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Okay /biz/, I usually browse /fit/ and some other boards and never post here but I need some advice/help.

I will try to keep this short, although it will probably be a long story. I am well off and live in Sweden. My dad didn't grow up in poverty but had a hard time in other ways and made his own fortune. He lived with his mom and sister and apparently even though my grandmother held a pretty well paying job she gambled or drank money away, so he helped around a lot at home economically and had to work to support himself (and his mother in a way) while going through school.

Now to my situation. I'm 23 years old and I'm the middle child of out three brothers and we are all studying to be engineers. My older brother has finished school. My dad pretty much spoils all of us in different ways, however he doesn't do it without demands. For example he is currently helping me with an allowance I recieve once a month as long as I am managing school. Furthermore, living under his roof we are expected to clean, cook food and so on.

I've grown up with friends who are less fortunate and don't have or haven't always had pocket money, which my dad has made sure I've had. I would consider myself generous since I try to share what I have with my friends (in reasonable ways) and I never expect/nag/ask for things from my dad. I always try to pay with my own money for stuff that would be solely mine, such as clothes and things I would use exclusively. I have access to a family car which I don't pay the gas for, instead it's expected of me to pick up my brothers, go grocery shopping and similar stuff.


cont. 1/2.

>tl;dr: I live off my dad and feel bad about all the shit I recieve and want to earn the money I recive or my own money.

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>>1117638

2/2

I've brought up this fact to my dad that I think he spoils us and I don't like it because it makes me feel worthless. Whenever I do, he tries to justify it for me that I'm in school full time (actually I am on a break year between bachelor and master's degree due to I have some failed exams) or that I "earn" the money some sort of other way. For example we have renovated the facade and roof of the house and he sees that as summer work and pays me for it, quiet handsomely as you might guess. Other than this I also have a bank account with hefty savings from my dad.

There are more examples but I think you get the picture. I should add that I'm suffering from some sort of depression/trauma/inferiority complex probably originating from my parent's divorce which was quite rough and long, I've started dealing with this going to a shrink. So as I said, I try not to be spoilt and "earn" the allowance I recieve. However I can't get this fact out of my head that I am a spoilt piece of shit and I just feel worhtless knowing this, that I get things without working for them.

I consider myself incredibly lucky and I am grateful for what my dad does for me, but it doesn't change the way I feel about myself and I want to change. What should I do to earn my own money or make myself worhty of what I'm recieving from my dad? I know school should be the focus for me, but I have friends who manage school while making their own money.

>> No.1117641

>>1117639
You whinging like a little bitch about inherited money is the most spoiled thing about this post. The world isn't fair, and hard work doesn't "pay off", so get your silly notion of earning money out of your system and play with the cards you are dealt.

>> No.1117642

Whenever he pays you, put on a savings account.

Live off your own wages.

At some point when you have significant savings, invest (be it simply buying a flat and renting it out).

>> No.1117644

>>1117639
>>1117638
>23
>pocket money
>feel worthless

I don't know, maybe get a fucking job then? Remind yourself you're 23 and you live on Earth in 2016, not Imaginationland, so you owe it to yourself to get involved with the economy.

You just want to be a regular functioning human in society. So go fucking do it. Tell your father he is sheltering you to the point you're becoming completely inept and useless and you're going to go be a real man. Do not be stopped.

>> No.1117646

>>1117641
OP, this is a troll.

>> No.1117648

BUY ETHERUM

>> No.1117649

>>1117642
I decided to do this today. I am not going to decline his money but I want to be content in that I can make do on my own.

>>1117644
Where do I start by involving myself in the economy? Like gaining an understanding of how money works.
At the moment I am studying for an exam I have in about a month, but after that I will be free until I start my master's degree in the fall, during this time I intend to start working or making myself useful at home in some other way.

>> No.1117663

>>1117649
Get a job and you'll instantly be involved with the economy.

>> No.1117704

>>1117638
you are 23 little nigger.
either get a job or shut the fuck up accept the money and finish school.
What a retard,no offense.

>> No.1117711

>>1117663
Okay, I will try to get a job.

>>1117704
I do accept the money but I want to "earn" it. Or at least feel that I am somewhat entitled to them and not just by studying.
And none taken, I know this is a petty problem.