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>>5858415
>not being a hardened loner

I used to be ashamed to be friendless after a period when I had health problems during my early 20s, I thought I should have been a terrible friend for people to not even contact me while I went through some shit, then I began to be angry against them.

I have beaten myself a lot on this until I realized these friendships were not based on bad foundations, they were just superficial and the result of me trying to "fit in" too hard despite having a natural inclinaison to be alone and happy with it.

The other thing is that "friendship" is a meme pushed hard everywhere these days (notably in fiction), since failed families are legion and rising at rapid rate the trend is to make you believe you can cope the lack of family cell with a support group made of friends.
In consequence people feel pressured to have this "circle of friends" who are always together and live great or little adventures just like they see on TV (see the number of sitcoms or anime built on this trope), this leads to a lot of people hanging with each others as a social statement but without creating real bonds.