knowing other photographers is useful networking, so people will befriend you and invite you to photographer related things. They might even invite you to unrelated events just because a few photographers might be there and it's fun to talk about your hobby with other hobbyists. This also applies to industries/jobs, not just hobbies.

>>14634978
Pathetic

>>14631706
youll get the rope

I have no friends. I've been at my job for 6 months and I'm the weird loner guy now. I tried making an effort for.the first month but then I started eating alone. I pretty mich stayed silent when I went to lunch with them because I had nothing to say. It was awkward so I stopped. I was thinking of going to a crypto meetup since that's my only hobby right now.

>>14631172
Lost my childhood friends and now I get get any friends. This is not good for me.

>>14631144
Make friends at work, reconnect with old friends, frequent a sports bar or something and play pool and make friends, make friends at hobby clubs like sports clubs or reading clubs idk

How to make friends with people at work you don't know well:

Guys: Wanna go for a pint or something this weekend?
Girls: Wanna go for a coffee or something this weekend?

>>14631144
common hobby, shooting range, dog sports, mma, bjj, singing in a chor whatever

>>14631172
>The bearish argument always sounds more intelligent.

>>14636123
Can confirm bjj as a good one. The people there are really friendly and most are smart too.
>Picking a sport that won't cause cte and requires intelligence to progress in over raw strength

Why are people so excited for friends? I really have no interest in meeting people since I had a kid. I couldn't give a shit about other parents comparing things their kids did or didn't do.

Join BRAPPER telegram

>>14631144
fuck, I miss hanging out with my friends all days. Now I'm working most of the time

>>14634978
why do you think you are better then your coworkers? You all have hopes and dreams, and for now you are in the same place in life, why hate?

And if you think you have it bad with commute, and this is the reason you are so salty, i spend 2 hours 10 mins in one direction, and i don't have a car.

>>14631144
Woo them with robust crypto portfolios. The rest will fall into place

>>14631172
mfw I kept none of my childhood friends

>>14636106
My problem is that my whole workplace consists of boomers. Like fuck I'm 22 and everyone is at least 30+

Friends arent real, when you find a gf friends just look like an abstraction

>>14632874
Wtf is a men's group? Sounds kinda gay